Checking Up On r/fakedisordercringe

It's been a while since I looked at r/fakedisordercringe so I think it's about time I check up on it.

[BluetheNerd]

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[spphicore]

The fact they referred to us as a “fandom” means they don’t see us as people, but characters they can cosplay as or tokenize

[schuyler]

One thing that people don’t understand about autism is not everything is sunshine and rainbows which they make it out to be like. I am almost 19 years old and I am still eating with baby spoons because I hate the texture of metal utensils. The smallest things can send me into sensory overload, like sticky fingers or weird coding stuff off chips, that’s why I ate most of my stuff with chopsticks. Second thing is I have a scar on my face from a dresser falling on my nose when I was younger, for half my life kids bullied me because of the scar. Now a days I usually cover up with my glasses or make up.

[CursedCerberus]

What annoys me most as someone with ASD is the whole fake autism stimming trend? Stimming is more embarrassing or annoying than fun, generally speaking. Also... people seem to forget that verbal stims exist for some reason?

[guidomista]

that theory about people who used to make fun of autistic classmates going on to fake autism for tiktok clout definitely actually happens. when i was in eighth grade there was this kid in my class who relentlessly made fun of my best friend for having autism and antagonized them for it. about two years later and we see the same kid pretending to have a flappy-hand stim for a tiktok video. while you dont have to have autism to stim, they were clearly stating in the video that their stims stemmed from autism, which both my friend and i knew was bs because in all their years of knowing each other my friend never saw this kid stim once.

[arthursmarthur]

As someone with a whole ‘salad’ of mental disorders and learning disabilities, I’ve never felt comfortable sharing all of them with random people, or even some people I know relatively well. I could easily be discriminated against or hurt. It’s weird to me that people just love telling others everything that is wrong with them.
Also, autism sucks. I’m tired of the whole ‘autism is cute and quirky’ thing. Yeah, it can be ‘quirky’ at times? But having a meltdown every time you lose something and throwing shit becuase your little brain can’t handle it is honestly so embarrassing, not to mention the accidentally hurting yourself, or breaking something. It’s very not much fun at all. And the people saying ‘I don’t get the people who wish they were neurotypical, being autistic is so fun’ and it’s like no, it’s not. I don’t understand jokes or facial expressions. My facial expressions and tone of voice are often misinterpreted, which usually leads to me getting yelled at or called rude. I sometimes do things without understanding that maybe that’s not okay to do, such as telling a joke that maybe you shouldn’t tell to that particular person. Not to mention the whole fear of anything being changed or different than how it usually is or how you typically do it. It’s a battle of ‘what did they mean? Do they know what I meant? Is there something wrong with my face? Is my tone okay? I have to do this how I WANT it, if I did it the other way, I’ll be anxious. Do my stims, especially my facial ones, disgust or annoy the people around me? Is what I’m doing bad for masking? Am I going to be hurt by other people in some way becuase I’m autistic? Did they just insult me, or am I just confused?’ It’s honestly awful. But ofc the people faking it don’t want to talk about the bad, they want to seem ‘fun.’ Stimming can hurt and isn’t always a choice, it’s almost always subconscious for me. These people just choose when to stim, I hardly do. Not to mention how it’s usually done when you feel either way too much or too little, it’s a coping mechanism. It’s not fun, it can be embarrassing. It’s also weird when a neurotypical person just kinda… joins in? Like, I’m doing this because I feel like crying and I’m on the verge of a panic attack, why are YOU doing it? Does it look… fun to you???

[BeeseChoard]

I was jump scared when your partner lifted their head. I was 1000% convinced that was the head of a poodle behind you until that point.

[fynnsjogren]

I got diagnosed with autism when I was 16 and the amount of people on tiktok turning it into this cutesy, almost childlike disorder absolutely infuriates me. Like other people have commented, it's absolutely hell most of the time, it's a constant struggle, not something fun or something we necessarily *want* to have

[squidcurls]

the "who has more mental illnesses" competition reminds me of the whole "well /I/ only got this many hours of sleep!" competition of who could get the least amount of sleep. Neither are good

[collin]

I feel like the person who listed off all their disorders was maybe trying to make a point about being frustrated at how people will say "I'm OCD!" when in reality they just have an alphabetized bookshelf, things like that. Maybe not in the best way, but that's how I took it to mean.

[Silly_Cookie]

Your partner is so cute! “I have very strong opinions on forks” lol and you calling them “darling” was the cherry on top! Wish you both well!

[missybuchanan]

I had someone insist that I had Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome simply because I said I was double jointed. I was like “ummm, no, just double jointed”. Then another person insisted. It was so bizarre

[Chelaxim]

I have heard that some of us people on the autism spectrum actually do create an uncanny valley effect but it's not for the reasons why that person in the tick tock was trying to portray. Some of us (NOT all of us) on the autism spectrum speak with a flat affect no matter what our emotions are and some of us also don't make facial expressions or make very little facial expressions. Which sometimes people see that as kind of creepy like a replicant from the Blade Runner movies. Also for those people like myself who don't make facial expressions, well you got natural Botox and i'm over here with the same clothes and same hair like I was preserved in Amber since 2009.

[Nobody]

I have high functioning autism ( along with a few other disorders) and I can tell you that I do not enjoy it.
It's made my life so hard and has nearly pushed me over the edge at times.

I couldn't even pass the 9th grade because of it causing spelling issues. It made me much "slower" than others.

Shame on these people for making a mockery out of something so serious.

[rayisaduck]

I'm genderfluid and autistic, i feel disrespected on so many levels rn

[ipadbabyArmand]

One of the things I notice about people who talk about autism or ADHD or other conditions that come with hyper fixations is that they talk about fixations as if they're fun, quirky things that you just like a lot. They never talk about how hard it is to think about anything else, how you forget to eat/sleep because of the fixation, I have lost friends over fixations. You're allowed to just want yo talk about your fixations in a positive way if you want to but a lot of people don't seem to realise how consuming and possibly destructive hyper fixations can be.

[zbcrazy]

“Master has given Dobby a sock! Dobby is autism-free!”

[bynnyn]

Gurl, if I could be disabledfluid, I would. My legs are in constant pain that fluxes from a 4 on a pain scale to wayyyy past 10-- usually at 6.

I can't walk for a long time, 10 to 20 minutes most days, without my legs giving out on me. Hopefully, I get a wheelchair soon.

My disabilities, especially my chronic pain disorder, aren't cool or quirky. They're awful.

[OkiSmokey]

As someone with autism and other disorders, i used to compare my disorders to everyone else’s as if it was a contest and never understood why but then I realised it was because of ✨trauma✨ from when people didn’t believe me for years that I had significant issues, so now I work through that with my therapist. To the people who do that now: it’s not normal. Try identify the reason you feel the need to make it a contest and work through it, you’ll be happier

[allexmussen]

This is one of the reasons why I don't go on tik tok. People kept asking if I was autistic and I kept getting videos on 'signs of autism' and it was giving me so much anxiety seeing them.