Is She Flirting Or Just Being Friendly

Hey guys, welcome to this video and to my channel! I’m Kate Spring and today I want to help you to distinguish between whether or not a woman is actually flirting with you or if she is just being friendly.
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Have you ever been hanging out with a girl and you think that she’s giving you all the signs that she’s totally into you, but when you lean in for the kiss she backs away and says that she just sees you as a friend and that doing anything else would complicate the situation? Ouch.
After a reaction like that, you’re embarrassed and confused as to how you could have misinterpreted her signals that you clearly thought was her flirting. For women, often times, there is a very thin line that separates flirting from being friendly. And more often than not, women will flirt just for the sake of flirting, with no sexual motivation behind it. I know, how annoying! Flirting is actually defined as behaving as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intention. Yikes, can you say mixed signals?
Women can flirt just for fun without any sexual intention behind it because women genuinely believe that men and women can be friends. Even when they constantly flip flop between being friendly and actually flirting. To aid you in making the distinction, I’ve isolated some ways for you to tell if a woman is flirting with you. I should also mention that you should keep an eye out for more than one of these examples when trying to decipher if she’s truly flirting or just being friendly.

1. Find Her Threshold For Flirting:
The first thing that I would suggest you do is to observe her threshold for flirtatious behavior. Observe her around other men, and especially her guy friends. If she is touchy feely, joking and overly playful with them, then chances are that if she is acting the same way around you, she is just being friendly.
Find out her norm first, find out what her personality is like in other interactions so that you can make a judgment about whether or not she is flirting or just being friendly. If she treats you like everyone else in her circle or everyone else that she encounters, then chances are she is just a nice girl who is trying to be friendly.
And, obviously, on the contrary, if she is acting different around you, laughing more, flipping her hair, touching you whenever she can, and she’s not like that around her friends, then she could be trying to seduce you. But find out how she interacts in different scenarios and with different people before you try and decipher if a woman is flirting or not.

2. Instigating Conversation:
Another way to tell if a woman is flirting with you is if she is instigating conversation. There is a big difference between answering questions and prompting questions and conversation. If a woman is just answering questions with a yes or a no and not adding anything else voluntarily, then she’s just being friendly.
Conversation is a big indication into whether or not a woman is flirting. In this department, I should mention that if a woman is being overly polite and proper with you, chances are she is just being friendly. Most women don’t take the time to converse and genuinely get to know men with whom they have no interest. Or if a woman constantly asks you to repeat yourself, then she’s just not listening to you, which means she not being flirty, and she’s not even being that friendly.
In non- face to face communication, if a woman responds to your texts or phone calls in a timely manner and with more than one word, and again, is instigating conversation, then she could be trying to flirt with you and make a connection.

[palepants]

I knew the woman at Chipotle was into me. She asks me all sorts of questions every time I go there. What will you have today? Black beans or brown beans? What kind of meat do you want? ...The questions never end.

[jijojacob]

Can't tell if Kate is flirting or being friendly with me through her videos

[theTYTAN]

I don't know why I'm watching this. I've never even had a woman be friendly with me.

[eerikkiwhykeke]

Typical situation:
1. See pretty girl at the beach, pretty girl sees you.
2. Make eye contact a couple of times last one a bit longer than the rest.
3. Dont do anything and contemplate what would have happened if you approached her.
4. Find yourself on flirting type videos. As if you were going to do something we newly gained knowledge, go back to step 1.

[RexiousX]

Nobody should flirt with anyone unless they have serious intent, otherwise it can play with the feelings of others

[jinoh]

I think kates flirting with me in the video. Should i go talk to her?

[alphie]

My head hurts Kate. This is legit harder than Science class.

[hopoloplyr]

Girl: *Smiles and looks at you with loving eyes*
Me: *Crosses eyes together and make a silly face*
Girl: *Brushes hand over my shoulders slowly*
Me: *Raises hand to give a high five*
Girl" You're cute and funny, and i really like spending time with you. We should do this again soon!"
Me: "Awesome! Will do friend!"

Me to all my guy friends: "Yeah I will die alone"

[ibenzawla]

Big Warning: Be very careful if she is a coworker. Could be a trap. One move you are gone.

[ImBreakingThethWall]

Sometimes you can't even trust cues that aren't so subtle. I took a friend out to dinner, during dinner she had us take a selfie and asked if I minded that if she tagged me, I said no, and she asked "What if I put that I'm out with my boyfriend?" and I laughed as if a joke and told her that maybe it was a little too early for that, but maybe in the future. After dinner on our way out the door she grabbed my shoulder, leaned over and kissed my cheek. She asked if we could take a walk together in the downtown area we were at, and just talked about things we should go out and do together. At the end of the night, when I dropped her off, we kissed.

We went out a few more times, and sometimes when we were stopped she would just come over to hug me, and would hold me during the hug. This last week, Valentine's came around and I asked if she'd be my Valentine... to which she responded "I will, but only if you understand that it's platonic. I don't want you to think I'm leading you on." Which shocked me because of her actions up to this point, but I told her "That's fine, not a problem." but in my head I was thinking "What the hell is going on? Did I wake up in an alternate reality from the one I've been living in with you?" and we've been slowly just losing contact, because I feel she started playing games. We'd have plans like we did in the past month, and she wouldn't respond on the day we had something planned, and I decided I would stop contacting her because I wasn't going to play that game.

So again, even if the flirtation is not so subtle and she acts like she's into you, both physically and emotionally, chances could still be high that she's not interested in anything serious. At least in my current experience.

[MegaZidzid]

women never flirt if they're not interested, but after we don't react properly they lose interest quickly

[lickmikehawk]

A good way to tell if a girl is just be friendly or flirty is make a move.

[MatthewVanAtta]

Am I the only guy who flirts all the time without sexual intentions? It is just part of living.

[markobozovic]

Man up and say to her if you don't wanna be friends, if she is down she is down if not, move on..

[matheweso]

I won a 10 million dollar lottery and I had women who I never met in my life coming out of the woodworks claiming that they knew me and if I remember them. Some were befriending my sister just to get to me. I never had women ever approach me in my Life. I actually moved myself and sister and Mom out of the State. The money has not changed me, I am still the same, and nobody knows who I really am and love it. Women still don't approach me. But I am interested in one from my church but she's not really into me. I personally believe it's because I'm short balding and overweight. I don't flaunt anything out of the ordinary. Oh well, who ever said that money truly buys happiness is wrong. I want happiness first then I will slowly let them in on the money. Mr anonymous at church.

[nicedog]

I can’t be bothered with all that. I just find somebody who likes me!

[theadventuresofbeef]

If I had any idea I would probably not be single!

[csw]

Take nothing for granted even if you think it's a done deal and it feels like the woman is really into you. Ultimately you will only know 100% her intentions when she actually communicates this to you.

[marinopirulli]

I'm going to agree what she said at 3:19. If a girl is not attracted to you she wouldn't make conversation with you.

[rubentrevino]

I like how she get's straight to point !!