How to Process Fear using Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Timecodes
00:00 Intro
2:08 Understanding Fear and Parts
3:31 Dealing with Fear and Parts
6:18 Processing Fear and Conclusion

[poeticposturing]

I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on YouTube. You are a gem.)

[nameeralaraji]

I watched Richard Schwartz give a demonstration... And as I have been over 40years on the path of self discovery ... I tried a session by myself today and I reconnected with my child in a deeper way... Thank you and to Richard Schwartz for his demonstrations

[EduardoCrispinRocha]

From my most scared part, I really want to thank you! The point you made about not taking it too literal was comforting enough so that I could feel curious enough to give my parts a chance to really be and feel.

[tmi]

Omgoodness! The culmination of all my studies!🎉

[CM-FCB]

I like this exercise, and the idea of letting a scared part fully tell the story of its fear isn't something I've seen in other IFS material.

It actually reminds me of CBT Worry Exposure exercises for generalized anxiety, though the thought of leaning into the scary story via parts work seems more engaging to me.

[nameeralaraji]

I am surprised no comments while fear plagues everyone... Thank you again

[phyllisboyle]

Thank you for this. I fear losing control while driving so I don’t anymore. I suffer with cPTSD and chronic Lyme disease. My life is very restricted because of this. I love ifs unfortunately my therapist just left me hanging after her office didn’t take my insurance anymore. I really appreciate the free content. I’m so tired of fear running my life.

[sherececocco]

Wow! Thank you. Much appreciated. I'm learning how to metabolize pain and following fear is important. I have been practicing worst-case my whole life. It's valuable.

[helensid]

I like this. Sometimes I do IFS in the more standard protocol and sometimes I just stay present for a part/s or the whole system, just noticing them in the body and holding them. Both are good

[stejac]

You are so right. We need to treat our parts conceptually and not as concrete entities. This also makes it easier to introduce this approach to integrating fear.

[nameeralaraji]

Thank you .. very well presented... Fear of rejection has been my companion all my life... It disrupted life.. I wrote a book on fear 17 years ago .. but it is stubbornly there... Accepting fear with no resistance works but often resistance springs up and that is where ifs helps because it addresses the traumatized child within to feel safer and accepting through the ifs model of meeting the child making peace with it in and in my case embrace it... However this is a process that needs reinforcing by repetition... This where I seem to fail because I get distracted from revisiting the inner child and connect to it again.... Ifs is something I came across recently... Thank you

[CC-ewmw]

That’s very interesting. The end of your video sounds like a puzzle piece I felt was missing for a while. It sounds like the process is more about acceptance—going to the place that the part fears most and then letting go and knowing you’ll be ok even if that thing happens.

Is that on target with what you’re conveying?

Awesome video.

[LiveIFS]

Original, Bite-Sized, Clear & Direct ✅✅✅

[throughthevalleytherapy]

Thank you! Will be using your videos as take-home tasks/tools to help my clients :)

[helenaigel]

Thank you, Conor. This was spot on great! So valuable I can't put into words!

[cmcorson]

This was incredibly helpful! Thank you! Plus I liked your philosophy & approach to IFS. I’ve subscribed to your channel & look forward to learning more from you.

[angela_mmz]

This was a fantastic video on understanding how to put IFS model into practice. Thank you!!!

[helendownie]

Thank you so much … a very clear explanation .

[TiaMarlier]

Your clarity and insight into IFS is amazing and incredibly helpful, Conor. I’m just beginning my self therapy journey with IFS and your videos started popping up (because of viewing other IFS videos) and discovering your approach is a total godsend! I’m so grateful for all that you’re sharing on your YouTube channel and for how truly gifted you are as a communicator and caring IFS expert. I have no doubt you are making a difference for so many people, myself included. Thank you!

[AsianDHD]

Thank you Connor, you're videos are always very insightful.