Divorce Lawyer Perspective: Arranged or Loved Marriage

I am a Delhi based lawyer.

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[tejasca]

I'm waiting for that "all I can hear is don't marry" wala comment

[kashyapontour]

keeping families out of marriage is the only way for many to continue with a peaceful life!

[Morpheus_neo_trinity]

Families should act as mediators only when a relationship starts to turn sour. My aunt did a fantastic job when she got her son married. She doesn't interfere in my cousin's affairs. She lets him and his wife sort everything out on their own. But pays visit only thrice a month to check on them. Everyone is happy. In laws should follow this golden rule of preventing unnecessary involvement in kids familial affairs.

[sandeepdhanote]

Be it an arranged, love or any type of marriage, the institution has inherrent suffocation in it. That's why there is no separate HDA, section 13 of HMA proves my point

[seige]

The worst part is that in an arranged marriage, you're pretty much stuck due to familial pressure and conservative upbringing, even if you're not compatible with your partner.
Seeing this happening to my sister right now, she was stripped off her career, isolated in a place surrounded by idiots, has to bear with an extremely incompetent husband who doesn't take responsibility for ANYTHING, doesn't spend more than 3 hours awake at home so the communication is non existent, fuck he doesn't even earn nearly that much for that amount of time spent at work. If it were me, I'd have filed for divorce 10+ times by now, And yet I don't see her doing that ever.

[expeditingvineet]

In a relationship its all roses and sunshine. But when you get married, responsibilities kick in and people can't take it

[ST-jkdw]

It seems divorces also happen due to significant involvement of parents and siblings in the couples life .. they want to give constant advices, take sides, bad mouth about opposite family and intervene their decisions like careers, baby etc .... Often this leads to arguments between couples

[sukriti]

Arranged or love... leave it on the people... First, try to make the legal process of divorce more liberal for both husband and wife...so even if you choose the wrong partner, you should have legal support system to get out of the toxic relationship...

[lihd]

It is not boy "quoting" girl, it should be boy "courting" girl

[TheGeorgeous]

We need more paperwork, more rights and responsibilities mentioned and easier divorce settlements for marriages to have an appeal going forward

[deepondroid]

Marriage is a Learning institute NOT a Teaching Institute.

[coolships]

Some divorces could be avoided if people were truthful from the very beginning-be it love or arranged marriage. Issues like location, vocation, girl's desire to work later, expectations from each other etc. I know of some cases where the girls said upfront that they wouldn't cook or do household chores on a daily basis and the grooms' families were fine with it. Some very good matches broke at initial talk stage as one party wanted to live abroad and the other didn't. One party didn't want kids and married someone with similar thoughts. People parted on good terms if they didn't want the same things as the other. If relationships start with dishonesty they're not going to work.

[adityatomar]

Mostly love marriages fail because people try to 'love' because their age has come to 'marry'. Then their are people who marry because they are in love. There is huge difference between two and its the former ones which mostly end in compromise or divorce. As for latter one, trust me you wont even stay angry with your partner for an hour, let alone consider divorce.

[ajaykumar-veoq]

purpose of marriage= bring a child who will carry your DNA among 1.3 billion. That's the biggest headache of parents

Does anyone remember Einstein's grandparents and their contribution? An entire generation is forgotten after 100 years even if you are Sachin Tendulkar

[mewe]

"A person may stay at home because they get everything they need there. However, after marriage, they are expected to give rather than receive. If they are unwilling to take on this responsibility, it can lead to problems. Without a sense of responsibility, a relationship is unlikely to succeed."

[amanjyotijatta]

What kind of love this is?
What they were for last 10 years in 'relationship'?
Can't survive even 1 year
Never ever tried understand the real image of your partner in a decade and now it comes after marriage
Definitely zero understanding of life
Pure idiots

[trainyourmind]

At this time it really doesn’t matter whatever marriage is sir…. It’s all about the mindset, awareness, being legally aware and our legal remedies should work wahatever the case is rest it’s upto individual

[hasanafzal]

Very very important point. That's a lawyer with a heart. Such significant observations and lessons

[upshikagatlewar]

After marraige, it's the parental drama and toxic behavior of parents that ruins relationships. Keep them away or your relationship is doomed. I have not seen even 1 couple happy with both parent's till now. They very well choose their dominance over kid's happiness anyday but the child cannot choose their partner over parents. Please choose your partner, be away and be happy. Let them be sick and miserable which they will be anyway.

[arindamghosh]

The moment this generation will understand that marriage isn't a fairy tale & it's a pool of compromises & sacrifices the situation will get better but the laws are so stringent & anti-men that knowledgeable people taking advantage of that😢