Two Character Traits That Defines an INTJ

This video explains why Intelligence and Confidence are the two character traits that set INTJs apart from the rest of the MBTI types.

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[yfaewwegfawg]

Your bit on socializing is on point. I’m an INTJ too and it really does take a lot of trial and error like exercising; starting small, staying consistent, and building up. I believe younger INTJs struggle with socializing because growing up we see the loudest, most attention drawing people succeed (which isn’t natural to us). But as we get older, what makes you popular as a kid is not the same as an adult. Being impactful and brief with your words along with sharp wit and comedic timing is received so well in social settings as an adult, in my experiences

[miranda]

I'm an INTJ female too. But I'm kinda lucky regarding the "learning how to socialise part". I usually didn't care about talking that much until it hit me quite hard when I was 18, the first time being out in society after graduating from high school. That was when I realised socialising skill is important. During that time, I suddenly noticed being a girl all I have to do is just to smile and laugh at everyone's joke so if I stay quiet, the crowd would like me too and I can get rid of the awkwardness. It was like killing 2 birds with 1 stone. It worked for years really! Until I got my first sales job at 24, by then only I got my human communication skills. Being in sales was really a tough journey, I still rmb how bad I was not able to talk with the customer. It was like all silence and when he asked, only I answered. But glad that I graduated from it. So to the intjs out there, YES U CAN DO IT u just have to put urself out there and let the environment forces u.

[vjforsythe]

This is so interesting. People have told me they can tell I'm intelligent when I've kept quiet or only asked a handful of questions to better understand something. People have always told me I have an affect of courage or strength, "you seem so confident!" When, in my interior, I'm mostly thinking I am doing something that makes the most sense. At my last contract, a coworker I really liked and had grown close to, laughed when she caught me casually conversing w a new coworker, "Watch out, here she comes with the questions!" I hadn't even realized it was something I was becoming known for. But the questions thing does endear people to you. If I ever feel like I'm not performing well socially, I just put the spotlight on whomever I'm interacting with bc people love to talk about themselves, and most people have something interesting to share, or just need to feel heard. As a young person I was too focused on what works or what makes sense regardless of how people feel about it and it's definitely rubbed people the wrong way. They always take things so personally, which was very bewildering growing up. INTJs are def walking BS detectors, as I have enraged certain ppl thru the years as I quickly pick up on the wool they were trying to pull over everyone's eyes 🤷🏽‍♀️ like I wasn't even really trying, it was just obvious they were full of 💩

[Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

"Intelligence is magnetic and confidence is comforting" It's a beautiful sentence, and I agree. Maybe wisdom is attractive.
It's very that, and it's one of our paradox : we doubt when we have not enough informations, because we know we can miss informations (Se inferior), and once we have enough informations, we have extreme confidence. I have the impression people are afraid of us, and think we are arrogant when we are confident and direct.

Don't worry all make sense ^^ and it's very clear. When we have high intuition, we understand even when something is not very well explained. Our intuition complete the sentences, or the blanks. We understand the global idea.
When someone don't listen to me, it's often because of the ego of the person, when the person think she is better than me because she is older, she think she have more experience and is more intelligent.

[oliviarinaldi]

Jon I was about to remark on how easily you make it to learn what you are saying. Honestly, that's what I was getting ready to type when you told us about your cold and hoping you made sense. Dude, you have a gift for making difficult things easier.

[jackbradway]

Nailed it! I especially liked the asking questions.

My coworkers sometimes get frustrated at me because I claim to never have executed the perfect event. Despite 18 years, not one event couldn't have been improved if one more question was asked in the planning.

And then there is the handling of feedback. Sometimes a rave review comes in for a simple event, and coworkers are confused I don't jump up and down. Other times, no feedback is given for an event that was intricate and executed well. My coworkers get down that they didn't receive praise. I know what I did, and what we did. Confidence is knowing the intrinsic value you provide, not having to be told.

As cliché as it is, Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People may be the most important "textbook" I've ever read. The tools he espoused helped me develop a cloak of extroversion and dig out of the Ni-Fi loop.

As always, thank you, Jon, for being the most authentic voice for INTJs on YT. Rock on my virtual friend.

[badpoetry]

I really admire you, Jon. I went from just appreciating your content to deeply respecting you as a human being, for sharing how you approached learning to make friends / dance with people. So many people (my INFP type included, me during periods of my life) who have trouble with the relational aspect of existence would rather sit on the sidelines and put our focus elsewhere. You were smart enough to realize good relationships are essential to our wholeness, had the intelligence and humility to set about learning how to have them—and finally the courage and grit to execute. And then share with the world that you did! I tip my sequined hat to you, beautiful soul, and hope to see you on the dance floor of life! 🎉❤

[gwenbuchanan]

you are so right on.. finally, feels so good to come across someone who knows how it feels to be a INTJ.. Thank you!!

[MrEcto]

I didn’t know about personality types up until a few days ago. Stumbling upon this video really helped me make sense of myself a lot. I appreciate the content.

[sugrbmb]

I used to get in trouble as a kid for doing both.. I'm so glad I've grown past that!

and if someone can't handle it, then they can keep walking. besides, I wouldn't want to waste energy talking with them since it's likely they either wouldn't understand or wouldn't be able to keep up. and I got no time for small talk. 🙃

[jdao]

Absolutely true. 🔥🔥I love your content. Shows the real side of INTJ live and intentions most often left shrouded in shadow.

[missbealovesalbert]

You made perfect sense and didn't even sound sick.

[coldxois]

Great video Jon, im having a bit of trouble sleeping, but this video make it worth it, keep it up 👍

[normanyeo]

Googling how to have social interactions is something i totally related. Thats basicslly the story of my young life.

[gillamon]

I have a lot of fun watching your videos and I just want to make sure you don't quit! You got this! Also, I am pretty new to mbti and I'm also young, so I'm doubtful about my type but I've been guessing myself as an INTJ, so watching your videos helps a lot with self inspection

[SmashMaster]

Wow! Yes… I’ve always been making the perfect plans with no room for failure… to find myself falling into the cushions of my risk planning strategies… or sometimes just hammering my plan through regardless of feasibility lolll 😂

[missbealovesalbert]

I despise small talk. Yes, when most people talk, I don't want to listen... lol. *I know how you meant it*

[pixiegrey]

I have to say, I am sorry for the social anxiety caused by people and that you have to do so much research in an attempt to make friends.

And a question: Are you fulfilled in those friendships?

I was lucky to grow up with an INTJ brother. The way he planned his life and succeeded in his goals are admirable. The sad thing is, people don't get him. The problem isn't him though. I think INTJ's are the type that needs to be sought out by others. By people that actually take the time to get to know the INTJ (and aren't easily offended😂).

I also had to learn over the years to simply let people be wrong, to just have small talk (😏) and continue on with my day.

INTJ humour and sarcasm is just the best. Especially when people don't get it 😂

Thanks for sharing!

- ENTP

[malibustacys]

If you are trying to date woman, it is easy to find just friends.

But the jokes aside, I always was and am more on the introvert side of the spectrum. And after I had found my small circle of friends, I don't really have the intrest in enlarging it.

[esnardojaredralph]

dunno if im the only intj that dont research about friendship, im not socially incline when i was about on grade 7 and grade 8 but when i get to grade 9 i met my friends and i learn to socialize from them and my whole highschool days ive learned the right way to socialize but sometimes at that time when i dont like to socialize i would stay silent but still my sh and highschool days i learned a lot on how to be friendly and socialize on strangers but not in a group, maybe a solo conversation