Debunking The Self-Love Myth - Teal Swan

In this thought-provoking video, Teal Swan challenges the widely accepted notion that you must love yourself first before finding someone who loves you. She deconstructs this belief, offering a fresh perspective on self-love and its role in relationships.

Through insightful points and real-life examples, Teal Swan encourages viewers to reconsider the idea that self-love is a prerequisite for being loved by others. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this video promises to provide invaluable insights into the complexities of self-love, attraction, and human connections.

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👉 Who Is Teal Swan?

Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader and a Bestselling Author who is an expert in human development and relationships. She has over a decade of experience working with people of all walks of life with a mission to reduce human suffering.

Today, she’s also become an International Speaker, having facilitated retreats and life changing workshops in large venues worldwide. Teal was ranked 15th on The Watkins Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2023.

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Teal Swan Intro by Christian De Raco

[ziggypip]

Teal says the things that no one else will 😊

[simafatemipour]

Just as lots of 'self-hate' is rooted in how people have treated us, 'self-love' very often needs to be triggered by the people around us.

[esotericgamedev]

“We’re all just walking each other home.” Ram Dass

[Nanako-ti]

This is very true. I grew up in a toxic environment that led me to despise everything about myself. I thought I didn't deserve anything and that I was worthless. I hated myself so much and neglected my life, drowning in my mental issues until I met my best friend, who was the first person to appreciate and love me, knowing my worth and supporting me. His loyalty and intense love changed my life forever and pushed me to look at myself positively. I am very grateful to the univers .

[MochaxMatcha]

I always thought the "love yourself first" meant to have enough confidence to avoid abusive relationships.

[vearose]

This rings so true with me and my partner! I was self-loathing when I met my fiance. I had very low self-worth. Over the past 4½years, I've been treated with love and gentle care, and I've learned to love myself and treat myself gently in turn.

[simafatemipour]

I totally agree that self love is not the prerequisite for love of others and it's not this simple! It's multi-layered and complicated. Sometimes we NEED to be loved to start to feel what it's like to be loved. Also, love is directly related to meeting needs (of yourself and of others).

[christyannceraso]

THANK YOU. I was getting so frustrated with this bs.

[kNOwYouAndMe]

Its definitely a limiting belief. I believe Im gonna be loved regardless if I love myself or not therefore Im loved.

[indulekhamoore]

You have just said exactly what I've been saying to people for the last 20 years of people telling me I 'need to love myself'. It's entirely normal to want to be loved and there's not a simple switch that you flick where you suddenly 'love yourself'. There are so many examples of people who don't love themselves fully (almost everyone) who are loved by someone or many people...I'm so happy to hear you say these things. Love to you x

[adrianaburger]

Amazing Teal ❤❤❤
I’ve been trying to make these arguments FOREVER!! You were able to verbalize this concept incredibly well and intelligently !!!
We profess “unconditional love”, and then you’re told that Love is conditional when it comes to receiving love!! Nonsense !
Thank you for this act of love towards all of us !!❤❤❤

[rednarok]

Some mean when they say love yourself first, means spend more of your energy doing things for yourself before you give to others. its very good advice for co dependants who all they know is give to others and in turn higher rates of cancer and lower life expectancy, because of extreme selflessness.

[AllysonC]

“Never underestimate this universes ability to bring you the healing element you need”
—Teal Swan

[mariahansen]

Thanks alot. This help me and gave me strength.i cryed in many hours today, because a woman rejected me after I explained I was sexual frustrated and desperate after love. Then she told me I have to love myself first and work on myself I got angry and then she said I have anger issues... So your voice is logik, analytic and calming .


A person can not exist in a vacuom, love is a basic human need, I feel more whole and peaceful then o finally succeed to be loved. But it seems impossible then people tell me I have to love myself first and get to the state of accomplishment then I finally love myself. It's absurd.

[АняБаскакова-лх]

I needed that 🙌
I'm that person who has been told to love myself first and I kinda paused everything to do so. The result is me swimming in the void of unmet needs.

Thank you, Teal
Brilliant as always

[carltrammell]

I love when she debunks these myths of the spiritual field. I always felt there was something off about that saying: "You have to love yourself first in order to be a match to receiving love from others" - I just didn't have the words and knowledge to articulate what I felt. Thank you Teal, you are a lighthouse in a sea of confusion! I love you 🙏❤

[Kelescope]

Teal is absolutely SNIPING so many spiritual conceptions lately. Bless up!! Stay true to yourselves y'all no matter what! 🙌✨🤙🍻

[mariarossi]

Thank you for this video and shining a spotlight on this important topic. Unfortunately, I allowed this sentiment which for years and years I believed to be true to make me so afraid of entering any type of relationship as I felt I was much too far away from the level of self love needed for a truly loving relationship. There are many a destructive and restrictive ‘truth’ being perpetuated in the spiritual arena keeping people stuck. Thank you for helping people like me get unstuck, Teal.

[demonicaxeman]

I really have no desire for romantic love. I don't even remember what that felt like. In a strange kind of way, I feel like being physically isolated from people is a form of loving myself. I know I thrive better being alone. Without the complexities and complications that comes with relationships with other people, I loosen the burden on myself by being alone.

[ingridblohm-hyde]

Bravo Teal!!! I have had a battle with “perfectly “ loving myself for all my life and kept others away because there were always parts of me that I did not like and therefore felt I am not ready to attract a loving relationship. Thank you for confirming what my intuition was alluding to- we never self love ourselves completely at all times. 🎉