INTJ Weaknesses

In today's video I discuss some of the common struggle areas INTJs are likely to face in life.

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[zuzannatabakiernik]

my intj weakness is not knowing wheather I'm great or awful.

[Twelly]

Here's another one: romantic obliviousness

[syedmazharhasan]

INTJ here. I would like to add some more points:

1) Being impatient in general, especially when you are waiting for something to happen.
2) Oblivious in terms of romance and relationships.
3) Being a bit too brutally honest and upsetting other people who are a bit more emotional types.
4) Being to hard on your own self, and forcing yourself into a mould/standard that is set by your own mind.
5) Not being able to improvise in the face of chaos and multi task at the same time.

[kjellman]

I can appreciate work but not compliments.
I generally don't say "Thank you" when someone gives me praise.

[patriciaeddishaw]

79 year old intj female. The attention to detail piece is very real. Prior to retirement I was an IT operations manager which was a good fit. I had staff under me who could handle all the detail work and I could primarily focus on the more strategic issues. I could get down into the details when necessary to understand a technical problem. But I also realized that if I stayed down in the weeds for too long I would lose my higher level perspective. So I learned to be conscious of what state I was operating in and then I could manage it pretty effectively. In terms of the day-to-day details of living, I simply automate as much as I possibly can. I can handle necessary detail work online better than physical paperwork.

[Skeptigal]

Wow; insightful! Another "barely graduated high school, then straight As in college once I was personally motivated to go" INTJ here. I, too, have great (almost superhuman) drive to accomplish things that are meaningful to me, but find it almost impossible to do anything that isn't. That's a problem!

[tehufn]

"Day to day sensory things." Yes. I swear I will run out of teeth by the time I'm thirty.

[Head.s]

There’s another one: laziness and complete detachment from the real world, though I find it awesome to drift away into my world, there are (unfortunately) consequences for my daydreaming😭, I wish there would be a job where I can daydream. (I think I am an INTJ, though I sometimes question it)
Edit: If there was a way to always being able to daydream without consequences, life would be much easier (and more amazing as you reach the limits of your imagination)

[SomeNerd]

As an INFJ (the only other type that shares the INTJ's repressed Se) I can 100% relate to how incredibly tedious and difficult it can be to take care of all of my day-to-day physical needs. Getting enough/consistent sleep, maintaining an exercise routine, walking my dog, managing my diet and mealtimes, taking the time for yoga/stretching and meditation, and lastly journaling. All of these things are essential to me basically not falling into depression regularly, and it is very, VERY easy for me to miss or lose track of these things. It's probably the single greatest annoyance in my life.

The collective time it takes for me to manage these things seems astronomical to me. I have to sleep for 9 or 9.5 hours to feel rested. Then you add on everything else and it literally takes like 60-65% of the time I'm alive just to take care of my body & mind. I'm not even taking into account time for work, hygiene, errands, social gatherings, fun time, etc. It honestly amazes me how some people find the time and energy to do these tedious things and also work a full time job, take care of children, do chores, errands, etc.

I feel like a Sim that has 30+ Basic Need bars to maintain instead of 8, and roughly half of them are hidden from me at random on any given day, and if any one of them falls below a certain threshold I become irritable, depressed, lethargic, etc. This happens all of the time because I often have no idea what it is that my body needs at any given time. It's extremely frustrating.

I mean, uuuuh, it's a lot of fun haha! *happy crying face.* Stay strong my fellow INxJs - it's a real bitch out there haha.

[skipdavis]

i'm a 58 y/o intj, and i 've been in technical (electronic engineering) sales my whole career. i'm good at technical details, but not clerical, so i make sure i surround myself with ppl who are good at that, and i listen to them. i get help when i need it, but sales is a team sport, so as long as i'm working in a quiet environment without a lot of external stimulation, i'm good. and i also shower my colleagues that fill in my gaps with praise! they deserve it!

[rypoelk]

You guys can be so cute. Any INTJ who can admit weakness is healthier than a lot of other toxic INTJs. Good for you on introspection and being vulnerable. Please do it more you other INTJs!!! -an ENFP

[careen]

It's really refreshing to listen to someone addressing INTJ issues without stereotyping them. This is accurate and relatable. For example, on General bodily maintenance, I noticed I struggle with my nails. They are likely to go unkept without my notice.

[catherinerhea]

Bodily functions!!! I get agitated when I'm in the middle of something & my body FORCES me to stop... & eat or go to the bathroom!!! Sleep even frustrates me because I'm so focused... If I could find a way to "split" my "human bodily requirements" off into a "clone" who's entire existence centered in maintaining those pesky details, a huge percentage of my aggravation would be eliminated!!!

While working on a flight biological project at NASA KENNEDY in 1987, they put me in charge of managing the chemistry for the unit BECAUSE my attention to those precise values was key to the overall success: I think IF those "details" are the paramount pivot, INTJ(me!!!) has zero problem tracking multiple minute aspects in tandem, as well as their interrelated causal-effect ratios... In true fashion, IF I see the interconnected importance, it does not escape my scrutiny.💜

[mappsanchez]

This video is great! The INTJs I've encountered tend to get very defensive when people talk about their weaknesses. So I really appreciate your humility. :-)

[vicb]

I appreciate people, even if they don't do perfect, but if I see they do their best I still tell the person that I appreciated their help, work and time.

[shad]

Exactly mate these are my life problems and I really sometimes want to work on it but I get back to what I always do.

[shaibalsheikh]

We need to interact more with people. Because as I age, I find many of them have such great ideas that can fill the holes in this forest. Specific people, but we do need to increase average interaction level.

[eenahdura]

Energy supply seems to be minimal for me. For example, I have a hard time summoning the energy to start anything or put up the effort to be genuinely interested in other people's story even though I force myself.

[sarahperez]

Thanks so much for these videos! I'm an INFP and my teenage son is an INTJ. Your videos have really helped me to better understand him and has improved our relationship too 😃

[ZahdShah]

The INTJ weakness you mentioned that resonate with me the most are the hedonism sensory abuse, selective focus, and improving fitness.
I can sometimes just binge things that give dopamine and that gives me an addictive personality.
I never really applied myself in school cos I didn't know what I wanted to be as an adult; at 21 I decided I want to study medicine and now my focus is laser-like to make this happen.
I am underweight. Fitness and health are important to me, I practice kickboxing, lift weights and do body weight exercises, I used to skateboard but I've outgrown it. I like competitive sport but I'm not very good at it compared to my friends who love it and practised since they could walk. The most difficult part of my fitness regime is nutrition, I often under eat which puts me at a calorie deficit. I have to consciously make an effort every hour of the day to implement healthy nutrition into my lifestyle. I've always struggled with self-discipline; this too requires conscious effort to manage.