Never Run Out Of Things To Say... (CONFIDENCE HACKS)

90% of people run out of things to say in conversation... This video reveals the #1 thing that helped me overcome this!

Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.

Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!

His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!

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Never Run Out Of Things To Say... (CONFIDENCE HACKS)

How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation!

Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!

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[JulienHimself]

Comment your biggest takeaway below! (I personally read through EVERY single comment)


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[benc]

"You're not meant to act your way through life, your meant to live your way through life". This one hit me hard Julian.

[tordurhansen]

"If youre not embarrassing yourself your not taking high enough risks"

Dang.

[benackley]

Allowing yourself to get embarrassed also shows you when you are triggered, giving you some good data that you can work off of.

[RapunzelASMR]

I never feel weird or awkward being silent around close family members like my mom. I think its good to have silence aswell, not necessarily always blabbing on about stuff XD

[Oblisk]

There’s this one older guy that works with me. His main language is Spanish, but he understands English enough and is able to speak English as well, but not as clear or fluent. He’s always in good spirit as he’ll always ask me and everyone else if we need help, or he’ll bring waters and other stuff we may need on his own. I always appreciate his kind gestures and his positive attitude rubs off all of us coworkers to the pint where even though we don’t always understand everything that he says, it’s the way he says things and his intentions behind them.

[BrokenButSeeking]

Who or what has taught us to be so self-conscious, to hide our true selves under a socially acceptable fascade, that we need to re-learn how to be genuine in a conversation?

[AkshitYoutube]

Honestly Julien your content is always super practical and easy to approach!!❤

[TheSilverstryker]

The problem with the approach of lowering your barrier for me is, I have a tendency to overshare with people when I run out of things to talk about with people I don't know very well, for example details about myself that might lower my value in people's eyes (eg. sharing my insecurities) or sometimes details or stories about others that, if I had more of a filter, I would think twice about sharing as I would be causing harm to the reputation of myself or others.

[fransinclair]

Why does it matter if u run out of things to say it is an awful amount of pressure to put on one’s self to have to talk non stop. Been quiet is a blessing and been able to be quiet around people it takes confidence to be quiet people who have to fill silence are usually insecure

[kwaier]

Julien you're a legend!
You help me and others around the world. I appreciate you so much! <3

[bodrosthor]

For the past years i have denied myself a lot of emotions. Didnt have any boundaries anymore. Didnt even cry when i got diagnosed with chronic disease. And have been struggling with anxiety and panic. I have started with letting go in the past year. Im feeling a LOT of emotions again. I have made some desicions for myself and now i find myself sitting alone in bali. Other side of the world from my home country. Never thought in 1000 years i would ever do this.

[clown]

I just want to say thank you for putting up some real advice for confidence and being yourself and not alpha BS. This video really resonated with me.

[divestor]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:

00:00 🗣️ Introduction to the challenge of running out of things to say in conversations
- Discusses the common problem of finding the right thing to say in social situations,
- Highlights that while content is important, it isn't everything, and the "vibe" of communication also matters.
00:59 📚 The four layers of communication explained
- Explains the concept of the four layers of communication,
- Stresses that "what you say" is the least important compared to "how you say it" and the intention behind it,
- Emphasizes the significance of pitch and tone in speech.
03:16 💡 Delving into intentions and value in communication
- Introduction of the third layer of communication: the intention behind what's said,
- Discussion about offeringvalue versus taking value in interactions,
- Illustrates how the same question can differ based on the intent behind it.
05:31 🌟 The power of deeper communication layers over surface layers
- Outlines how deeper levels of communication, like intention and self-esteem, are more powerful,
- Explains that people often focus too much on the surface layer, which leads to running out of things to say,
- Emphasizes the importance of being genuine, as deeper layers are harder to fake.
07:44 🐾 Human pre-verbal communication and emotional intelligence
- Points out that humans are pre-verbal beings, learning through feeling and emotional intelligence,
- Mentions that even in serious matters, people rely on more than just verbal content when trusting others,
- Highlights that genuine communication is rooted in non-verbal, honest signals difficult to fake.
09:17 🗣️ Embracing imperfections enhances confidence
- Lowering the expectations for what you say paradoxically boosts confidence.
- Trying to always say the "right" thing comes off as inauthentic.
- Confidence is being comfortable, even with saying unconventional things.
10:53 💡 Lowering your conversational barriers fosters connection
- Over-filtering thoughts creates a barrier in interactions.
- Being honest when you're out of words can be unexpectedly refreshing.
- Lowering conversational expectations creates a more relaxed communication atmosphere.
12:00 😂 Embracing embarrassment leads to authentic experiences
- Not fearing embarrassment encourages risk-taking and authentic living.
-Embarrassing moments often make for valuable, relatable stories.
- Seeking perfection in social interactions is less appealing than genuine experiences.
13:31 🧭 Authenticity attracts your true 'tribe'
- Being real may distance some people but attracts the right ones.
- Authenticity can lead to a challenging transformation phase, affecting existing relationships.
- True self-expression aligns you with individuals who appreciate your authenticity.
15:01 🎭 Dropping societal roles unleashes your true self
- Society often forces roles (good parent, dutiful child) that suppress individuality.
- Living these imposed roles prevents you from expressing your genuine passions and aspirations.
- Life is about living authentically, not acting through predetermined roles.

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[bongo]

I dont mind the pauses. The silence is super valuable to me because conversations could keep going and going and taking a second to take a break helps us all breathe and live life normally

[michaelo.]

Great stuff. Being authentic is the way to live, even if it means being vulnerable and not hiding behind masks and acting. But, after it's all said and done, it's a lot more refreshing being genuine, and when life truly begins.

[Hellorashmi]

Hey Julien Thank you for helping me in healing Journey 🙏

[Martin-bjeq]

Great video! Most videos on this topic focus on WHAT to say, BUT there are still three more layers to go, I never knew this - wow thanks

[verccety]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:

00:30 📚 Communication is not just about content but also the vibe; introduces the concept of "four layers of communication."
00:59 🗣 The surface layer, "what you say, " is often overemphasized, but it's the least important compared to "how you say it."
02:41 🎭 Avoid fake, people-pleasing intonations; speak naturally as you would with close friends and family.
03:16 💡 Intention behind words is crucial; distinction between "offering value" and "taking value" is more about the underlying frame or intention.
06:04 🌱 The deepest layer, your level of self-esteem, is the hardest to fake and the most powerful; it's more significant than the surface layers.
08:48 🎭 Focusing too much on the superficial layer of conversation leads to overthinking and stifling your natural flow of speech.
09:17 🎯 Lower the bar for what you say; trying to be perfect comes across as "try-hard" and inauthentic.
10:53 🗨️ Being open and lowering the barrier to speak increases connection and decreases the chance of running out of things to say.
12:30 🎢 Taking risks and embarrassing yourself leads to growth and more interesting life stories.
14:00 🎭🚫 Being authentic may initially push people away but ultimately attracts those who resonate with your true self.

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[satokeikei]

"Embarrass yourself more". Easier said done done. BUT CAN BE DONE!