How to Handle Desperate Friends and Family During SHTF with Limited Resources

Navigating the complexities of helping family and friends during a crisis is one of the toughest challenges preppers face. In this prepping video, we explore how to balance compassion and resources during SHTF scenarios.

We discuss key concepts such as family survival during SHTF, helping family without losing supplies, and protecting your home and resources from unprepared friends. You'll also learn about bugging in with family and maintaining operational security (OPSEC) to avoid becoming a target when friends and family ask for help. We provide actionable tips for family preparedness during emergencies, offering assistance without drawing attention, and handling survival decisions with family and friends.

Additionally, we cover how to offer emotional support, share survival knowledge, and defuse conflict when family or friends turn to you in a crisis. It’s all about finding that balance between helping others and protecting your own survival.

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OUTLINE:

00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:53 Setting the Stage for Survival and Assistance
00:03:07 Know Your Limits
00:05:07 Protecting Your Supplies and Your Home
00:07:29 Offering What You Can Without Sacrificing Your Safety
00:09:39 When the Crisis Doesn’t End Soon
00:11:11 How to Frame Conversations and Defuse Conflict
00:12:50 Helping Without Drawing Attention
00:14:10 Rebuilding Relationships After the Crisis
00:15:40 Conclusion

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[dutchvanderbilt]

If people ever say "when things go down I'm coming to you" ask them "well what are you bringing with you?"

[robhunt-watts]

I'm a former Royal Marine commando so dealing with aggressive callers is within my ability.
Dealing with vulnerable visitors, needing help, is another matter entirely.
My solution is trade. Yes, of course give starving families help, as a Christian, that is a given.
They can provide firewood for instance, they can be shown what to forage to exchange for food.
Make friends and allies is better than creating resentful enemies.

[Pamhulen]

My children and grandchildren are welcome. Just bring what you have. We will work together. The rest can take care of themselves.

[Stumppy]

I tell my 3 kids and all together 12 grandkids and I know some of my grandkids are to young to prepare, but my kids think my wife and I are crazy. So I told them if they come and I let them stay they had better bring the items that I have told them to bring and as much as they have. I'm 60 and disabled from the military and I'm my wife is 69. And if they stay, they will be doing a lot of the work. Like gardening, and the harder things that we can't. And my middle child and her family live with us. Its a touchy subject around are house. And we have been preparing since 2011. They think we are wasting money. But I tell her I would rather have it and not need it. Instead of need it and not have it.

[bealynn]

Sounds like a real example of the FABLE - THE LITTLE RED HEN

[readyornot]

If someone comes to our door I give them two options:
-I need help planting a garden. Glad you showed up! or
-We need help digging a latrine as we’re weak from hunger. Can you assist?
If they’re willing to work for it, they can join our group and we’ll share the meager portions.
Most will walk away.

[CARefugee]

Family and friends who are not prepared can be your worst enemies. They may feel entitled since they are 'family!' Lack of preparation does not create a crisis for those with the presence of mind to be ready for whatever comes their way. Be prepared for fireworks when you say no!

[wattyler]

I'm the only one who preps in my extended family when the shtf situation arrives. I just know they will all be at my door for help. I tell them and tell them. But they just raise there eyes. They have victim written all over them. Truthfully I give up trying to help them.

[NWcpl]

This amazing and so truthful. One of the most honest postings on what would and needs to happen under a SHTF scenario. I do my best to inform my family and friends. I send my adult kids preps here and there. BUT! if they don't help themselves to prep then they are at fault for the own choices. I have had the sit down and explained to them that I have enough for just mom and I only and that I DONT HAVE ENOUGH for the rest of you. Yes, they were a little shocked. But I said to them if I can prep so can Especially when they make more per year/month than I did in my career... I loved this video.

[jd]

In my forward planning I included my 80 year old barber.
His knowledge of the Bible is essential to the mental well being of our group.

[mendyviola]

Family is #1. Bring what you have to share resources.

[GreymanPrepper]

When the SHF, we can’t be emotional, your priority is your family.

[cho]

If you give them ONE bottle of water, they'll be back for more.

[rapcase]

Family and friends are your tribe. You take care of and defend each other.

[NorthernPrepper]

So this may sound bad and you may all judge me. But I’ve already told my half siblings that they can’t come tome for help when SHTF. I’ve told them about prepping and getting ready for SHTF. They aren’t my responsibility. If they show up. I’ll give them a can of beets and tell them to pound sand. (FYI I don’t talk to them anymore since our dad died in 2021)

[zanneizzo]

When approached, I think I would say something like "I was hoping you were bringing ME food/water." Store any food preps away from cupboards and leave only a few cans that you could split between them and you. That way, I have shared but not left them with the thought of coming back or telling others.

[tress]

I watch things like this and I really don't understand the issues. Everyone likes to talk like they are going to be big, bad, and heartless. When SHTF, your #1 need is going to be MANPOWER. When things go down, EVERYTHING gets harder. Lay on extra supplies for the people that come to you for help. In a short term situation, supplies can be replenished. In a long term situation, if your plan is to just hole up and ride it out, you've already planned to fail. Your goal should be to become sustainable as quickly as possible and the more people you have working towards that goal the better. You are going to need labor, skills, security, and probably most importantly, positive human interaction. NOBODY will survive ALONE!

My solution has been to simply prep extra. I have 100's of ready-made meal kits ready to pass out. Basically, rice, beans and water in vacuum sealed pouches. I also have a list of things that I know I will need help with on my homestead. Water collection, firewood, cooking, taking care of animals, planting, harvesting, preserving, processing animals, even simply washing clothes becomes a major task when the lights go out. In essence, I can help you with your immediate need, and yes, there is more, but if you want to come back for it, then tomorrow I need help with XYZ. I have the tools and the knowledge and if you want to come work with me, then together we can help the next person.

[r.f.pennington]

This is not an easy subject. Just isn't. Our way of handling this is to try our best to get friends and family to prepare...and letting them know that WE will not be a resource if and when SHTF. It is up to them, squarely on their backs, to begin to prepare now. If folks come knocking, they'll try to blame the prepared for their own demise. Funny how folks operate!

[mountainmonk]

My friends would only ask for help to deal with raiders. Choose your friends carefully.