Altruistic Narcissist 5 Signs| Beware of 'Selfless' Narcissistic Parent

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[izawaniek]

The narcisist will also give you angry looks... either you submit or will regret being independent.

[breakthroughmoment]

Your puppy with the little squeaky toy!! So cute!!! Narcs always have an unfounded loyalty to people who are against you. They always oppose what’s best for You and steer you wrong with Their advice.

[aliacampbell]

Thank you for sharing. They are the worst nobody EVER believes you. I plan to leave very soon. I never felt like my parent would defend me from other people. People tell me my parent my mother is an “angel” behind closed doors she is very emotionally cold and does not communicate with her kids.

[garycordle]

From my experience I've saw the golden toxic child and they get spoiled and the other one gets breadcrumbs.👍 up Michelle.

[pearlgirl]

Both my parents, and my malignant narcissist mother claims to be “enlightened” and able to channel God. What better way for a narcissist to hide than to masquerade as someone who has divine insight into helping you avoid “narcissists” at a price, of course, for narcissistic supply. All while she never gives her own daughter, whom she neglected, gaslit and abused physically, mentally and emotionally, the right time of day!

[annamarie]

Oh my. "If your parents makes you feel bad for your choices as an adult" that's every Italian and Greek parent !

[Cmac]

My narcissist actually admitted to me the she buried her childhood sadness in a happy, positive, loving personality…and didn’t want to share it with anyone due to the pain it may cause her. It broke my heart, but when I tried to address the abuse she was projecting on to me, I entered the demean and discard phase. It’s been brutal to process…but grateful for your videos to help work through it all.

[ChuangSarah]

We need more talks/ discussions on this kind of narcissists. My parents are communal narcs. They've been involved in charities for decades, establishing their altruistic images. But they couldn't care less about me while I was growing up.. I was basically an orphan, struggling to grow up with 2 self-absorbed adults. It feels weird to even say they raised me because they never really raised me. In fact, I was a parentified child

[goldieh]

Most of my extended family talks about how giving my parents are. What they don't realize is that my parents complain about the people they help, if they don't appreciate their help enough or don't take any advise my parents give. They are also so concerned about everyone, a way to make themselves look better than others while appearing to care. They are the ultimate concern trolls

[izawaniek]

Everything you say is true. Narcisistic parents destroy their children. Terrible but true.

[guyoneforher]

This lady is spot on
The truth is you don't know ...until you know!

I'm glad she makes these...

[Treezp]

Great point about assessing your parents' friends if you're wondering what's going on, in any situation really. Thanks again Michelle! All the best, Theresa

[mattwilliam]

-Michele, you look so great these days - you look, really happy and healthy - I'm happy for you !!! 🌅✨

[baby-xpdn]

Let's talk about a Narcissist parent that is acting like God outside and help everyone around him, but neglect you repeatedly.

[reettaelina]

I always found that "friend" who eighter is codependent trying to heal others or codependent trying to heal me. I left those friends because I don't want to be forcefully healed or watching how they are trying to heal their family members forcefully. It is not gonna work ever. That is so sad.

[shellybarnes]

This one is my Mom!

Her talk is so big!

As they get older their tactics stop working as well on other people though. They become much less subtle and start burning bridges with all of the people in their lives.

[mirasol]

Gosh the complexity of narc, co-dependent, borderline dynamics are so complex. As a person struggling with co-dependency, c-ptsd and fight/people pleasing as trauma response, then this is so hard! Because I have felt that healthy people sometimes puts me in that category, that my niceness when triggered is the type described here. Honestly, at this point I find it quite hard to understand what to do with my love of kindness, and doing nice meaningful acts for others. I have listened to so many of your videos and have healed a-lot from where I started, when I found your page, and working with my self awareness, becoming aware of the manipulation from others, healing my weak internal spots that were used against me. But my love of kindness and the joy of seeing how happy you can make other people through kind acts, I dont know what to do about that yet. It is a blurry line for me between healthy and unhealthy kindness, because it takes so little to brighten somebody else's day or help someone se opportunities for happiness when they are stuck because as an empathic co-dependent it comes so natural for me the small things that makes such a huge difference. An example, a friend of mine was in a bad place emotionally and very isolated, so I met her we had a fun evening and based on my gut I knew that starting dating again would be a positive change, so I helped her make a dating profile, and she found an amazing man and they are celebrating their one year anniversary this weekend. And off-course that makes me feel good, just like the altruistic narc.

[dianeshoemaker]

It’s so helpful and validating how you take on the un-seen or invisible narcissists. It’s so hidden behind a veil of niceness that it’s hard to identify.

[anastasijabeograd]

I only want to leave one thing here, my grandmother only has one child (my mother) and my mother doesn't want to take care of my grandma. my grandma has distant male relatives whom she has financed all her life, simply because they are worth more in her eyes. although these male people treat her terribly and even steal from her !! All her life she neglected my mother in order to earn money abroad. She sent this money to these relatives so that these men could organize her house construction. now my grandma is 82 years old and still nothing has changed. she still respects these male distant relatives more than her own daughter and grandchildren (me & my brother). I was with her for the last three days to clean her neglected - dirty apartment because I felt sorry for her & nobody else does that for her. when suddenly her cell phone rang and it was my cousin's turn to asked her for money again. I went nuts because I can't believe it anymore. i took her cell phone out of my grandma's hand to give this unscrupulous thief my opinion! then my grandma hit me on the head from behind. I've almost fell to the ground. my cousin only laughed at me on the phone because he has the full support of my grandma. these more distant relatives all have privileges and she loves to be treated like a mistake by them. although these guys do nothing for her, on the contrary, they treat her terribly and take all her money. i have known that for some time now, talking to her does not help, she wants to poke my eyes out when i say something bad about these relatives. She has always treated me, my mother and my brother like dirt. now she is already very old and frail, but her character is very angry and she insults us regularly, says bad things to us. the others she praises to heaven even though they treat my grandma like dirt and take away all her money. if she needs help she comes to me and I always give in out of pity. Today I gave her back the keys of her apartment and swore to myself to not go there again because she doesn't appreciate it anyway. Today she even mentioned that she wants to give her house (part of it) to these relatives after her death. I was speechless. I also have to say, that my grandma is the oldest child & she was the only daugther... she had two younger brothers who already died before her. and she was raised like men are worth more than women ! by her parents she was raised like this. She cuta her hair always short & I think she regrets the most that she isn‘t a men on herself. she is also an extrem narcissist. She also give money & gifts to bus drivers - it‘s crazy. When I was 4 years old, she brought some guy from the highway home & after a short time, my mother & this men came closer & were together… One day ma mum was at work & my grandmother had to take care of me, so this men asked my grandma if he may play with me a little (it was daytime I remember) and without thinking she said yes. He took me to my mum‘s apartment across from & and said that I could take a bath now, he let me have a bath and said I should move around in the bathtub while he was taking photos of me ... in the evening my mother came home and went crazy when she found out from me. I finally confronted my grandma a few days ago because I thought it was irresponsible of her, and she laughed like a witch and said to me: "Even back then you liked men" I said: damn I was a little kid 😢 why did you let that happen. And she laughed again and said whatever

[darrenkendall]

Exactly! Spot on! Thank you Michelle! My moms so wacked! Hopeless imbedded trauma and survival skills. To me Demonic! W/a fake coat of religious errogance smug & self righteousness. *I see through it thanks to you! Xoxo! X 1000! -Mr. 😎 Indifference