Overbearing mothers - Jordan B. Peterson

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[karljuhnke]

Empty nest syndrome. I have seen mothers purposely ruin thier children so they are not fit for purpose in the real world.

[TheLionTheLambRom]

Overbearing mothers are disastrous for children, especially for male children.

[Liqliq]

I always thought my mom was crazy and controlling because she’s Asian. But it turns out she’s just crazy and controlling...I’m 24 and she makes me feel like I’m 12

[EmiliaTaylor-ygzv]

I’ve been struggling with how to balance technology and faith in our home, and ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ provided some amazing insights that we’ve already started using

[Candlewick]

As a divorced mother I watch this tendency all the time. I feel like I must remind myself daily that if I do a good job as a mother Ill create a child who will leave. Thats his job. And i must make sure my life is full so he sees he is only part of my life and not the reason for it.

[cinnamongirl]

This describes narcissistic parenting. It’s toxic. Outsiders a lot of the time defend the mother and how she just “loves her kids so much” but a lot of these women proactively destroy their kids mentally and emotionally so they never get ahead in life. This is what my mother did to me and I had to cut contact. She used to tell me I could never survive without her because I was mentally unstable and had bad judgment. She tried to destroy my wedding and marriage and tried to get me fired from jobs. My parents are divorced and she still blames my father for her behavior despite the fact that he’s been gone for 20 years.

[NASkeywest]

I want to finish the video but my mom says i need to go to bed.

[cwgumby]

It took me 34 years to realise my mom expects me to live my life based on her irrational fears and anxiety, not whats actually good for me. Whatever personality disorder that is. My Dad is a full blown narcissist.

[nonyabeeznuss]

I worked corrections for a good while, and was always amazed at how many of the most violent, manipulative, antisocial and frankly, outright dangerous inmates were momma's boys. There's a psychologically crucial process of maturation that doesn't occur in these men, and it kinda perpetually freezes their emotional maturity at the level of a 9 year old.

The only difference is, they're 6'3 and 250 pounds and when they lash out like a child people get badly injured.

[najma]

People search up narcissistic mothers. Very similar if not the same thing. It's such a pattern. My mother would plot ways to build dependency by not allowing close relations with people, not even my siblings. Eating with your friends at lunch? Forget it. Stepping outside? Nope. Once she finds out you have a life at a basic human level threats begin.
So odd.

[capybara-yk]

A good parent is someone who prepare well for his/ her kid when he die. It means If the father or mother die, the kid is still able to manage and master their life.

[w_b_mplease]

My mom did exactly this. She saw how fast my big brother was growing up so she sheltered and coddled me and our little brother. Sure enough when we all became adults my big brother had it the easiest and was an independent adult at 22 and I barely just moved out at 24 and little brother still lives with mom and doesnt have a job at 23. My mom succeeded in delaying our independence from her and it took me until seeing this video to realize it.

[ndleinahaystack]

Im 42 and realizing that my mother pretty much controlled most of my life in a very manipulative way.

[roddydykes]

I have even more respect for him after that South Park reference

[samjones]

I am a single mom who was left that way by my husband who went insane after going to Afghanistan after 9/11. 20 years of marriage destroyed with 2 little boys at 38 I started my life over with them, determined to raise them from the start - preparing them to leave at 18, and I have done so because they need to be men, so I learned ( as heartbreaking as it was ) how to get my own life very soon after my husband left us because I knew I HAD to teach my boys to be independent of me or they would NEVER survive this world & never leave our home . So many hard lessons learned all these years since but I have two young men who are capable & ready to go now & I am ready to see them off so NOT all single Moms are idiots, I have never remarried but do have a man in my life who does not live or stay in my home nor has he raised my boys ~ but he has taught them things about being a man that I could not . It has been an honor & a privilege to raise these boys .

[dswynne]

My mom is similar. She always "advise" me to take choices based on HER life experience, not on what I want to do with my life...and she still does it even though I am 48 y/o! Sadly, I never realized until WAY later that I can develop the strength to make my own choices. Not entirely my mother's fault, since I have to own up to my own role in being a "Momma's Boy". Hopefully, I will be able to earn her respect, by being successful in my own right.

[AlikVolkov]

It's so relieving to see I'm not the only one going through this garbage with my mom. I hate how I'm treated like I'm a child and that I always need everybody's help. Now I know that this problem is fixable.

[CJGfarm]

The line "the infant is dead", made me really sad for some reason. I never thought about it that way. I love the fact that my kids grew and progressed from one stage to the next. (Infant to toddler, etc) I never understood parents that said, "I wish they would stay little forever." Grow, grow, grow, please. Grow up and move on. I have my life to live and you have yours.

[againsteternity]

28 year old here, only child of a single mother. Bless her soul, in all her shortcomings and insanity, all she's done is try to provide me with a good life and look after herself in the only ways she knew how, with the tools she had.

She hasn't any friends, any family who care, no success in her career at all either, very rough childhood.

The older I get, the more I see the damage that's been done to myself and her via this co-dependent relationship. Been fighting at each others' throats since I can remember, smothered me with overbearing love for so long that I probably lost my mind years ago in futile attempts to set healthy boundaries.
The weight of guilt I feel for her happiness or the lack thereof is surreal, I am distinctly aware that it isn't my responsibility, but what are you to do when they have no one and no way to make ends meet? Leave them on the street? Call me weak, but I can't do that. So much to fix, but no idea where to start.

Sigh... Overwhelmed is an under statement.

[kyrgyzsanjar]

he is describing me 10 years ago. I had to move to another continent, literally.