How to Protect Yourself When You Can't Leave a Narcissist

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[anitavirginillo]

"any communication with them is an opportunity to abuse & confuse you", no truer words have ever been spoken.

[dawn]

Communication with a narcissist is not a means of understanding each other, it’s a means of manipulation.

[lisamarieesposito]

I so wish this information was available years ago!!! I dealt with this from 1987-2016 but I never had any ‘assistance’ or knew that I should have done that. Wow…I ‘lost’ 29 years of my life to this abuse! 😢

[Normalizethis]

“Abandon all sincere communication when communicating with the insincere.” R.G.

[nryane]

I was fortunate. 10 years ago, I lucked into an EMDR trauma therapist who tested the now-ex-partner and me, to find out the personality type we each were.

The one-and-only joint counseling session with the therapist was eye-opening!

My then-partner had stated that he had a certain type of therapy in mind, yet was not willing to go first. So I did. He did not respond well. He accused me of being wrong about my feelings and said as much to the therapist, who said something in support of me, which he mistook for support of him. She corrected him, and he was shocked that she supported me.

Shortly afterward, the session ended. I made another appointment for me and he made another appointment for himself. As far as I know, he was unable to manipulate her around to his point of view and he ceased to attend any further sessions alone or with me.

I continued therapy for three years and, with her support, I planned my way out of the relationship.

[SRPA]

That's great advice. And find yourself a competent therapist.
Never stick with one who doesn't feel right, especially out of politeness.
A bad therapist can hollow out the remaining reserves of trust you have in people. Especially when you're in crisis.

[bthedoright]

Spot On - - I had enough and was scraping myself off the proverbial floor to get through a day at some point in being abused by a narcissist with psychotic features - - - I got a therapist and joined a class in the local DV Organization - - I needed all that to keep myself standing to keep walking and putting more and more distance from my abuser boyfriend. Once I was free of him - - I continued with therapy for 2 years every week and met with an advocate every other week for a year to stay strong, clear and to strategize how to handle the hovering and guilt tripping and attempts my ex made to get more of my attention and/or help. You HAVE TO HAVE OUTSIDERS TO HELP YOU DEFEND YOURSELF

[AnnaHedlund-ct]

You have to have your own savings that he doesn't know about. So you can leave!!

[nicoletalmadge]

Yes!! Especially because this sort of abuse is so isolating!

[jonathanho]

Develop a strong SUPPORT group. Boost your “immune system” to handle exposure from toxins.

[shannonbell]

100%!!!! I was in therapy weekly for 14 months before I separated from the narc. If I wasn’t in therapy, I would probably still be in the same position!

[KarenW-neux]

Ever start trembling inside, and not sure what just happened, or was said? So exhausted. Set me free from this cult

[rjjrbrem]

This is exactly how I coped. I used to send the text messages to my sister and best friend to get a sane, rational interpretation as I was too close. I’ve asked “is it me?” And they’ve both said no, this is narccistic behaviour and to end the relationship. From now on if I’m in any relationship, if I find myself saying “is it me?”, then I will run for the hills.

[mm]

My therapist didn't believe me when I told her I believed my partner was a covert narcissist. I no longer see that therapist.
I can't trust anyone anymore, and I don't trust myself yet not to let another Narc into my life.

[brightstar]

Staying in a toxic relationship (or going back to one) is a self inflicted wound. 🗡️

[Nothing-hi]

Once you walk out the door...expect to never see your things again. The locks will be chabged in an hour and your things will be hauled to the dump. And he will steal you to flat broke

[KarenW-neux]

My brain gets so tired and your stellar advice lifts the anvil off my head bingo! Clarity, and I prepare to go back in. Jane, stop this crazy thing!, Help, Jane!

[joannereina]

I survived this nightmare... I now live on a different continent.. Thats what saved me and the children

[OceanBaby]

I had a therapist and attorney while going through a divorce so he knew the gig was up

[crytlmeen]

The strikes me as exceptionally good advice! I was stuck for many years and not able to extricate myself from these relationships and advice like this would’ve helped me a lot!!!

It’s almost like Harm reduction, but for narcissistic abuse, rather than addiction😂👌