Understanding your core beliefs

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[prodogey]

"You fell in love with the person they pretended to be. The person they were pretending to be was you." ❤

[lindabb]

My core belief when I entered into a narcissistic relationship was everybody can learn, grow and have their own special talent. Now I know some people are beyond help.

[devidaughter]

"the narcissistic relationship is in essence, a big mirror for all of your negative core beliefs" (6:40) my last narcissistic relationships certainly highlighted for me the core beliefs I was carrying, such as "its my job to take care of others"; "my needs aren't important"; "I'm worthy only as long as I am helping others". . . and, deeper still: "I am flawed, there is something wrong with me, so I must compensate for my 'defects'' in order to be 'acceptable". now that I'm getting in touch with my core shame, I am seeing how it has been driving every aspect of my life!

[rubycubez]

I feel one of my core beliefs is people will usually test your boundaries to see how far they can go.

[dr.shelter]

I really admire your self-disclosure about your own core beliefs. It allows the rest of us to also get vulnerable with ourselves and truly examine our core beliefs whether good or bad. Thank you!

[michelejohnson]

I just learned from my daughter that I seem to have a subconscious need to suffer in order to move forward, or get a good thing. I am grateful she shared this with me. I obviously have a giant brick wall in front of me and I am realizing those bricks are not external.

[annikamin]

Damned if you are positive, damned if you are negative. I think it’s a key point in realizing that we aren’t to blame for getting in these relationships.

[dhanyaslifeventure]

Believe your body, when you are in a toxic relationship, the body communicates in the very beginning.A sinking feeling, heart beats, breathing and more.Please don't gaslight yourself thinking it's normal to have odds in a relationship, abuse isn't normal.Believe in yourself! Believe in what is visible.

[marisadaniela]

Shouting into the void with this comment because I'm so, so weary. Nothing to add, just grateful for this community ❤
I'm learning so much and I feel hopeful for my future because I know I have the power to change

[joyblundon]

"drifting in to unhealthy places" ; "doing the core work every year"; Dr. Ramani, you may never know how many people you're helping. You have helped me immensely in my relationships with others but more importantly, you have helped me with my relationship with myself. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!

[monicarai]

I'm always silently watching all your videos.

[Ash-hbcj]

Shutting out all the noise from those people past and present that reinforce/ amplify my negative core beliefs has helped. I’m slowly working to change “they think it therefore it’s true” into “ just cause that’s their opinion don’t make it so”. And really consider the source when it comes to those ppl(Understand their place in my life). I’ve just gotta be good with myself, so any perceived slight isn’t the end of the world. Minor cracks isn’t really the issue(some ppl are just gonna be jerks), it’s my armor that I need to work on.

[Gwen]

My elderly mother reminds me daily and reinforces those negative core beliefs she instilled while I try to support her in her final years.

[lindabell]

One of my core beliefs is that every word and deed I do in this life matters. Even after the lifelong suffering from narcissistic abuse, I can still make goodness a priority. In fact it is more important than ever now. I learned as a very young child what not to do, how not to treat people.

[peterknyk]

I believe that the specific reason we are on this earth is to develop our spiritual body and to evolve spiritually! Trying to do this with a narcissist as your spiritual journey partner is extraordinarily difficult and that is why we must let go of the narcissist if we wish to evolve in a spiritual way. Thank you Dr. Ramani!

[believebecome]

4:45 "better the devil you know than the devil you don't know" type of situation.

[islandia]

Thanks for putting yourself out there despite your core beliefs, Dr. Ramani. We are grateful for your honest approach in a world filled with rose coloured glasses. 🙏💙🌿

[barbaradonithan]

...psychological riptide.... what a perfect description! Thank you for your life-changing work, Dr. Ramani!

[shelleyanne]

I THOUGHT I had healthy core beliefs until I met my narc ex. They say our best teachers are the ones who have broken our hearts. Well, this narc certainly made me aware of the toxic cycle I had been living for the past 10 or 15 years! It shook my core. That relationship made me fall to ground zero..I needed to start over. And I did. It's been a year and a half since, and I'm still working through stuff while single. Now, I can see my core issues with 20/20 vision. The only worry I had after I left him was that I'd become a cynic about relationships and men. That of course, will be tested in my next relationship. Don't expect to be healed all at once. It's a process whether you're single or in a new relationship. Be patient and forgiving with yourself.

[anneniquette]

Dr.Ramini, you are Incredible! I love that you are transparent about your own doubts, but, believe me, You are making the biggest difference in Sooo many lives. You are greatly admired 🤗