How to Deal with a False Allegation as a Foster Parent (+ 3 steps to prevent it)

We never expected this to happen to us. This has been the hardest thing we've had to walk through as foster parents. To protect yourself from false accusations 1. Communicate with the team 2. Document everything 3. Remain Calm

There is definitely a NEED in every state for foster parents. I hope this encourages you to take the first step to get licensed yourself or help a foster parent local to you :)

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0:00 Intro
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3:44 Steps to prevent allegations
7:29 What happened
16:53 After math & encouragement
28:14 Results of allegation

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[HappyHoppe]

Thank you for all your support - this was the HARDEST thing we've walked through! If you want extra perks like emojis, bonus videos and early access of videos, become a member with the JOIN button above

[cLorraine]

A false allegation was made against me about my own child, by a neighbour trying to cause chaos and emotional pain. I temporarily lost custody of my child and three foster kids for weeks before it was sorted. I felt gutted. I did leave the system.

[bunny_]

I had a friend who was fostering to adopt a child. She was placed with her as an infant. She had really bad baby excema and my friend was working with a doctor to get it resolved. She had a "friend" babysit for her and the "friend" reported her. This child and another foster child she was just fostering not planning to adopt were removed due to these false allegations. She tried to get her little girl back and went through a lawyer, but it didn't work. She had a breakdown from the grief. It was horrific, and my heart still breaks for her. She has no idea where that baby is. And that baby lost the only mom she had ever known who loved her more than anything. All because of a false report of baby eczema!

[kidsstudynow]

I know a women who loved her foster kids and they loved her. She was falsely accused of neglect by some unknown person. The women and the kids were separated and kids separated from each took years before it was determined spent thousands to fight her case and to get her kids to stress and depression because of the situation, she died of a broken heart and never saw the kids again. It's been over 18 years now....the kids were between 2 to 6 years are adults now but no telling how they lives are were never found. I pray they are well and that they found each other.

[moobrien]

PEOPLE WHO CALL CPS AND LIE NEED TO BE PROSECUTED THE WAY SOMEONE CALL ABOUT

[osmanvincent]

I participated in a local group dealing with false child abuse accusations. This lead to being an observer of a group of maybe fifteen foster parents who had been accused of abuse by foster children. This was usually the result of an older foster child having a beef over some house rule or discipline. The kids quickly learn in group homes that if they make an abuse claim against a foster parent, they will most likely be immediately transferred to another location. Some kids have done this multiple times with multiple foster parents.

Few things are worse than dealing with baseless false allegations, especially around child abuse and child sexual abuse. Many foster parents have had to hire attorneys for tens of thousands of dollars and have lost their home over such false allegations. The foster agencies don’t adequately warn foster parents about the risk they are assuming. Personally, I think agencies should cover the legal costs if the accusations are not proven true. All this is on top of the obvious emotional devastation.

[tcar-glge]

My family was just licensed this week to foster. Today coming to your channel not only did I learn about possibilities in fostering, I was poured into. This really fed my soul today. Apart from your answer to the kingdom to foster, you are sharing and spreading the gospel to the viewers...God bless you...❤️❤️❤️ Praying you will be grounded in His Grace and Mercy all your days under the Sun.

[amieeheart]

One more thing. The kids need more guidance. I wasn't given opportunities to go to church until weeks before aging out of the system. If there was more opportunities I would have liked to attend. I was given other opportunities in the system being that I did not have an addiction problem such as volunteering at nursing homes, YMCA aerobic in the water for the elders when I was a teen. It kept me grounded and aware from the booze and drugs the other kids got involved with. I also helped with filing paperwork at the YMCA when I wasn't doing water aerobics instructor at 15 years old . I would rather volunteer any chance that I got verses to going to alcohol/drug meetings that the other kids had to attend .Hope this helps.

[lovingyourlifewithmommad]

we listened to this during our foster training. Made me sad but glad it worked out. I'm sure there are some who didn't have a good outcome. Keep trusting in God. We are about to adopt our 2 girls. Fostering is life changing

[jammiegregory]

My husband and I had a similar situation and having documentation of EVERYTHING helped us tremendously! We had the allegations presented to us 1 hour after we had just adopted our first child so it was the best/worst day of our life! Being a foster parent you really have to have the heart the patience and the Lord to succeed in truly helping these children bc we as the foster parents go through things that no other parent has to worry about of think about and it is very important that you have the love patience and care and do not get Angry with the kids during the hard times. You are amazing and I'm so glad you decided to keep fostering

[yaniraortiz]

As a Foster Mom I had been in your shoes. It’s hard but God will help you.
One day I received a one week old girl after 18 months the adoption was completed. But the TPR broke my heart too.

[lisafenn]

I'm going through this right now. Been fostering my 2 little granddaughters for 3 months. Son been trying to undermine and destabilize the placement. He accused me of something awful but completely unfounded. Not seen my grandkids for a week and I have extreme severe anxiety. In shock I told social worker i can no longer foster them but now changed my mind. Praying they will come back to me

[amyt]

Your strength of faith during such a hard situation is wonderful. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your experience to help others.

[kickdropacoin]

Thank you for sharing that! I've also experienced false allegations and it's HARD to keep it together when it happens. So glad you've made it to the other side and can now heal. It's hard not to come away from it without feeling discouraged but I was once told that if you're a foster parent, it's not a question of whether, it's a question of when.

[pamd]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I am however glad that it made you stronger as a foster parent as a person and as a partner. I'm impressed by both of your parenting skills You're amazing! Thank goodness you had a good team that knows you so well. 😊💓🙏💯

[chasingrainbowschannel]

Wow Lisa! I cannot believe all you both went through! That is just unimaginable to me that anyone would make an allegation against you both! It honestly made go through every emotion with you as I watched this. You both are amazing people and foster parents...that is just craziness to me that anyone would think anything less of you both. I can't even imagine how scared you were for yourselves and the kids in the situation. That is so unfair to even think that someone would risk putting those poor kids through more trauma by possibly having them taken away from a place they feel safe. That is heartbreaking to me! I am so glad that didn't happen and that God brought you through this and made you stronger along the way. I'm proud of you both for standing so strong in your faith...you both inspire me so much! Keep doing what you do!😊💜

[googleuser]

Your video...wow! Thank you for sharing not just the facts but how God played such a role in the journey. As a foster mom I wonder how anyone would get through this without God. I lean heavily into him on the daily and like you, I have so many "God moments " that just help remind me in His plan. Your testimony is encouraging and I pray God continues to reveal his beautiful plan for your lives.

[amymenjivar]

There should be consequences for people who make completely false allegations. You may want to see if your department differentiates between unsubstantiated and unfounded. Unfounded is the better outcome as it indicates allegations were false. Unsubstantiated means no evidence found which isn't quite the same as it didn't happen. Your agency obviously knew what they were doing when they came to you. To not give you notice that you would need to spend several hours with them (even w/out revealing cause) wasn't cool. Your entire day was disrupted with no notice as so often is the case in foster care. You were more worried about getting the investigation over to try and avoid having the kids removed than really considering what was happening and whether you needed an attorney. Yes, you can be innocent. But, in the foster care world that doesn't mean truth = right outcome will happen. Yes, some agencies are great but some aren't and some can twist things. Hope people consider an attorney if they are investigated.

[yaniraortiz]

I’m crying. Thanks for share your journey. It’s so inspired for me. I’m a foster Mom and sometimes it so hard but Jesus call us to this. It's a privilege.

[jessicacandyainsworth]

I am going through thay right now. 😢😢😢😢It is difficult when false accusations are made by people who know nothing about the children or your family.