Kids and Destructive Behavior

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Ryan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified School Social Worker, and father to a son with ADHD & learning differences. ADHD Dude is based in Tucson, Arizona.

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[VeliThaDon]

I’m really concerned about my 15 year old developing conduct disorder. He has been breaking things for the last year, each time because he was given a consequence for something he did. After damaging and ripping out drywall and having his PS5 taken from the house his uncle, within 5 minutes he asked if he could have an Xbox. I’ve also seen this behavior other times when he’s destroyed property.

[kennyharper]

Thank you so much for all your videos and work with this! I'm a father with ADHD and at least 3 of my boys have it also. Literally a WWE Fatal 4-way match with a 17, 15, and the scariest one...the 6 yr old😂
We are doing better by implementing your advice, and hope to possibly work with you soon.
( Sidenote my son, said what if the parent is the one breaking Xboxes to get their kids to comply😔)

[meloneyashworth]

What if the child starts being violent towards guardians?

[GabyB-bz]

This makes so much sense!!! Thank you!! You are so knowledgeable and helpful!

[lookingglasstheresa]

Overall I like this approach. Not giving attention, and putting out in the open❤

One critical thought- Guilt and shame are different. Constructive guilt seems more accurate. I agree someone should feel guilty for mistreating someone, but they shouldn't feel like they are a bad person for making a poor choice(shame). Might just be all the Brene Brown I've consumed.

[wairimuriunga]

What about a kid who wakes up in the morning and starts cutting with a knife or any sharp objects cables, shoes, breaks spectacles and breaks phone screens...flashes items in the toilet

[ChristianConstitutionalist]

What Worked for My "Tyrannical" Behavior as a Child Was:

1) School Bus Drivers Threatening to Call the Cops (Police).

2) My Sister Pretending to be on the Phone with the Cops.

[davidsworld]

What about self-harm rather than property destruction?

[francestapia]

Would your program be suitable for a 3 year old ? We just ended OT but continue to need help.
When my daughter doesn’t get her way and I try to ignore her negative behavior and walk away to do something else, she cries so hard she holds her breath and passes out, it’s extremely scary.

[Dodeals]

Some Theripist say it’s fine to call the police on the child.

[jovondaholmes]

Honey my son don't care if u ignore the behavior he will just keep destroying things. He is also non verbal so this creates more irritating for him.