How To SAFELY Expose A Narcissist

In this video, I share 3 simple steps to protect ourselves against narcissistic colleagues (and other narcissists) and help them expose themselves by the way they act. Dealing with a narcissistic colleague can be a nightmare. As the saying goes, it just takes one cockroach to spoil the entire fruit bowl.

But they'll try to manipulate you. And your colleagues. And your boss.

So how do you expose them without coming across as the problem?

How do you prevent the narcissistic colleague from manipulating your manager?

What can we learn from this that is applicable to most situations with narcissists?

Of course, before doing anything with a narcissist, assess the risks you run and make sure you limit potential damage. Do not expect them to play fair, do not argue with them, simply highlight toxic behaviours and let others reach their own conclusions.

Index:
00:00 Introduction
00:32 Situation
02:10 1. Stop Feeding the Monster
04:31 2. Document Everything
07:09 3. Escalate Strategically

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[annekenney]

❤️ Thank you, Frederik! I wrote down your quote, "Any interaction that elicits guilt, inadequacy, or shame is a symptom of manipulation occurring...Healthy people don't try to make people feel guilty. Healthy people have responsible interactions."

[ginajohnson]

Thank you for this! I'm divorcing a narcissist and have used many of these techniques. I will admit that my documentation has not been as systematic as was needed. I've missed many opportunities, but things are not finalized and there is still plenty of time for each of us to display our true colors.

I will start over with the documentation, doing better this time.

Thank you for your guidance. Thank you for your calm demeanor and peaceful voice.

There are a handful of people I have never met to whom I literally owe my life and sanity to. I am grateful to you and your calm, logical, systematic approach to what can only be described as purely chaotic relationships.

God's blessings to you, Frederik!

[anitaaustralia]

Wow. Most wonderful videos Ive found. I feel such relief hearing someone articulate this so succinctly 🙏

[BeyondClaire]

Great video! I was able to take this, especially your mentioning of team dynamic and those who can’t handle frustration. I can see the financial team I work with in this. Thank you!

[jasonroman]

Wow. That is deep. I deel with that every day of my life. I have to live like a rock your telling me. I don't know if I can do that.

[emmr]

I found this the most helpful of your videos to date. Excellent. Thank you.

[mariaperez]

What a great and practical video, I love your ‘models’ that can be applied to any situation/ toxic person. I’ve recommended a few of your videos to clients and friends, and I know a few people who’d benefit from this one! 🙊

[ir]

I wish I has seen this 13 years ago. I was a new young HR manager in an engineering company. I supported the promotion of a 50 something female "home grown"- she hated me - even though I'd always been supportive due to the lack of female representation. Any call with her I felt like I'd been in the ring with Tyson. Another angle to her problem would be- Anna has a contract - it will probably reference Ben's position as her straight reporting line. She has been made aware of an agreement but that's it and not within her scope (currently). Potentially she could begin her grey rock with an email to Ben and HR - cc Anna - just to let you know Anna called today to enquire about arrangements regarding her return. I'll leave it with you. Then it's a grey rock - pass the parcel of shit as she has passed the buck//grief legitimately. Also her employer should have policies regarding bullying and harassment so good to follow whatever their wording/process. Easier said than done though - some people bring a chill to the air and slime you with every interaction. I bet its a lot easier for Clara having a clear strategy. I've never seen anyone walk through a real-life issue and solution - its very helpful- sounds like she got a grip of the situation really well - hope it lasts when A returns 🤩