How Narcissists Rewrite History and if they Believe It

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[manzanitaverde]

Yes, amazing to know that he has to tell himself so many lies in order to justify himself.

[isobelle.London]

My ex is always doing this it made it impossible to ever resolve issues . He is always either manipulating, lying, gaslighting, rewriting events and always a victim always and can never ever take responsibility for anything he did I came to believe he has some type of psychosis.

[keiraquinn]

It’s exhausting to be a narcissist. Chaos never leaves their lives. They destroy other people just because they have miserable lives

[terridillon]

DENIAL in its highest form. DECADES OF LIES!

[deha]

My ex hovered me by following me to where I was going for a walk. We broke up in late November when he chose an elective surgery instead of supporting me through a cancer surgery. It is my 3rd diagnosis in a decade and my second metastasis. I dumped him immediately when I saw he was choosing himself, even when I needed his support. During his most recent hoover, he told me he didn't know I had cancer in November/ December in spite of many conversations and him telling his "good buddies" about my tragedy to get sympathy for himself. If I didn't have the scars and test results, I would think I was insane.

[GabeAngelM]

Thank you for your content. Very thankful for all of your help with understand my situation the last 17 yrs. I'm out and for good. Dec. 4th 2022 was the last time I gave her any of my energy or attentions.

[nancybrooks]

This is such a great, clear explanation of how they MUST escape legitimate responsibility and accountability for anything mean they do—that doesn’t match up to their created image—even if it happened very recently, within minutes! The more egregious the hurtful action, the more they pull out every tool in their narcissistic toolbox: projection, gaslighting, blame shifting, dismissiveness, denial. Sometimes one after the other in rapid succession. Then, when the receiver gets upset, they quickly accuse the receiver of being angry, aggressive, and in need of therapy.

[cassiebennet]

I've long suspected that my husband is a covert narcissist. He's been rewriting HIS STORY quite frequently.
This just happened a few days ago. We were in the grocery store and suddenly he says "did you forget the tea you wanted?" I said yes. He just runs off to get it. It was weird. I wanted to stay together and was annoyed that he ran off, but whatever. It took me quite a while to find him. We get home and it's the wrong tea. It looks very similar to the one I get. I decided to try it anyway. It's absolutely horrible. I pointed out that he got the wrong tea and I didn't understand why he just took off to go get it. He tells me that it didn't happen that way and that he followed me to get the tea. All I can think is WTF is he talking about? That's not what happened. Dealing with these people will make anyone completely insane.

[nancybrooks]

And, if it’s an intimate partner, they can double down on their chosen form of punishment, that you dared to say something they’ve done has hurt you

[mad-scientist]

I could never understand why my mom is now simply pretending like she was never abusive, when she was always so upfront about her hate for me when I was a kid. This explanation makes sense, thank you for doing what you're doing.

[emmamonroe]

Anyone that is just learning about this. I researched this for 2 years then I started studying antisocial personality disorder ASPD, there’s more to it. Makes sure they don’t meet the criteria of 7 out of 9 or these. It will change and make you understand better. There’s more that can be cracked up to what’s really going on. Scary!☹️🥺😫😳

[jenniferc]

So disappointed that you only got 92 likes 13 days after this video. This video is so well articulated and so accurate to what I experienced in all its splitting off and crazy making. I appreciate you having created this video

[GLDn]

Kind of like you're living in their fantasy while trying to bring them back to reality.

[edwi]

My neglectful very neglectful mother talks about my great childhood

[oaw]

self aware but refuse to change... yeah...

[MinaDV]

Lived this.. . DAILY!!
Makes you go Crazy!!
I'm very attention to detail & he constantly made me doubt myself - I also gave in to certain situations for peace's sake as it wasn't that important nor worth the argument etc - Other times I would even exuse him as forgetful/tired/annoyed & even passionate of the subject or stance that "maybe" just over doing/twisting it ia bit with certain words & actions that really didn't happen as he said they did!🤔 But it happened so often that I had to make it a point to prove to "myself" WTH was going on!😑 And little by little, I learned & realized WHO he really was! I was just shocked & disgusted with the realization of his actions & most of all his intent! The strategizing! The hurt & I lived upon realizing that the man I loved & was to marry & grow old with "?".. . It was an undescribable loss - Left me empty & drained! He was a horrible ugly ugly monster! But little by little, I started voicing the facts more & more to prove a point of the lies & twisting of events - Resulting in more arguments & fights - He would say.. . ""You always do this! We're always back & forth & just cuzz you forget you try to blame me - FkMe - You're perfect"" Accompanied with violent outbursts & insults - throwing & breaking shit & then.. . Would twist that scenario around like it didn't happen like that!! So many degrees of lies/manipulation/trauma & abuse - Some too painful & shameful to share - But TY Ben for sharing your experience & helping us share ours - Blessings to you & your wife!!💕

[Angel_eyes___]

Still finds ways to effect me 24 years later through the grown children. Now they are estranged from me. Wow. He said i abused the kids. I never did. He did. I never new him. He never talked. Just would drink it. Hid a lot . Oh he had 2 realities all right. Holy mackerel

[melissabrackeen]

I finally left mine after 10 years of crazy. 2 weeks later my daughter finally felt comfortable enough to tell me he was mol£$ting her for the past 3 years 😭 she was 10 when it started, 13 now. I'm blown away and in complete shock people can be so evil. Now I'm the crazy jealous ex who's making up lies because I'm bitter. So frustrating how they will never admit what they do.

[Kimp]

Wow, this hit's home with what I've been going through for 8 month's after leaving him. Plus he's on drug's but again but won't admit it, after 18 year's.

[karoshi]

It went so far that I assumed I might have Alzheimer's or something. So I tried to manage that, produce some facts for the doc when necessary, etc., and thus took notes.

Turns out: I didn't forget stuff, I didn't imagine things. It's been gaslighting!

Of course I've presumably made that up. After breakup I seem to have hacked WhatsApp in order to change messages, I've manipulated our CPS lady, I've even somehow replaced court protocols _in_ the narc's file cabinet within their apartment.

... and then I've forgotten about it, said the narc.

Impressive what Alzheimer's can make you do.