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[coleandcharisma]

Thanks for watching everyone! We have appreciated all the support from you all this past year. Friendly reminder: we are not looking for advice, just a simple update. We are at peace with our decision to stop fertility treatments. Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas! ❤

[lynn]

As an adoptee, thank you for recognizing that adoption is not the consolation prize with infertility. We are not back up plans. We are human beings. My adoptive moth3 should have never been a mom. Ever. But she had money, so an adoption agency gave her two babies. Adoption is born in trauma, it CAN be a beautiful thing, but it is the beauty made from ashes. And parents need to understand they are going into a very different journey than getting pregnant. Both can be amazing and beautiful - but they are two separate journeys.

[kitkat]

My husband and I have been together for 13 years. (We got married when I was 23, he was 27) we struggled with getting pregnant our entire marriage, and always chalked it up to me having pcos and irregular cycles, often times not ovulating. We’ve spoken with fertility specialists twice, and both times I chickened out because of the emotional investment and all the costs involved. I had a fibroid and a polyp removed in 2021 and we had a chemical pregnancy 2 months later.
After all this time together, we both pretty much got into this mindset of, “if it’s going to happen, it will happen, and if it doesn’t, we will be ok” and we just stopped preventing and just let life happen
Much to our surprise it’s the end of 2023 and we are 17 weeks pregnant with our son. (I’m 36 now, he’s 40)
Hoping and praying for you guys.

[pinkrose]

My friend and her husband had fertility issues for years and chose to adopt a baby boy. When he was four months old they found out they were expecting …twins. So fast forward a few months and they went from childless, to a boy and twin girls all right around a year old. So rest up! You never know what the future holds! 🙂

[zoilavanalstine]

My husband and l tried for 13 years naturally. We were told we would never be able to have a child. But my husband said if it's God's will it will happen. And when we resigned ourselves. We got pregnant with twin girls. I was 35 and my husband was 36 . Hang in there miracle do happen. Praying for you.❤

[FreshStartWithJoy]

I remember when I was trying to get pregnant. It was such a tough road. Many years and heartache later, I discovered I had autoimmune disease and my body was treating my babies like an invader. I got treatment and finally carried my son all the way through term. I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that I’m praying for you to have your hearts desire. ❤

[Mike-sjsi]

It's true, one of the biggest lessons I've learned in my adult life is whenever someone tells you to JUST do something, that person has NO idea what they're talking about!

[classical]

"Adoption shouldn't be a solution to infertility" such a powerful statement. Thank you for saying that! Sending love and positive vibes throughout your journey becoming parents <3

[byrw]

My mother and father were married ten long years thinking that they would never have any children. Then, what do you know right out of the blue, I showed up. And, ... 5 years later, my sister! For our parents it was torturous I am sure. My father was a doctor and there was nothing he could do. This was way back there when there was no IVF and all of that. But, I can tell you this. My sister and I have benefited beyond belief just from having parents who had experienced a good amount of life and didn't have any real pressures on them. They had their feet on the ground and knew what was important. They raised us in a Christian home with lots of love and somehow they managed not to spoil us. My sister and I talk very often about how blessed we have been to have had older, settled parents. You never know what's just around the corner or what God's plan is for you. Bless you both!

[WISDOMSTRENGTHDISCIPLINE]

I broke my neck in 1979, i was 17. Wow it is been 45 years ago. I still have moments when i can't help but wonder what my life would have been without my injury. Looking back on all that i have accomplished since my injury and all the wonderful moments i have experienced I find it hard to believe that i could have done more even though had to do it with a body that made everything more difficult. I too was an athlete and i miss waxing my buddies on the basketball floor or running down a beach in my bare feet in the sand. Ultimately i have learned these are not the experiences that define us. They simply enhance this life experience.
Your bravery and courage is off the charts. You have made me a little ashamed of myself because i could never do what you do. I could never film my struggles and share it with the world. In fact i never talk about it except with my closes friends. When you are in your 60's and you are looking back on your life and your babies have babies and you think about all the wonderful things you have experienced and accomplished in your life you will see that these things you mourn over Ultimately just were not that important. You will be an amazing father and a wonderful example of what a real man really is. You will pass your courage and strength to your children and they too will be amazing. I wish i could meet them. YOU ARE A MONSTER MY FRIEND YOU ARE HUGE AND YOUR INJURY WILL NEVER CHANGE THAT. BE BLESSED !! Charisma you are a beautiful and charming he is lucky to have you. my girl is a planner as well it is a wonderful quality..

[ShugaAnnSpyce]

I will tell you that in my 20s I felt "the need" to have a child but now that im almost 40, I am truly content and happy being child free. So don't feel bad if it never happens for you.

[mirandamay]

We probably tried for a year naturally, before we became pregnant. It was a tough year because all my siblings were either giving birth or announcing their pregnancy. That was actually very hard for me. When our baby was finally born, he was our world. Six weeks later, our world was shattered...he was diagnosed with a rare medical condition, called neurofibromatosis. On an intelligence test, our boy was in the 95th percentile. He was one of a kind. My one sister said that he responded differently than other children to discipline so as a mother, I should not consider myself on the same page as other mothers trying to figure out discipline issues. He proudly finished school with not one discipline issue against his name. His other aunt said, he just got on with life regardless of the hardships that neurofibromatosis brought his way...taking on one challenge after the other...never giving up. That was his motto...it was in the form of a fridge magnet. Twenty years later, about a month before his 21st birthday, our Heavenly Father called him home after a short battle with cancer. A day before his passing, he determinedly still tried to do things that were almost impossible for him to do. When I encouraged him to take my help, he said that he didn't come this far to give up now. Always being the one who would keep everyone on the straight and narrow path, his cousin said at his memorial service that he had wisdom beyond his years. When we were all coming to terms with a cancer diagnosis, he said that his cancer was actually a blessing in disguise. If God would decide not to heal him, he would have time to prepare himself for eternity. He fought with so much faith, courage and hope. His concerns were always for the family, especially his grandparents when he received bad news...even being concerned for the oncologist who had to deliver such bad news to him. I follow your story, because so much reminds me of my boy...like him, YOU INSPIRE!

I was unexpectedly diagnosed with cancer early this year. 2023 Has not been a good year. My boy had such peace in his eyes just before he shut his eyes for the last time. Since that moment, I experienced that peace that the world just cannot give...and it's carrying me through now. Peace, is my wish to you in this time of grief. Peace changes everything! 💙💚💙💚 Stefan's Mama, 4ever21.

[darksarcasm]

Please don’t allow infertility to damage your love for each other-y’all’s relationship tops everything.

[Breakfastfordinner]

Im almost 35 with no children for a few different reasons buy my sister has 3 kids. Being an auntie is absolutely incredible ❤ I'm so excited for you guys to see your baby niece! Enjoy the holidays with your family! 🫶

[SgtEnigma]

Charimsa: "Trying naturally is fun"
Cole: "That's true"
I felt that 🤣

[LauraMalvoyante]

I fell pregnant on a break after 6 years of infertility. I think the mental load of trying really affects the process of carrying and maintaining a pregnancy. You guys will get there on your own timeline and focusing on yourselves is so important.

[ourh]

Babies love to be accidents (surprises). This is what I told my son and his wife. They tried for almost 6 years basically gave up and boom💥 . Now here we are 3 years later and not only do they have boom, they have bang and pow was born 7 days ago. Great Luck to all of you out there on your fertility journey .

[lexiandjared]

What a mature conversation on such a hard subject for people. Meanwhile still respecting your own privacy. Well done and such respectful decisions. Thank you for sharing

[natalielloyd]

Proud survivor of 6 years of infertility over here. You guys are doing FANTASTIC. Just 10/10 infertilitying (i know thats not a word lol). Wish i could send actual strength over to you both ❤

[kimwashingtonofficial]

Charisma.. I totally agree with you about a person’s “why” for adopting. That’s good. I’m praying for you and Cole!!!🙏🏾❤️