How Far Is Too Far To Go When Dating? | Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke

When you are dating it's best to remember that the person is first and foremost not your boyfriend or girlfriend, but someone else's future spouse. Living with that idea will allow you to honor them physically.

Alyssa & I had a blast with our two live streams we did earlier this year. We thought we'd change it up a little, and make them shorter videos with better video quality and answer one of your questions for each video! Feel free to leave questions or suggestions on dating, relationships, temptations, etc in the comment section. We hope this particular one is a blessing and leads you to dating more intentionally which can drastically change your relationship. I know it did for me! We love y'all! You can also shoot us questions on our social media below!

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ALYSSA'S INFO

[pdiz]

I'm currently an atheist, but a subscriber. You are so convincing with your confidence. You have a gift to allow blind people to see. You deserve your beautiful wife, your beautiful life. You're doing God's work, and you're awesome. You are helping me find myself, and I appreciate it. I hope we end up on the same side one day.

[izzyg.]

I think that just the fact that someone asks "How far is too far?" says something. It's like that person is willing to go on the edge of their boundaries without crossing it. They're willing to put themselves in a situation where they'll be tempted, but not give in to that temptation. And that's scary. We need to try to do everything we can to not put ourselves in a place where we'll be tempted, and if that is physically bit possible, we need to be praying and praying nonstop. God will give you the strength😊❤️

[sparklequeen_]

aww the way she looks at him with so much admiration

[morongwaolifant]

God is using this young man in a mighty way!

[risk]

He made some incredible points "They're someone else's future husband or wife" Wow, I never thought of it like that, it's kind of depressing and exciting at the same time :/

[floppy]

When I saw this video I remember my experiences how big is the devil's lie about temptation, he catches you in lie, how sweet is to touch and kiss your girl, and then after that you realize you've been deceived and you no more have that awesome feeling but you feel guilty.
Trust the God's word guys, it'll never never let you down.

[laurennaomi_]

Alyssa...you are just glowing!!! So beautiful!

[DrFinkelstein]

Most of the problem for me personally is struggling with patience. In our sexual, instant gratifying culture it can be hard to watch your friends move faster than you and be in relationships when you're sitting around trying to do the right thing and be patient. I know God has a plan and I trust it, but the struggle is there sometimes and it can be hard to keep that calm patience when it comes to dating.

[LilacDaisy]

"Wrong question" is so the right answer! Wish I had heard this as a teen. So much sense in this video. Sweet.

[JeffersonBethkepage]

NEW VIDEO! How far is too far? Hope it encourages you guys!

[deeman]

Thank you guys so much for speaking up, I agree 100%  don't put yourself in compromising, situations, be honest with yourself. I haven't slept with any of the women I've dated in over 10 years now and it's so good to keep those friendships as well as respect for myself, there is no anger, shame, resentment, or self-hate on either side Praise God!

[Balthazar]

When I date someone, I know that I want to lay out my boundaries early on in the relationship so we don't have to wait for the moment of temptation to make a decision. I think courting couples should have clear and fair boundaries set early that they both agree on and that work for them (like "should we kiss on the lips? etc.). Couples should have a clear understanding of how eachother operate and where they are tempted so they can avoid tempting eachother and making things complicated.

[noodlebeating]

I'm 17 and I wish so badly that I would've been taught or guided this way before, not that my family didn't try to guide me in the right direction, because they did, but there are so many temptations in the world. And I'm so glad that there are people like you two in this world that are really trying to enlighten people on these things and guide them in the right direction when it comes to relationships. Only God knows where I would be if I had had the help you're giving and the spiritual guidance. And I know that I still have some time to make things right, I'm just not sure how to go about that. But what I'm really trying to say is thank you. And keep doing these videos, they really do help and make you think a little.
P.S. Alyssa is so gorgeous and you guys are going to have such a beautiful baby.

[Uptownheiress]

Alyssa loves you. I love how she looks and agrees with you so much. Equally yoked at its best.

[Zaymirandaaa]

Its awesome how she stares at him. You can tell she loves him soooo much. The way she looks at him, it looks like she wants to add more glue to their relationship ;)
You guys are awesome!!

[cquvfxw]

The way she looks at you is so sweet. My cousin showed my your guys' video on if its okay to date a non christian and ive been watching some others and they are so great. Thank you guys for making these videos and reminding me of God and that i need to focus on him

[jgwentworth]

This is a really good video. I have never thought of some of the points that Jefferson made. Especially about thinking of your GIrlfriend as someone else's wife. It really makes sense. This is seriously gonna help me with future relationships! Thank you!

[Yoditah]

Very well said, I love the thought of thinking of them as potentially someone else's husband. :)

[lukekimxd]

So many people try to "draw the line" somewhere in a relationship. But the goal shouldn't be to draw a line and get as close to the line as possible, but getting as far away from the line as possible. 

[josephpassaro]

This literally makes me wanna get married as soon as possible😂😂oh man I have a hard time taking things slow but I am really really really glad I got to hear this. I need to pray a lot to not get tempted because my head gets messed up sometimes on this topic. This video helped me a lot to understand how much I should respect my Girl. Thank you Jeff and Allyssa!!