5 Things To Stop Bragging About

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shot & edited by Eric Lombart

produced by Reed Hedani

grip - Melissa Gasca, John Lee, Megan Pham

sound - John Lee

gfx by Bethany Radloff

[lukeburr]

Also, people who brag about mental illness and like 'how many they have' or 'how bad/ rare they are'. Such a weird flex and it always makes me super uncomfortable

[lydiachong]

The trauma one-upmanship really rubs me the wrong way, especially when it's used to invalidate other people's trauma.

[shadyskies]

If you brag about NOT bragging... is that practically bragging?

🤔🤔🤔

[chrys]

1. Exhaustion as a status symbol
2. Escaping your pain as a source of pride
3. Saying you're not like other women
4. Claiming successes that aren't your own to elevate your worth
5. Using your trauma as a way to feel superior to others

[lkhlsom]

can we please stop bragging about skipping meals? it rlly helps people with EDs when everyone talks about how they “haven’t eaten in 72 hours”

[smartins]

i am SO GLAD you mentioned the sleep one bc how little sleep you get is worn like a badge of honour like "i stayed up until fIVE AM last night studying" "that's impressive karen well guess what i stayed up until siX THIRTY and i had to get up at SIX TWENTY" like no pls sleep your brain is slowly shutting down

[KK-yjlb]

I read somewhere: there's no difference between drowning in a river and drowning in a ocean, both are terrible experiences and what matters is how you recover from it.

And the trauma thing just really reminded me of it :p

[alacatooo]

I have this term called being a “pity-bragger”... someone who brags about having a worse life than you too in order for you to be more sympathetic to them. Like:
“Oh my god I slept so little last night, like only 7 hours I’m so tired”
“Oh haha I slept 4 hours I’m so tired oh my god...”
Or like if you had homework and you rant about it and then your friend says “you think THATS bad? I have tutoring 9 hours every week and coaching 6 hours a week!”

[starcherry]

Every College Student needs to see this

[nellieb]

"If you brag about trauma, it's not trauma, it's a story."

The most truth I've heard today

[jenmallarapu]

sometimes, probably more often than not, "flaunting trauma" is a cry for help

[gleadervideos]

Although there is a lot of truth to these points, I feel that people who very often interpret behaviors as bragging are projecting. Sometimes people want to share information about their lives and their relations like humans do, and if you choose to assume that it's bragging, it might say more about what makes you feel insecure. Not to say that there doesn't exist toxic bragging behaviors.

[saraj]

"Cause if you flaunt your trauma it isn't trauma." 👏

[kahlil.alcala]

I don't even brag about overworking and being sleep deprived but I GOT ATTACKED

[melissafynn]

our interns at work bragging about how wasted they got at the weekend, saying to me, you know how it is.
me: i don't drink alcohol.
he: you missing out the past part in life!
me: you must have a really terrible life, when alcohol is the best thing in it.

[samanthadonjuan]

The no sleeping thing is SO common in college, I'm really sick of it, I try to sleep at least 6 hours, but the more the better, and it's like if you sleep, you're not cool.

[naomili]

Anna Akana is better than any self help book!

[imjasmine]

*Anna coming in with the TRUTH* You out here curing people's narcissism and depression all at once!

[athenadominguezcastillo]

The trauma one can sometimes be confused with not knowing how to talk about it and just kinda... Throwing it out like "HERE! NOW YOU KNOW! LET'S GET BACK TO NORMAL LIFE!".

[basttbot]

I'm guilty of so many of these, I need to re-examine my behaviour. Can't afford any form of therapy so, thank you Anna. Your videos make a difference.