BoJack Horseman season 6 episode 10 Good Damages

[jessicavictoriacarrillo]

It helps knowing that Princess Carolyn came from a dysfunctional family, especially with a mother who put her down and faulted her for ever wanting and working for better

[fuzzbrain]

Princess Carolyn's body language is exactly what Dianne needed. She moves towards her, not away, even though Dianne is getting more and more aggressive. She shows support and she shows she's not scared to deal with how raw Dianne and her emotions are. Takes guts, and is honestly one of the huge reasons PC is the true hero of the show

[AccordingToWillow]

What Diane doesn't realize is that books and other media about damage and trauma isn't what made her feel less alone growing up. It was the corny happy family on Horsin' Around.

[The-biry]

"what was it all for?" I think anyone who's had a traumatic childhood can relate to it. It's so devastating when you realise there was no point because "maybe this made me special" is a coping mechanism.

[kap]

I think this is an important message of not fetishizing your trauma. Misery doesn't build character nor is it a trial to overcome.

[nathanseper]

This is why Bojack is good: while it isn't afraid to show the harsh realities of live, it avoid glorifying pain and suffering. Diane learns that more pain won't cure her trauma, but moving past it and doing something that fills her with joy.

[snowy]

“All this bad stuff that happened has to mean I’ll be happy in the end” can be such a punch in the gut when nothing works out in the end. Just because you suffered doesn’t automatically guarantee a happy future, so sometimes we fetishize our trauma in order to get that feeling. Like it was worth it. But at the end of the day: it just hurt.

[B-rw]

That scene just hits way too close to home. Damn.

[Herumbra]

I think the most interesting thing about PC is that, differently than the other characters, she often knows what she wants and have a plan. While other people see this as being pushy, here's great example of how sometimes it is helpful. It was a beautiful bonding moment for Diane and PC 🥰

[slashbash]

I love how Diane sees that she CAN make a difference with her writing, even if she's not the next Sylvia Plath or bell hooks. That giving people escapism is vital, and that even a strong, masculine teenage boy like Sonny can enjoy it.

[SirEriol]

I like how Diane subtly acknowledges that all the times Princess Carolyn pushed her to do something she didn't want, she knew, deep down, that she was helping her, by challenging her with good opportunities that eventually boosted her upwards.

[palomasaudios]

This episode really hit home. Currently I am just like Diane, at this point I don't even know who I am and was I supposed to be happy?

[fionna_cool_girl]

I definitely sympathize with this but instead as an artist. During my last year of college I was preparing for my final project to be about my experience with being groomed online by a pedophile who was 7 years older than me when I was 13. I made a few sketches and a painting but it felt like I wasn't putting my emotions into it or it never felt good enough. I started avoiding the project altogether, even missing classes for weeks. Thankfully my professor understood what I was going through and told me to just paint what I want. Instead of painting something that made me relive the pain over and over again thinking back to what happened to me, I decided to paint roses, nature, a dragon ball, a snake with cats, and other things. It felt good to just paint and I realized why I loved painting. It was to escape the pain I feel and find joy in something that no one can take away from me. I passed the class with a B and realized that art should make me happy, not stressed. If people can channel their trauma into art, I think that's amazing! But I love seeing artists like me that have baggage and decide to use art as escapism.

[wintervear]

I used to try to write a story based on my awful life experiences so people could feel related to it and make them feel better. So I totally understand her. The need to take something good of the trauma and the pain. Maybe one day I might do it, maybe I won’t, but this show helped me realize that I’m not the trauma and the pain.

[jacklesc]

I like to think The book has some found family aspects in it. Like maybe the girl is at the mall all the time because she doesn’t really like going home. A janitor or someone at mall security notices the kid running around, doing what she does, and makes sure to keep an eye out for her to make sure she doesn’t get into trouble. Buys her food once in awhile- maybe becomes a nice side character.

Horsin Around gave Diane a home. And I think Dianes gonna give other kids homes too.

[arianna]

i vividly remember when i first watched this scene. i was 15, and it was the first time in my life that i truly felt heard. three years later and it still is. i don’t want to be great anymore, i don’t want my life to amount to something special, i just want to find someone who finally hears me, and then i’ll forget ever feeling like this. is that too much to ask for?

[hannahdancy]

What i love about that scene is how much books like "the girl detective" book really shaped my, and other peoples', childhoods. It made them feel less alone.

[jessicatoussaint]

So sweet, and so relatable as someone with trauma. I would try to write stories connected to my trauma, but forcing it doesn't make me happy. I don't have use my trauma as a means to justify my pain. My pain, my trauma, does not define me. The other aspects of myself do. I have found that when I write stories where I am not focused on my pain, I am happy. Not to say that bits of my life doesn't slip in. But I feel it should be natural. Having a traumatic childhood sucks. Literally. But it's not who I am. It's a building block into the person I am today, but I so much more than my damage.

[LettaLeeJoy]

This scene is, for me, one of the most powerful out of the entire series. It really encapsulates the whole moral I personally take from Bojack. That yes, life is full of pain and damage and bad decisions, and no none of it is for anything or secretly good. But that it doesn't need to define you, and that despite it all you can move forward and make something better if you choose to. That you can break away from the cycles and expectations that entrap you and make you miserable if you decide to. That it's worth it to write that other book. That's what I take from it anyway, both this scene and the show as a whole.

[Cksow]

One this scene only and Diane’s voice break hits hard like a train