Reconciliation: Is It Possible? If So, How? - Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes - Relationship Radio

All the time people come to us saying,
"We tried to reconcile, but it's just impossible.
We got back together thinking we can do it, then it didn't work.”

You know why? Because they didn't know how.

Think about it like this… Imagine you want to replace the spark plugs in your car. You can have every intention of doing it. But if you don’t know how or where the spark plugs even are... You’re gonna fail.

People are blindsided because they think they’re reconciling when they're not. So how can you know if you’re actually reconciling or not? Or how to make it happen?

These people struggled but figured it out with our help:
“We had been to three different marriage counselors in the first 10 years of our marriage. We got like one decent takeaway. There was just so much pain, so much hurt. It just seemed impossible.”

“We're sitting here seven years later, and it is a daily impact on our marriage, on our children, regardless of how lost, how broken, how hopeless you believe the circumstances. If you're just willing to invest a little bit of time, it's incredible the long-lasting impact that it can have.”

“At the end of the day, he chose not to even show me the divorce papers. He took them with him and he chose to continue talking. So for the first time, in a long time, I face the future of our marriage with hope.”

Do you want to know how to have a complete breakthrough right away?
No years of counseling necessary.

In fact, bringing up the past is the worst way to fix a marriage.

Instead, there’s a MUCH better way to reconcile… Even when it seems impossible, and like your marriage is still falling apart despite your best efforts.

If you want to know how, listen to this 41 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to get back the marriage you first had when you said “I do."

VIDEO CHAPTERS

0:00 Welcome To Relationship Radio
1:33 Common Reconciliation Difficulties
4:53 Caller #1 - We're starting to communicate! Do I bring up reconciliation?
9:44 Caller #2 - How do we reconcile when my spouse keeps lying?
15:12 Caller #3 - How do we work through the difficult questions when reconciling?
26:13 Caller #4 - Can we reconcile when my spouse can't stop thinking about their affair partner?
31:26 Reconciliation Story - Couple Shares How Their Marriage Was Saved
34:19 The Key Takeaways from Today's Episode

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[MarriageHelper]

Trying to reconcile but don't know how? There's a course for that. ❤️

Blessings,
Marriage Helper

[donna]

YES! All things are possible with God. God is the God of Reconciliation. It's what He wants.

[funky_gold_medusa]

There is a point of no return. Once that line is crossed, all bets are off.

[TexasShane]

Another Home Run for MH!!!! You guys just keep getting better. The Relationship Radio reboot is amazing and I look forward to hearing from you guys each week. Just cannot get enough of MH. Keep of the great work. Prayers of peace and love to all of you at MH!

[lukeleonardrasmussen]

Ah this is a good topic. Great video guys. I'm always encouraged listening to your videos

[aznsmazn]

Thank you so much for taking/discussing burning questions like this. Looking forward to more of these posts to come☺.

[yvettecain]

My husband committed adulteries and has filed for divorce but lying and said I had an adulterous relationship. He is also an elder in the church, SMH. I do not want to reconcile but I do pray for him and his deliverance.

[carolerbph.d]

Very informative video, thanks for sharing this.!

[Kimmie]

Two people have to be willing not just one person I have been fighting to save my marriage but it seems like he doesn't want it so I am giving up

[camillagonzales]

Sorry, the betrayed eats shit and the cheater gets away w it.

[mjperfume]

How can I do this if he is involved and in love with someone else, he's mind is made up!

[lifefacts]

I absolutely would not "help" my spouse grieve after they stepped out. Nope, not me!

[FlorisV]

Thanks so much, this is helping me tremendously… the videos in the free toolkit are no longer online btw!

[ThePossumone]

Trust has to be earned
Love given freely

Avoiders just keep running from themselves or the problems

Can you trust them ?
Can it be rebuilt ?

[Kimmie]

I truly believe this may work for some and some it want when a person has their mind up it's pretty much a wrap

[hannahberlinpetry]

Here’s what I don’t understand: why would you encourage the betrayed spouse to help the unfaithful spouse with grieving their affair loss? That is not a weight a betrayed spouse should ever need to be a part of. The unfaithful spouse needs to get therapy yesterday and grieve in that space, not with their betrayed spouse

[crystaldushkin]

I don't see you address the question of whether you want to save your marriage or not

[JND-zfsg]

For me I only ask questions that are helpful to recovering, specific details don't seem to be helpful for me.
I have such a difficult time with triggers, I don't need more.
I have asked the questions that I need, why? What did she give you I didn't etc...
I know the kind of lover my husband is and this is difficult enough.

[DanielleRamirez]

Hello, I have a couple of questions.
How can I reach out to you directly?

[mjperfume]

My husband and I live in the same house but we don't sleep in the same bed, but we do hug and kiss if I ask him. He does have a violent Irish temper. When he gets mad he will say I don't need u in my life and it hurts deeply. He lies to me all the time and denies that he has anything to do with her. I know bc he texts her, bc he was texting on his phone minutes ago! I just want him to be more patient with me and not compare me with her.