why you shouldn't tell ANYONE your PLANS | Andrew Huberman

Dr. Andrew Huberman is a distinguished American Neuroscientist and Professor of Neurobiology at Stanford School of Medicine. With groundbreaking research and a passion for empowering individuals, he shares tools and advice for focusing and overcoming stress.

In this episode, the host describes science-based protocols for setting and achieving goals in a manner that maximizes the likelihood of reaching them. The host explains how to define a priority and reach a specific goal by systematically assessing the challenge level, measurability, milestones, and action steps needed to make progress from start to finish. The episode also explores research-supported tools to improve performance during cognitive or physical goal work, including directed visualization, variable reward timing, and optimizing the physical environment. Common myths about goal setting and achievement are dispelled, providing listeners with a science-supported toolkit of zero-cost strategies for goal-setting, goal-pursuit, and goal-completion that can be applied to any physical or cognitive endeavor.

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[rawveganfoodforthought]

OMG. I’ve been trying to explain why I don’t tell people things I’m thinking about doing! They don’t understand when I say it takes the wind out of my sails. For some reason they think I’m keeping it from them LOL.

[masspatriot]

The energy it takes to explain why you didn’t achieve a goal previously announced is enormous. Humility goes a long way

[mrmotomoto]

I work in silence all the time. In my late 20’s I decided I wanted to go back to school and get my degree. Started at the community college, got into a top school and six years later (not all courses transferred plus pandemic) had graduated with a bachelors of science in mathematics-computer science. Social media never found out. Only my closest friends knew about it and some didn’t even know until after I was accepted into my transfer school.
Don’t tell people you’re going to do something, just go out and do it!

[G-MIP]

As my late mamma would say, “Don’t tell me what you are going to do. Tell me after you’ve already done it.”

[ManFindsMeaning]

I always found this to be true. Plans seem to have more power when they're kept to yourself. Its almost like they become 'other people's property' when you share them too much.

[drleo]

I told my father I was studying for a medical test. Very difficult test
He said “ you are not going to pass it”. I said what? He repeated himself. I said why not? He said “ you just will not”. That did not affect my confidence.
But I saw how insecure he is. I never told him anything personal again. I did pass.

[BullsEyeStories]

This is good advice. Telling others about your goals puts unnecessary pressure on you. Also, sometimes the people you tell will start giving you advice and start criticising how you're going about achieving your goal.
It's more motivating to do the work in silence and then surprise people. Sometimes, when you achieve your goal and succeed, those "friends" become jealous and turn out to not to be friends anyway. The crab mentality is real. 🙂

[AR]

Great video. I spent two years planning to move to another city, go to school, and reset my career and only let people know after I'd rented the place, gotten into the university, and taken the new job. Many people were shocked when I told them, but I had been quite unhappy for awhile and when some of my closest friends said things like "What about me? But you grew up in this town" I knew this was the right choice--sometimes you think people want the best for you but what they really want is you not disrupting their comfort zone and will say things to keep you in the status quo. With school I didn't even tell most people I'd gone back for a Master's til after the first semester when I got all A's and was sure I had studying down after almost 20 years out of university. There's something really empowering about setting healthy goals and pursuing them without the need for external validation--I think it makes you stronger.

[XxKINGatLIFExX]

Hands down one of the worst things is when people start "trying to help" by giving you their ideas and input. They almost drown you in their ideas and they think they are helping, but all it ever does is dilute your own thinking to something that is no longer authentic to you.

[frankbedwelljames]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:

00:00 🤐 *Avoid announcing your goals to others before taking action, as positive feedback activates reward systems but diminishes long-term motivation.*
01:48 🙉 *Accountability is beneficial, but sharing goals often triggers short-lived positive feedback, reducing the likelihood of goal achievement.*
02:59 📝 *Follow the "don't tell the world" rule; share your goals sparingly, spending more time defining and visualizing them privately for increased probability of success.*
03:41 🤝 *Having an accountability buddy can be helpful, but their role should focus on tough love and reminding you to stay on track, avoiding the typical positive feedback loop.*
05:20 🚀 *Intrinsic motivation, deriving pleasure from the pursuit process itself, is the most powerful and sustainable source of motivation for achieving goals.*

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[lazyupload]

Spot on. I've felt these many times throughout my 40 years of life experience. In fact, sometimes even if you share your positive accomplishments that no longer require action, if you share them with the wrong people you lose energy and feel empty.

[lazarusblackwell]

I keep people out of my business as much as possible because i know they wont understand or be positive about it.

Some things just have to be done regardless how you feel about them.

[ernestoalvarado]

I was so excited to enroll in a radiology program this semester that I told close friends about it. I got some good and bad feedback from my friends. Two weeks in and I dropped out due to insecurities and bad health. Sometimes I wish I would shut the hell up and stop telling people what I want to do. I will be someone important to the larger mass I know I will.

[sharynmain]

I love the fact that Andrew assumed in the beginning that people will support and encourage you. I feel that is a slightly over rated but wonderful misguided thought. Most humans are competitive and run on the bias that keeps them surviving … that they will always come first or succeed. If you genuinely feel a co worker or acquaintance/friend will be happy for you… share this belief… but also be aware many like the status quo to remain in their favour. It is a sad fact of life. Whether it be academically or businesses wise or personal. Don’t let someone else derail you because of a scarcity mindset. 😊

[stevendavis]

The very fact that when you achieve a goal, and those around you find out by themselves, has a much bigger impact.

[itsallgood]

I have fallen prey to this my entire life. I was told I couldn't do it nor should I even try. And this was from my family and I'm fortunate that I have accomplished what little I have in life in spite of the judgment or lack of confidence in me. To be controlled and dependent is a manipulation in a setup in some families . But it is always what we do next that counts the most. Dr Huberman it is such a pleasure to introduce you to many of my friends and to hear what you have to say on many details of human behavior.😊❤

[ProsperityGrowthPower]

You're absolutely right! Keeping your goals to yourself can help alleviate unnecessary pressure and avoid unsolicited advice or criticism. There's something truly motivating about working in silence and surprising people with your achievements. Unfortunately, some individuals may reveal their true colors when faced with your success. Stay focused and rise above the crab mentality!

[kulturfreund]

The problem I see in announcing your projects/goals is that you expose yourself to outward pressure to keep up to the promise you made (without having to make).
It’s a rewardless risk.
And if you haven’t failed to succeed according to your plan, there’s also less of a surprise and appreciation as people "knew in advance" what was going to happen.

All this doesn’t even account for the situation where people aren’t your friend, and may create obstacles or harm for you.

[jeffreydhill]

This has been a lesson for me. People ask what I've been up to, and I just say "same ol" even though I've been lazor focused on an important and difficult goal. Too many times I've felt exposed or doubted. Neither approval NOR doubt help me. I need to be left the F alone to work in silence. I let the process and progress itself be my reward.

[ASMRyvette]

I find most ppl don’t believe in anything until it’s actualized /manifest. I try to keep as much as possible to myself.

I’ve grown past it but as a kid if anyone said I was bad at something I would stop doing it completely and immediately, which was extra sad bc my mom was a friction model baby and it took years for her to notice that I responded to encouragement, not friction.