How Far is Too Far When Waiting For Marriage?

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[the.victorgeorge]

I am not dating but one boundary I have for when I do is that no making out. We can definitely do the short light kisses but I know anything beyond that is definitely gonna lead to the real deal. I think it is also important to know your boundaries when you are single. That way you know what triggers you and you can communicate with your partner because what triggers you might be nothing to them and you need to ensure both of you are on the same page.

I heard someone say, In a relationship you should always lean towards the boundaries on the one who is most easily triggered. For example for me kissing might not be anything but for my partner it's a No No till marriage. Then I need to respect her boundary and avoid kissing until marriage. We are a team and we are in it to win it.

[misstab]

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart 2 Timothy 2:22 WWJD

[jenniferthompson]

This is a great question! You can go too far and defile yourself even if you don’t go “all the way.” Purity is deeper than a simple checklist.

[worshippershearttv]

My boundaries begins with Curfew hours of talking, texting and spending time together until marriage those boundaries are fixed.

[missprincessd]

I agree. I've learned asking this question means you need to check your heart and reframe the question to "What things do I need to do to pursue holiness with this person?"

[Coolct]

When it gets dark time to leave my apartment… and lights on !

[andbecoming]

No spooning while watching
Netflix . # troubleshooting

[rsroyalty]

I think this is a beautiful question. It starts in the mind. Maybe you two need to keep renewing your mind from the idea of fulfilling your sexual desires. Because any form of sex without marriage is Sin. Simply put... Establish yourselves in Gods word. Pray. It keeps the devil away. find activities to limit certain physical contact which would trigger the desires of the flesh. God loves you.

[gap]

Before you married, he's you brother in the Lord. Don't do anything you wouldn't do with your brothers in the Lord. There are so many important things to talk about before marriage and so many things to do. Leave the physical for marriage,

[rhondagoodwin]

This is great the priority is to please God by Honoring Him and your body. My ex left when I told Him God told me we cant be physically intimate until marriage.

[GrwninGrace]

I have learned that I cannot do what will awaken my desires and make it difficult to contain myself until marriage in a relationship. The devil would love to have me (us) tied up in condemnation so that I (we) cannot operate freely in ministry or in our relationship with God, always failing in our walk as a single saint. Well, I'm done with that. I am the vessel of the Lord, carrying Holy Treasure, and I will conduct myself as such, and anyone I entertain WILL RESPECT IT OR MOVE ON! 👉🏾👉🏾👉🏾

[ogechukwuokpala]

Really helpful discussion and comments. Thank you

[morowarowe]

I'm not even dating and I'm not a person who loves kissing but God said kissing was a no

[evantyler]

I imagine the best thing to ask yourself is not whether this or that is ALLOWABLE but whether it is actually PLEASING to God. When we ask this authentically, I don't think there will be so many gray areas.

[jairusbryant]

How about ..your level of physical affection should match the level of commitment you two share…

[sexyeyez]

Yes 🙌🏼 I am celibate not trying to have sex until marriage as well