How The Longing For Love Becomes Your Downfall

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Even when we were neglected and abandoned as kids, the desire for love and tenderness stays alive in us -- even when other people leave us, even when we have to stretch our imaginations to believe that our love is reciprocated. There’s an urge in traumatized people to pretend to be OK in half-love relationships, and to act like the crumbs they’re getting are enough. In this "best of" compilation of some of my best videos on childhood neglect and its impact on romantic relationships, I'll teach you how neglect primes you to bond with people incapable of loving, and how to get free so you can at last enjoy real love.

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[elstal]

I just spent the weekend with a female friend trying out a camping and travel group called Sisters on the Fly. It was so fun and I plan on becoming a member and doing more. They have a website listing all sorts of outings hosted by and for women all across the US, and internationally. I’ve also benefited from participating this past year in a weekly online CoDA meeting (male and female participants). And I always get something out of Crappy Childhood Fairy videos and comments. Thank you!

[Fullspeed]

"Am I going to be abandoned again if I say something? " That's exactly my story

[Highvibesandhappy]

Jumping into bed should be the last thing you do, a vetting of someones character always has to come first . That can only happen over time.

[nancychestnut]

If I knew what I know now when I was younger... I wasted 2 years with a therapist. She did help me but if I only could've heard your words in my 30s I might not still be single in my 70s. Your directness is everything.

[RoadRunnergarage]

Limerence... Is why I don't even try relationships anymore . Sad😢..

[northofyou]

I do tend to call myself 'stupid' all the time. But, yes, 'traumatized' is the right word. I need to forgive myself and stop sabotaging. And I need to finally learn how to become a whole person in spite of the trauma. Thank you, Fairy.

[webdoar]

And when you seek love, but don't feel it from your spouse.

[Theowlhawk]

Even though toxic abusive parents, i as a child was always kind to kids at school who were outcasts or bullied, because of their colour, or clothes or size.
Always kind to animals, nature, people.
I have removed myself from. All family and toxic friends.
At 57, one narc boss at work. Its a challenge! It gets stressful at times.
I love the job, helping others, and most of the customers appreciate me.
My love ❤to all who are on this journey of self love, healing ❤ 💕

[km]

The only progress I’ve made in my healing is down to Anna. Before I found her teachings I had been aware of my patterns and past for years but couldn’t make any move to make changes. I thought time would fix things and by no surprise this didn’t happen and as she mentions I just kept adding fuel to the fire. I can’t imagine being stuck in that loop now. Things aren’t changing at a drastic rate but I’m actively not participating in things that hurt me now and that’s huge

[vivalafrance]

My crime is that I love him... my punishment is that I love him. That's what Limerence feels like to me

[Hammondchris]

Gosh Anna sure is an empath!!! Really felt the writer's pain.
This letter Anna read really helped me see things i did and tolerated.. I was rooting for the writer thinking, "aw, that's like a trauma bond and no, no no dump this guy please, you deserve much more please.."then with one thought leading to another, then... I thought about all the parallels in the story and it helped me to see much much more clearly my situation. Gosh, it's true Anna, we do have all of this love to give and we are here to love and be loved. Why is it automatic to think... "so and so really deserves better, " but, not for ourselves, don't we all who love deserve to be loved??
Anna, I can talk and talk but I can't begin to tell you how much you have helped me, truly!! Thank you Anna Angel God bless you!! I'm so delighted that you found your" love" Anna!! How beautifully inspiring!

[prettypuff]

I’m here with positive energy from successful use of your tools.

I grew up undiagnosed autism and all of the trauma that comes with it. I recently moved to a new city and met a single man with a child. I let my loneliness be the guide as I navigated this relationship. Needless to say, I went down the path of my old ways.

After a predictable cycle of attention then being pushed away, I pressed pause to think. I have a friend that walks closely with me on my life journey who was less than responsive to my updates about this. This means im probably heading for disaster.

Limerance. Crap

But your tools are what taught me recognize that and how to correct. It is the early stages so I can self correct with little damage.

I was really pleased with myself

[fluxcapacitor]

I’m almost 50 yoa and I have stopped looking for love. I spent the majority of my life wanting to have a family, but both ex-spouses screwed me then, and continue screwing me, now, by getting other people to do the dirty work of stalking me, harassing me, and messing with my personal and professional life. I no longer care about finding someone to share my life with. I’m not sad/angry about it; I’m simply moving on. I should have done this from the start - develop my personal and professional life without a partner before including a partner.

[Chris-Fields]

Your videos are changing ME and my life. I can’t thank you enough

[TaShaBeNz]

It’s hard for me to decipher the difference between a crush and limerence.. it sounds like a crush taken to the next level.

[sadie]

Anna, you are a gift to this world. I felt as if you were talking to me today.And thank you for telling me that I deserve to be loved. It's the deserving/earning that I have always struggled with.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I am afraid of being alone for the rest of my life.. 😢 sad...

[bobbyallen]

My dad use to scream at me as a kid stop looking for love at school...I remember in my head thinking Im damn sure not getting it at home and pretty much numbed out after that.

[Indigo_newness]

I feel it's also friendships as well

[Atheistbatman]

This is perfectly true and I only figured it out last year doing a deep dive. Every woman cheated and lied to me and I never saw it…every single relationship has been a huge failure. I lived a seemingly idyllic childhood except my mother would pull me aside an tell me she hated me she never loved me and wish I wasn’t born…I was a scapegoat in a perfect childhood and I can see I’ve only been chasing my mothers love.
First holidays after no contact for a year and better every day but still so far to go