Why is it never the handsome guys that approach me?

Hey this Devin Schirm, I'm a dating consultant. I guide single people through the dating scene to get exactly what they're looking for.

[a.f.s.]

Happens all the time at the gym. The older dudes and the weird dudes are always striking up conversations with the finest women there! Always.

[adsffdaaf]

Learning how to be humble is really what we all need to form connections with other people

[stevec]

Handsome guys don't have to chase attractive women. They chase them.

[patoteto]

I am a gay 28 year old man and growing up I was always grew up people complementing my looks. So I never had issues with my self steme until I started approaching dating age. Only old, ugly, or crackheads hit me up. I always find my self ignored by cute guys or guys that I find cute

[tweeze]

Holy crap ur right about the identity part. That explains why I see my life through the lenses of my looks, very obsessed with it and if I get rejected I just think it's my looks

[jerryesque]

Basically, attractive people are in a minority group that is totally misunderstood completely. The majority is will always be unattractive, just the way it is. That also means, the majority determines what is unfair and what is real because there are way more numbers of them everywhere. Attractive people will never make a move, the only way they will is if they felt unattractive at some point in there life. The only time they will make a move is for quality and honesty, its there way because they have " I love you" atleast 20 times in there life but don't know who really means it. Honesty or truth is a big factor for them at that point. It's also not the most important thing in the world for them. Patience and privacy is also a big thing for them also. They most definitely have to be careful. If you're brutally honest with yourself, and they seem to hint that they like you. They most definitely like you.

[jasminealexia]

This has been the BEST explanation for this phenomenon I’ve ever seen. The only time I was able to have a handsome boyfriend is when I initiated contact 😅😓 I am constantly getting hit on by men I’m not interested in

[apriladams]

I’ve always told guys no cause I’m a married woman, its not cause of your looks, if your ego gets hurt then sorry me being married means I’m off the market.

[TheSunshinefee]

handsome men have options and they will only approach beautiful women

[J-in-Japan]

Thanks for this explanation! The phenomena does do damage to a woman’s self esteem.

Ironically I’m in a country that’s probably 70% attractive people, Japan, and overall it seems like the men don’t do much approaching, especially to foreign women. Exoticism in foreigners don’t play a role here, because the locals are attractive and take good care of themselves health wise, why look at foreigners and do that extra work. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Overall handsome men probably don’t have to do much work because the women come to him, so he simply has to pick and chose. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[rbfarrell]

Sometimes women might want to understand that the guys interested in her is her level. Women over rate themselves sometimes by alot.

[joan]

handsome men dont approach attractive women, it takes away from their being the center, women who arent so attractiive are easy prey for narcissist men, looks are of no value, because when he hurts you the looks seem to disappear

[missanythingfunny]

Looks really aren't the be end all. I have seen very attractive men with not so attractive women and very attractive women with not so attractive men. What really matters in terms of physical attributes imo is weight - usually people date in about the same weight range or slightly bigger or smaller than their own weight (unless the person has a type for very big or skinny people), height- usually the man is taller than the women, about the same height or the man is slightly shorter than the woman, it is very rare to see a man that is a wayyyy shorter than their partner (there are exceptions of course). So if a guy is 5'7 the tallest he'll date is usually about 5'8 - there are exceptions to the rule of course. I think we should stop focusing on looks and start focusing on getting to know the person. You can make yourself more attractive by simply going to the gym, dressing better, getting a good haircut, but someone's personality is hard to change

[ellisjackson]

Can the same be said for dudes who attract less good looking women?

[girlblanime]

herm...you also forget the fact that...men hate when a women is being too frontfort cause they will see the woman as "easy" and that is our worste fear. I did that times and the guys either gave me an IG of their pages oracted so suprise they rejected me (two months later) they decided to contact me to hang out, NOPE!

[femfiore]

You’re so handsome ! I hope you’re confident.. because it’s killing me when pretty people are not confident and don’t see themselves as pretty people

[Dave-elrh]

I have been a producer in the music scene since the 80s from classical, soundtracks, Tv themes, punk, goth,indie,experimental, electro, grunge, acid house, house, techno, trance, trip hop, progressive, world, adult contemporary, and some pop...I have met many people who range from humble to monsters...surviving life is the goal and who to surround yourself depends on that, of course...I understand now that with age comes wisdom, but also age itself...goodness is the ultimate mate, for actions definitely speak louder than looks...it would be a shame to be with a " handsome" person and discover that they act in disparaging ways. Ugliness becomes an isolating situation to be trapped in and virtually impossible to unsee in another person especially when everything is solely based on looks. We all have odors, bedhead, downtimes, frumpiness, goofiness, offputs, vices, prejudices, walls, heartaches, skeletons, sadisms, masochisms, isms and more isms, fetishes, white lies, bad habits, secret crushes, pet peeves, and much more...ultimately who do we want to settle with? somebody good logically.

[StellaMorgan-kj]

Thanks for your videos, I believe your explanation makes a lot of sense, very close to the true fact, subconscious of human being.
It answers my puzzles Why only ugly guys approach to me? Am I only attracted to ugly guys? Or they think we are same level so they take actions? 😅

[jasonbourne]

Truth. I don't like makeup, smokers and drinkers. IE alcohol. So.. I pass up woman that carry those things. I prefer the hollsom look. Even body size. Thin to bbw. Real body parts, not in to fake boobs. Big eye lashes. Or sports. She should be clean nails hygiene is important. . That's about it.

[Gs-qmvr]

Thx for this video it's really helpful ❤️❤️