STOP MAKING THESE CONVERSATION MISTAKES! | Speak Elegantly | Improve your Conversation Skills

Conversation is a sure fire way to reveal a lot about yourself- whether positive or negative. It's one thing to judge someone on their appearance- perhaps they had a bad hair day or it was just one of 'those days'. You can redeem yourself by dressing better next time. However, when it comes to conversing, oftentimes there is little space for error. You can't take words back! So can you see why the way you speak is of utmost importance?

In this video I dive deeper into technical aspects of conversation. Many of the things mentioned are done subconsciously and you can easily train yourself to improve these traits. Join me in this video where I explore 8 conversation mistakes you'd do well to stop making.

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[peaceloveandunderstanding]

I am a man, but I just subscribed to your channel. I find most of your tips applicable to anyone who wishes to level up. This would be a much better world if we all applied your wise counsel. Thank you for trying to make a difference.

[mimimwa]

1. Use the correct greetings based on which country you reside in.
Avoid asking "How are you?"you should ask "How have you been." Stop saying "Nice to meet you." instead say "pleased to meet you"
2. Stop rumbling. Be brief and concise. Think before speaking.
3. Dont pretend to know something. If you dont know something ask for more information. Dont be ashamed.
4. Avoid hostile attribution bias. Stop assuming or suspecting people based on their behaviour.
5. Keep it neutral and simple. Avoid taking sides.
6. Avoid forcing humor in conversation. keeps jokes and humor to a minimum.
7. When speaking to people strive to discern their level of interest and adjust accordingly.
8.Using repetitive vocal intonation. Change your tone and emphasise on the right words to give the statement more meaning.

[angelajg]

1. Not using the correct greeting
2. Rambling
3. Pretending to know something you don't
4. Allowing hostile attribution bias to get the best of you
5. Not keeping it neutral and civil
6. Forcing humor in conversation
7. Assuming a level of interest in what you are saying
8. Using repetitive vocal inflections

[katarinastepanovic]

Dear Vivienne, I can't express enough how much these tips are helpful! As someone whose first language is not English I find your videos educational. Your way of speaking is something I aspire to.

[connie]

As a 68-year-old American woman I can tell you that 'hey' is very informal and should never be used with people outside one's very casual circle of friends, if at all. I'm afraid I do say 'how are you', but I will try 'how've you been' instead. Same with nice/pleased to meet you. I enjoy your channel--new subscriber!

[ayomidebalogun]

Your voice conveys so much confidence, it shines your elegance ✨✨✨

[fitonlyforthemastersuse.]

Wow... the part where she said.."when asked a question..think carefully.. before giving an answer"...it got me.
Thank you!

[winnie]

You ooze elegance effortlessly. Your videos are educative.

[bunnyeclair]

In western USA, many people choose casual "hey" or "Hello." I prefer to say "Good morning/afternoon/evening". It communicates respect and helps the recipient know that I appreciate the same.

[turnip]

In the case of forcing humour, that also goes for forcing sexual conversation if it's someone you're romantically inclined with or attracted to because that's a real turn off for many people

[adaobi_elegantfashion]

Speaking depicts ELEGANCE and Refinement truely

[undercat]

No, we in the U.S. really don't say, "Hey" as a greeting, at least not to anyone we aren't on close terms with. Even then, "Hey" is immediately followed by the person's name.

In the older crowd, when we were children we would say, "Hey [Name]!" to get a classmate's or friend's attention -- not to greet them -- and our teachers and parents would correct us by saying, "Hay is for horses!" (even though hay and Hey are different words). It sounded impolite to them.

[lolajacomino]

Dear Vivienne, I recently subscribed to your channel but I have to say that I’m obsessed with watching your videos. I’m 73 but I love to learn, I also like to make sure that what “I think I know” is correct. I find your videos so interesting and helpful to everyone, not only women. Thank you for all the work you do to bring us these videos ❤

[UgwokeChinedu]

I am not a lady but I learn a lots when I hear you speak. Thank you Vivienne

[TheMocao]

I’m from the USA, and I always consider ‘hey’ as an informal greeting that’s reserved for family and friends. Once, a man who works in my building, greeted me by saying “hey”. I responded with “hello”. I remember feeling a little insulted by this overly familiar greeting.

[catherinehoward]

The example of I didn’t say he stole the bag is a great way to explain different ways of understanding what was said

[mamencaable]

Guilty 😔 on point 8. Woman! You look and transpire elegance. Yes. Great 👍

[bertydressmakingandfashion]

I feel it like a must to let you know how significant and interesting your channel is to me ! Thanks for taking the time to share these important values to women . Your lessons are like gems of Diamond Vivienne ! So, keep it up and by the way, you are a true classic and elegant woman yourself. No
wonder why you are so knowledgeable and practical in your teaching !

[ashleykindheartministries]

Hi, I just wanted to say that a lot of times the words I choose for greetings are words that my listener can understand. Often people in India (where I live) don’t understand my accent. So they can understand “How are you?” but not “How have you been?”

[mairee]

I usually say good morning, good afternoon, or good evening, depending on the time of day. I never use hey as a greeting. Maybe age has something to do with it. USA