Adult Children of Alcoholics Raising Children ~ A Simple Guide for Stopping Intergenerational Pain

Parenting as an Adult Child:

Are you an Adult Child parenting your own children? Has fear of passing along intergenerational pain prevented you from becoming a parent? Parenting is difficult enough without struggling to pass on your own fears and trauma to your children.

The pain stops here.

What is your understanding of boundaries, structure, communication, affection and relationships? Was your "normal" growing up unhealthy and dysfunctional? If you grew up with an alcoholic parent, drug addicted parent, parent with mental illness, narcissistic mother or narcissistic father, or hyper religious or militant beliefs, you might have your own dysfunctional biases to pass along to your children. Not to mention your own shame and guilt. It is easy to pass on intergenerational trauma when you have not worked on gaining insight into your own beliefs and actions.

And remember, even the best parents make mistakes. Your kids, as adults, might tell you someday that you messed them up in ways that you never would have imagined. Welcome to parenthood. 

I present a simple parenting guide for parenting strategy for your children as you work through healing your own past traumas and rewriting your core beliefs; separate your Critical Parent from your Loving Parent. I wish to inspire hope and guidance in your role as an Adult Child Parent.

I dedicate this video to all the ACA's who are struggling with their own fears, doubts, and confusion about their own parenting skills.

I'm Ken Francis, M.S., California licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of The Intimacy Gram and The Gratitude Snorkel and Other Bedtime Stories. I specialize in Alcohol Addiction treatment, Substance Use Disorder Treatment, trauma recovery, and group therapy. I believe in life balance and building community support. Please check out my other videos as they are a good resource for information on substance abuse, trauma, motivation, and gratitude. 

With Covid-19 social distancing practices, I have had to stop teaching classes at my clinic. This video and others are my attempt to make my educational topics available to my patients. I have placed them on YouTube so others can benefit. Please like and subscribe to get more videos on recovery: Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Alanon, Adult Children of Alcoholics, Mindfulness, good Mental Health and Self Care.

Please feel free to share this ACoA based material so that others can benefit!

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Adult Children Parenting their own Children
00:53 Fear in Parenting
01:33 The Basics: Providing Safety and Supportive Guidance
03:19 Keeping Balance in Recovery
03:59 Learned Beliefs and Coping Patterns
05:21 Checking Our Own Biases
05:54 Creating Safety for your Children
06:43 Making Change Happen
07:40 Past Needs and Deficits
08:44 Fostering Positive Self-Esteem
09:40 Work Towards Teamwork and Collaberation while Avoiding Competition
11:57 Applying the 12 Steps of Adult Children of Alcoholics to Your Parenting
14:29 Wrapping Up

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Kenneth Francis

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For more information on the Adult Children of Alcoholics fellowship, please check out their website at adultchildren.org

Also check out my website: TheIntimacyGram.com

[joejackson]

Is it ok to ask Ken, could you explain the differences between Tony A's inventory and the regular one please 🙏🏽