The 3-Step Approach to Raising Resilient Kids (Starting Today)

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Resilience is one of the most important skills we can help our children build. Being resilient can help our children manage feelings like stress, uncertainty and anxiety. It doesn’t mean they won’t experience these feelings, but it means that when they do, they’ll be better equipped to deal with them.

Now, it’s easy to assume that resilience is something we start focusing on building in our children when they get a little older. But that’s not the case. You can start helping your child build resilience from very early on. As early as their first year of life. You can use simple, everyday moments as opportunities to raise resilient kids from this early stage.

This 3 step process is an evidence-backed approach to improving resilience from an early age!

As always, I hope you find it helpful!

#emmahubbard #babydevelopment #newmom

00:00 - 02:44 : Why Letting Your Baby Struggle a Little Can Be Helpful
02:45 - 04:43 : When to Let Your Baby Build This Skill
04:44 - 06:56 : A Simple 3-Step Method to Support Baby’s Development
06:57 - 09:53 : Real-Life Examples of How to Use the 3 Steps with Your Baby

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[EmmaHubbard]

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[bananayummyable]

Also letting them be bored!!! I remember my parents telling my siblings and I to “entertain ourselves “ but not because they were lazy or especially busy, but because they wanted us to be imaginative and proactive. I thank them for it.

[ApostlicNinjaGirl]

Surprisingly I’ve already been doing this! I feels natural to me. If I’m doing work in the kitchen for example, and he’s in his walker and starts crying I usually say something like ‘I know baby boy, I’m sorry I’m busy, but you’re doing so good, I’ll get you soon I promise, you’re okay.’

[considerthetruth]

Do one for building resilience in a 25 year old baby

[pipersisk]

My baby cried the first time she crawled. I was sitting just out of reach and every time she was about to reach me I’d inch away just a little more. It was her little war cry of determination.

[maryamsaleem]

My baby wanted to crawl at 7mo but couldn’t move his legs and as a result cried a lot out of frustration. Everyone around me told me to get a walker so he could move around but I never listened. At 8mo he started crawling and got so much more happier.

[kiefershanks]

The struggle is real. Don't shield them from it. It'll only make it harder on them when they grow up and face reality. Let them struggle. Let them fail. Let them make mistakes. Let them have their own triumphs. If they are accustomed to problem solving, trying again and again and brushing off failures from a young age, imagine how strong they will be when they are an adult. Loving and caring for a child is not sheltering them but showing them how to thrive under the pressures and challenges of life. If they grow up accepting these realities, they will have no issues adapting to whatever gets thrown at them. You can still be there for them, just be sure not to get in their way. It's easy to do too much.

[e.k.]

I wish I saw this Video 8 month ago 😢. You don’t know how much you are helping new moms or moms in general ❤❤❤❤ thank you so much !

[A.gamer_]

I always listen to what the cry is. At now 11 months, my daughter can be a little bit of a drama queen. She is having some trouble with the idea that I'm my own person.
So usually I'll let her crawl around the house exploring, but me watching her because of the cats. Just makinQg sure she doesn't get hurt or hurts the cats by accident.
But dishes, cooking, hanging the laundry all need to be done as well. So I'll put her in her playpen. But of course she doesn't always like that. So I'll be nearby talking to her and letting her know when I'm hers again or when she can come out. For instance I'll say: when this laundry basket is empty I'll come get you.
She might not perfectly understand me yet but i feel like this is a good way to let her get used to the fact she can't always get what she wants.

[Lolo-bkul]

Absolutely! And so much pressure from Asian society criticizing us parents for not watching our kids!

[wanderingchook]

ive always let my babies cry for a minute or two during tummy time instead of immediently flipping them into their back at hte smallest sound of frustration. i get that its frustrating for them but ive also noticed that just after voicing their frustration is when they display a new skill like lifting their chest up off the gorund or swaying from side to side. they get lots of praise and encouragement when they master a new skill or i can see theyre trying really hard.

[lenavonstein]

Just happened to me yesterday. My little girl doesn't like carrides at all and we needed to drive to the doctor and she was crying and screaming so much I kept talking to her and said things like we'll be there soon it is okay i know you don't like being in the carseat..
It is very hard work to keep yourself calm though, because she does not stop until we are at our destination.

[DadLifeOfBrian]

Hi Emma,
Love your channel, I believe in letting me kids feel uncomfortable every now and then and letting them struggle through things rather than giving them answer. I just started my channel documenting my life as a dad, learning how to be a dad while raising my 4 year old son and 2 year old daughter. We have a third on the way so your channel is a great refresher. 😊

[tesssklena]

My baby cried, whined, screeched, yelled, grunted pretty much nonstop for the first year if I was not constantly giving her my full attention. And if I let her "build resistance" like in the video, sometimes it would take 45+ mins to calm her back down. She couldn't sit in bouncers, a play pen...literally nothing. I didn't have the option to let her build resilience because it never ever ended. Dr said it was just her personality. Now at 2, she is building resilience and doing so much better but is extremely attached to the point my pediatrician is concerned. Don't know how I could have followed this therapist's method at all....but I can see how it would beneficial. Just not practical for every person maybe.

[slpmaterialgirl]

I totally get what the therapist is saying but I don't know if the friend was totally wrong either. Depends on parenting style. I subscribe to the attachment parenting style which, in my belief (which may be wrong 😂), you answer ever cry and babies learn to trust you so explicitly that they actually still end up independent in a couple years bc they have the ingrained belief that UR ALWAYS there for them. Arguably, more independent as toddlers. Idk tho. Different training from different therapists, different belief systems. No one's wrong, just do your best and love them and it will all work out!

[mizziaradepaiva]

Perfect! I was looking for this vídeo 😊❤

[hillary]

This was super helpful, not unlike most of your videos, what I'm experiencing right now! Your channel is such a godsend! Thank you. 🤗

[martynait]

My baby always poops when we start driving and then he's very uncomfortable and starts crying! I pull over, change him and he's back ok. He never cries without a reason.

[crystalmilvo]

I feel like that natural reaction to help them soothe down is natural for a reason... I know when my son was first born I felt a very large urge to soothe him. He's now 8 months and I don't feel that way anymore. He will be fine for a little.

I think letting your baby "struggle" is all well and good if they are actually "old enough" to do so. If you're applying this logic to a 2 week old baby, you may be missing hunger cues.

Best advice my pediatrician told me, " you can't spoil an infant". So feel free to pick them up all the time, feel free to soothe them as you want, they won't turn into a "brat" or "never be able to be put down". Humans are mammals designed to carry their young. If we were designed any other way we'd be born walking like deer/giraffes.

[SylviaSilvers]

My son (4 mo) currently wants to roll on his tummy and then he immidiately tries to move forward, no matter how. Both of these things frustrate him a lot. I try to give him just a little help with rotating his hips, so he can try rolling and lifting his head by himself, and then I let him struggle with gravity and his body however he wants. He's already doing better with rolls, and he seems to have more strenght on his tummy - he can turn hips to sides, pull knees closer to his chest or lift his butt.