Is there grief underneath your anger and affair rage?

When I was going through my own affair recovery journey, I was powerfully affected by the following quote: I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief. What do you think about this? Is there deep sadness and grief underneath your anger and affair rage?

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[ceeso]

Grieving the loss of the man I thought he was and the loss of trust.

[knoxcecilia]

Grieving the loss of the privacy of our relationship. The sense of intrusion and violation in what we had shared. The loss of trust and spontaneity of our intimate relationship. Grieving the loss of my best friend, confidante, lover and hero.

[mallorystewart]

I'm grieving the loss of faith in love. I was so naive about love, I thought love could always win over selfishness. Now I know that selfishness always comes first and love is never that perfect thing I thought. I think that, if this what love is, it's not that precious as I thought it was.

[lauriegani]

Grieving how it’s changed everything. Grieving I didn’t have a choice in that change. Grieving that he chose others so casually when I’ve given 30 years of my life to promote him. Grieving the person I could’ve been, loss of my hopes and dreams

[amolnar]

I definitely grieve the loss of the person I knew who was completely loyal and devoted to me. That person could never do what this person did. She’s gone forever.

[laurafowler]

The loss of of him the loss of yourself the loss of and the family

[marthaochoa]

OMG! It’s definitely true! There is grief underneath the anger for sure. I lived an infidelity a couple years ago and among all the anger that I felt what I felt the most was grief. Cause at the end of the day one no longer has the husband or the wife. So true.

[Betsy]

I came across that term early in my recovery. I was extremely angry at both the AP and my husband but I’m sure I was grieving the loss of what I thought we had. It’s been a tough journey but I feel like I’m getting there in my healing. Thinking about what my current situation and the current truth is has been one of the most helpful tactics for me.

[babaganouche]

I just came across that quote yesterday. I immediately cried because it felt like the truth.

[SteveEngineer]

Not so much grief, I would call it utter disappointment.