Lessons I've Learned from the People Who Don't Like Me | Nichole Myles | TEDxWhitePointGardensWomen

[armedanddangerous]

People stopped pretending to like me when I started simply taking care of myself emotionally & spiritually. Then instead of participating in gossip; I began to listen and offer prayer. Strangely I now have only 2 friends.

[usmca]

These same tactics are used against men. In my late 40's I was told by my late 20's boss the office staff (women in their early 20's) did not like me. I was too serious and focused only on company goals rather than attempting to build relationships with them. I was warned I should be more likable if I ever wanted to be promoted. I now own my business.

[robertjnoble]

I know this feeling, I look at people I believe are looking at me and judging me, my mind goes crazy and I wonder why they dont like me.

[markheichorn]

The only person who has to like me, is me.

[AppleSlicesUnite]

We try to make ourselves small, in fear that people won't like us, but the truth is, those who force us to fit into their comfortability never liked who we truly are, to begin with. Why not work on being ourselves.

[ruperttheprince]

"Made myself smaller" oh do I know this, done it most my life!

[nancyworthington]

This is my daughter, my hero. The strongest kindest most tenacious woman I know. Heed her message. She is a wise warrior.

[Me]

I don’t care what people think of me… especially if they haven’t taken the time to get to _really_ know me.

[annmerrychristmas]

Oh this is me, striving so much for validation, thank you Nichole!

[michaelhunt]

I was having this conversation with my daughter the other day, reminding her that being liked doesn't always bring happiness. She said I wouldn't understand because I'm a guy. You have no idea how pleased I am to have come across this now! Sending to her now. One of the best ted talks I've ever seen!!

[eugeniajones]

I have always been a person that spoke my mine, a lot of people would tell me be quiet, don't say anything etc, but I still spoke my mine. I don't care what others think of me that's there problem, I have made up my mind to be myself and embrace who I am. And I like myself and i like being different.

I have never been a follower, I have never followed the crowd. I 'm a leader.

[chelseasavage]

Why has this got so few views, this is really good! I have spent a lifetime trying to be likeable.

[hubert-olszewski]

This definitely hit a few heart strings. I think there are a lot of us who didn't fit in at school or at work who will feel this on many levels. I watched my little sister get the brunt of it from our folks - constantly told she was too loud, too opinionated - she always had something to say, a question to ask, incredibly curious and just wanted to make connections, but no one ever had the time to hear her out. Told her to be quiet a lot, to play by herself, to calm down, to not be so sensitive. I did my best to have her back but I am convinced the lack of encouragement in her life has lead to her mental health issues. This talk was really awesome and I'm going to send it to her, I think it'll give her some hope. Thank you.

[媛高-ew]

i cannot agree with you more, i am not likable since i was in college because i am really ambitious, but who cares about those who do not favor me . what i need to do is to focus on myself and keep going

[lucyiberard]

I love that, being likeable isn't superior to be anything else I am!!!

[kaylacalkins]

Maybe it's all about getting to the point that you don't need to ask anyone who you are?

[pepedomingo]

woah! I recognize that Rainbow Row 😎 Didn’t know my own city had Ted events!

[themostofall]

Her kids have such an amazing role model. Excellent talk. Such amazing energy.

[carolanneoswald]

I've never concerned myself with being liked, I had a good lesson on the behaviour of people as a child of 5 years. Never mind what people say, keep an eye on their behaviour..

[AmyClimer]

So relevant! I love this message. We often let likability get in the way of much more important things like making positive change in the world.