The true signs of denial

Prompts to start breaking the habit:

1. Who are the people in my life that are causing me hurt or pain that I don’t set boundaries with around this behavior?

2. What are the behaviors I currently take part in that are causing my own hurt or my own pain, and where are those behaviors?

3. When do I struggle to be honest with myself about something destructive that I’m doing in my own life, and what destructive things am I doing?

4. What are the painful experiences or situations that I refuse to think about or talk about, and why?

5. How am I spending my downtime most of the time, and does this help me to get closer to my goals or farther away from them? What steps can I take now to get a little bit closer to my goals?

6. What part or parts of my life am I avoiding right now that are causing me more issues and more problems?

Key Points
00:00 Are you in denial?
00:55 Signs you are coping with denial
02:25 Prompts to start breaking the habit

[mirolisen]

My whole family is in denial. I've been trying for decades to bring things up. Things that are dysfunctional and hurting not only me, but ive been trying to focus on me, to avoid putting words into other peoples mouth. Ive been replied with thing like I need to let go of that, i need therapy, and that I am a difficult person. Not even when I was physicaly arracked by another family member did anyone else interviene. And now when ive shunnned them all, they act like it was a big surprise and they have no idea why I've ghosted them.

[yukio_saito]

Don’t Even Notice I Am Lying (DENIAL). -- I like this acronym. 😅

[nadi]

I want to talk about everything, don't mind being vulnerable. My fam does. Accepting they see me as the scapegoat. For years tried to adjust. Learning to love me too, so putting up boundaries and breaking free from the toxic patterns

[civail]

Ive been focussing on radical acceptance lately. This came at the perfect time. Love your content, thanks for all you do

[umchileanywaysso]

Ive been aware ive been in denial but i didnt know what to do about it so i continued distracting myself. Thank u nicole for this video :) i have something to work with now

[germainelowpt]

Thank you so much. I'm not the only one whoe can't afford therapy, especially in this economy, so thank you to post those videos. They help quite a lot

[adrybernal]

Yes, I have lived in denial most of my life. One of my coping mechanisms is over eating.

[expatlaura]

Unfortunately the nature of denial disallows someone from understanding they are in denial. Sent this to my dad anyway…

[beckymichel]

I was in denial… it became painful. I faced the issues, I found it to be very isolating. I’m alone. I’m the enemy. I have no family anymore & my marriage is ending… that is the cost. 😳

[suzannecooney]

I am living with my 26 year old son & he is in denial about the relationship he is in... every time i or his sister have tried to raise issues with him, defensive & deflects & gaslights

[StopLookandListenwithSamantha]

Great video! It would be cool if you added a pop box with the questions or maybe paused to change the whiteboard to have them listed, then people could pause and write them down/interact with them.

[brendag]

I love your videos ❤thank you so much! 🙏🙏🙏

[ryanstraccia]

wow awesome questions, thanks so much

[jasperruddock]

It's one of the best vudeos i seen on YouTube

[lyndadoerner]

Asked those questions a while ago, and set a boundary, going no contact since then. It helps, but, how does that ultimately solve the issue? It doesn’t. But at least they are not in a position to cause even more trauma and pain. People have to want to get better, and be willing to do the work.

[marshall]

Hi, i just wanted to let you know that i loved your old thumbnails. The new ones are nice looking but they feel a little aggressive and clickbaitish. I think the old ones were more therapeutic. Thank you for all you do, your content has really helped me ❤️

[Chris-hpgg]

Denial is not just a river in Africa.😂

[Varonno]

There ain’t no family anymore. There’s no one to have boundaries with. The hurt is going through the motions. Is it destructive if I’m not dying quickly? I don’t have those bad habits and I can make good choices if I want/need to. Who cares about goals and normal long. Been there, done that and it’s not creative or beneficial.

And life CAN ALWAYS be worse. Life IS emotions. Irresponsible behavior is debatable. Life’s not perfect. Perfection is self defeating. Relax, we all don’t have to be rich, famous, successful or otherwise. If you’re an orphan, enjoy it. No point chasing people anymore. I even did it when I was young just to get the ball rolling. It’s a bit quiet some evenings. It’s also nice to have the quiet and no one’s barking at me anymore. Moderation!Any questions? Get on it. 😂

[Garybob-eq]

My Parents did this, because both of them, came from Dysfunctional Families.

[cinderling]

Am i in denial? Why would i be in denial?