How to Approach Women (Without Being Creepy)

One of the most effective ways to approach women is to use an environmental approach. An environmental approach allows you to approach women using elements within the natural environment to make a woman feel more at ease. Imagine, for a moment, that you’ve just seen an attractive woman at the gym. You want to approach her, but you don’t know what to say or how to break the ice. Using the environmental approach, there are literally thousands of things you can say to a woman in this situation. An example of an environmental approach in the gym would be to say: “Hey, how’s your workout?” The same environment-specific approach can be used in the supermarket: “Hey, do you know where the [chocolate/milk/fish] is?”

Your approach doesn’t have to be clever or entertaining. Instead, it’s always better to talk to women as though you’re talking to a close friend. Also, take note that women have a propensity to wear interesting trinkets and accessories. They style their hair in unique ways, sport tattoos, and color their nails. The next time you go out in public, take a moment to look at the women around you. What makes her stand out? What is it about her that catches your eye? Is it an item of clothing, her earrings, her hair, or even her shoes? All of these items are talking points that allow you to approach women in a natural and relaxed way. To give you an idea of how this works in practice, consider the following pickup lines as a great way to start a conversation:

— “Nice shoes.”
— “I like your perfume.”
— “That’s a cool tattoo.”
— “That bag looks heavy.”
— “What are you drinking?”
— “That’s my favorite color, I love [insert color].”

Simple, innocuous comments within the context of the woman’s immediate environment work best here. There’s no better way to signal outcome indifference and confidence than a light throwaway comment to disarm a woman and make her feel at ease. Remember, conversation is fluid as opposed to static. That’s why it’s always better to use an approach that can be adapted to your natural environment.

If you approach women in a positive, relaxed way, you communicate strength. But still the issue of what to say looms large. Trying to figure out what to say to a woman when you first meet her and what pickup lines work best is a question that’s plagued men for decades. Now science can finally shed some much-needed insight into the conversation. One study published in the Sex Roles journal found that women prefer it when men approach them with a simple: “Hi” or “Hello.”45 Other effective pickup lines include the honest and direct: “Since we’re both sitting alone, would you care to join me?” or “Do you want to dance?”

Pickup lines such as: “Hey, what’s your sign?” or “Did you hurt yourself when you fell from heaven?” were seen as less attractive, disingenuous ways to start a conversation. That being said, you should simply use pickup lines as a way to assess whether or not a woman is interested in talking to you. Watch closely and you’ll notice that a woman expresses all her intentions and desires through her actions. If a woman is open and interested in talking to you, she’ll stop to engage you in conversation; if she isn’t interested, she’ll move away from you—it’s that simple.

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Chris Canwell

[TripleOptionFootballAcademy]

“Talk to women like a close friend.” That’s a great one, Chris.

[brookvalley]

Exactly right. In addition, one of the most important things about approaching anyone -- woman or man, is to walk up in a relaxed manner. Not fast. The confident man is always relaxed, because he is always confident. Body posture should be relaxed. The voice should be relaxed, off-handed, no big deal -- "Hey, how you doin." No exclamation point. Relaxed. Also, no big smile. Remember, relaxed all the way. Just a slight, casual smile. When you say, "Nice necklace. I like how it matches your eyes. Did you do that on purpose?" Remember, relaxed, off-handed, no exclamation points. If you want a mental frame of reference, imagine that you are a cool, relaxed, high value guy who is currently dating and sleeping with two to four women and all of the women know that you sometimes date more than one woman, but have chosen to be with you anyway. What's more you've told the women who you are dating that it is fine with you, if they date other men while they're dating you. Everything is casual. No drama. Now, do you think that that man will be nervous about anything?

[robertmoore]

Talk to a woman like talking to anyone your close to, use the same thing and let that be your confidence.

[Sanatan.posting]

My personality level goes to a new peak with every video.
Thank you Chris.

[thoreau]

A pretty face dont mean a pretty heart. I learned that right from the start!!
Women use a variety of camouflage to make it appear they are something that they aren't.

[afonsodeportugal]

That brown girl on the treadmill sure seems to be enjoying her workout! 😂

[Aashu]

From the day i started following you.... Things are getting better and helped me to escap a cheat and heartbreak. I am now more confident and comfortable around girls and i am enjoying there attention towards me

[renenorambuena]

The storytelling behind the video is just amazing, and the value of the information

[saullopez]

I love your content, one place I will never ever approach a women is at a gym

[josezerpa]

those openings always work. Personally I use "hey, how's your day going?" a lot, and it gets women to talk non-stop. It always work and makes it easier to get to know them. Pure gold here, Chris!

[oppahadventures]

Brilliant video Chris how I wish vi could give you a million subscribers

[wholesomevibes]

Quality content as always from Chris Canwell

[zyzzzpose]

Do you know what a milk is ? Lol dat got me

[icefireicefire]

He was sitting on/in her Cart!!! Lol Thats gangsta lol

[alanw]

Best channel on YouTube for learning the art of attraction.

[yanesrosenskrabe]

Hi, do you know where the milk is?

No?

Oh ok, bye


How is your workout going?
Good thanks

Good video,
But the examples of the openers should be better though

[Kunalfit]

I talk to them like I would with any guy in the gym.

[carlosdixan]

Why we have to approach them? We putting them on the power position when we as males bring so much more to the table than females??

[bajikeisuke]

Do you have any videos/other channels where women can get insight on men? Everywhere I see videos on how men should pursue women etc.

[king]

In my opinion women should approach man...and men should focus on there porpose, dreams...a true man he needs work to fill fulfilled and happy...a women needs is to have a family...so approaching women is waist of time...that's why we see failed relationships and tons of divorces...because man chase more then women and we know very well what it will happen.