How To Not Look Frumpy & Older Than You Are-Get Out of That Rut!!

Take this all with a grain of salt-and know that I love you no matter what you’re wearing!! I’ve personally broken every single one of these tips-it’s sometimes just helpful to hear them to get yourself out of a rut!!

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TIP #1
🛑 STOP WEARING SHORT FITTED CARDIGANS
Alternatives:

TIP #2
🛑 STOP WEARING ¾ LENGTH SLEEVES
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TIP #3
🛑 STOP WEARING BOXY TOPS (ESPECIALLY PAIRED WITH LOOSE FITTING BOTTOMS)

TIP #4
🛑 STOP WEARING CAPRI LENGTH PANTS

TIP #5
🛑 AVOID LARGE CHUNKY JEWELRY, ESPECIALLY IN SETS
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TIP #6
✅ WEAR AT LEAST A SMALL HEELED SHOE
(OR A POINTED TOE FLAT)

TIP #7
🛑 DON’T WEAR TINY PRINTS (ESPECIALLY FLORALS & TIE-DYE)

TIP #8
🛑 STOP GETTING YOUR COLORS READ-YOU ARE NOT A SEASON!

✅ TIP #9
UPDATE YOUR MAKEUP PRODUCTS

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[Greencastles]

Hi! I'm only 41, but definitely struggling to avoid the middle age frump & figure out how to transition into mature, stylish, flattering clothing choices. As soon as I turned 40 I became very aware of how nice it is to look good without dressing like a 25 year old, lol! I appreciate the efforts to continue being stylish as we age. I feel like our society has just started slowly abandoning efforts to look halfway put together & is just looking sloppy. My grandmother worked hard to look as put together as she could even into her 70's and while I didn't appreciate it as a kid, I do now! I think it's important to our psychological health to keep caring for our outer appearance to some degree, weather we decide to follow trends or not. It just keeps us feeling good, which will improve our attitudes about everything else, too. So great job on keeping up with that!

But, I have to say that the comments on this video are so overwhelmingly nasty! People getting all butt hurt & talking like a bunch of cranky, jealous teenagers! What's up with that!? We're all middle aged, we should be beyond that crap! If you don't like her video then go watch something else! Don't listen to that stuff Marnie!

To everyone complaining & being salty:
1: Please don't be nasty. If you don't agree with the ideas presented, that's ok. These are just some ideas for possible outfit choices. We may dig all the ideas, we may not. There's no need to loudly and rudely complain and insult the creator. We're too old for middle school behavior.
2: Geez, I have never seen so many people so desperate to cling to their dern cardigans and capris! My goodness! I agree that capris are an outdated style, though they work well for some. That's ok! She's just making a suggestion! And there are trendy, flattering ways to wear summer/ warm weather styles without it being capris. I get it, I don't look great in shorts either but if you're sensitive about your capris maybe you're not happy with how you dress & it's time to try out some other styles. If not, just own your love for them. Let's be honest with ourselves and own our own insecurities & struggles & fashion taste.

3: Yes, life creeps in and changes things. I care for a now invalid mom, work 50 hrs a week, & fatigue, bad food choices, & heath issues have caused my 5'7 frame to go from a trim 140 lbs to a bulky, poochy in weird places 220. I am not totally happy with how I look. I sure as heck don't look as good as I used to & am fringing on frumpy. Losing a bit of weight would help me look and feel better for sure. I'm the first to admit I need to watch my weight. No shame in us admitting this. And using excuses only keeps us from improving ourselves. We won't ever look like a beautiful, thin 20 year old, and that's ok! We'll look like the mature classy ladies we are! But even with this weight gain & body change, I can work on my figure/ health (even if it's only a little) and still find stylish, flattering clothes and so can you. Not all these presented styles will work for you, and that's ok. Find something that does. There's no reason to be salty.

4: If you don't like where you are or how you look, work on changing things. Even small changes can make big differences. You are not stuck, I promise! When we constantly look for ways to improve what we don't like we will start to feel better and more confident and will be less bothered by the opinions of others.

[cindytaylor]

Not giving up 3/4 length sleeves. Nothing makes a woman look older than sleeveless or short sleeves that show flabby upper arms and old skin.

[PCOH]

My humble opinion, after stumbling across this video, is that we, as women are our own worse enemies. As I age, I’m just grateful that I have been allowed to grow older.

[MooshkiJ]

The great thing about growing older is that you no longer care if you look frumpy, or any other way. Wear what makes you feel good!

[acildamasonzander]

I love wearing crisp 3/4 length sleeve blouses.

For me, rolled sleeves are difficult to keep looking neat.

[robindonnelly]

I’m about to turn 55 and I wear whatever I want. I live in Florida where it’s hotter than hell all year round and makeup melts down your face, so why bother? I don’t wear 3/4 of the things I have in my closet, including using designer handbags. Just throw on a Bila dress with the big floral prints, flip flops, and a crossbody and you’re off. Priorities change as you age. Instead of investing in designer high-end trends that someone says will be out in two months, I’ll spend my money on quality art supplies, travel experiences, and buy things that have more meaning to me, like say a big chunky bracelet with a turquoise stone. 😂 I personally love thrifting or buying resale for my clothes.

[joniarmel]

Four months ago someone took a picture of me and I screamed. I looked old and frumpy …well I I went to the gym, cut all carbs and worked hard . . After four months I lost weight, . Well bottom line .. I quit looking frumpy .. Now I can buy cuter clothes and feel amazing.

[hollybean]

“Most of us are just trying to get dressed in the morning and not look ridiculous.” Thank you.

[divasurfer]

Three-quarter sleeves are so popular because it accentuates the slimmest part of the woman’s body, which is their wrist. Plus it is a classy length.

[camillecloninger]

The best advice I can give....You do you. Please yourself and don't worry about what others think. Life is too short.

[riverwiccan]

3/4 inch sleeves hide the arm flappy flappy and I can still clean a spill or wash a dish. We don’t all have the same body. I wear a smile and clothes that is love. It increases my confidence.

[lindaharrison]

I like three quarter length sleeves and so do a lot of women ... they're cute and comfortable ... I just wear what I like and I don't care if it's in style or not

[itdttvy]

Totally disagree with you re sleeve length ! 3/4 sleeves are much more flattering than wrinkled looking attempts at rolling up full length sleeves - which never stay in place anyway ! To me a 3/4 sleeve makes arms look slimmer and showcases a narrow wrist.

[shirlysmilesmusic]

As a librarian, I cannot stop wearing cardigans. It's in my contract.😁

[therozrodriguez]

I love 3/4 sleeves. It hides my batty arms AND it’s not a long sleeve.

[xmagenta]

Life is way too short to not just wear what you feel comfy and happy in!

[carlafuqua]

Good tips. I disagree about the sleeves. When long sleeves end up rolled up, they look way frumpier than 3/4 sleeves. Plus, 3/4 sleeves show off nice forearms and jewelry.

[dw]

Many of us over 50 find ourselves dealing with serious arthritis issues and heels just aren't an option. I switched to chunky loafers and love them. I can get my arch supports in them too. Pair them with an ankle length pant and I think it looks youthful yet age appropriate.

[umiluv]

I think the biggest issue is that you don’t go based on body types. Not everyone can pull off the looks you note. I have a curvy figure and even though I’m a small a boxy cardigan will make me look frumpy and old.

It just really depends on your body type. You should note yours and then that way people know if they should watch based on your body type.

If you really want to get more ppl then include additional body types and the type of clothing.

You really can’t generalize. What you consider frumpy on you looks good on other body types.

[leslieinadress]

Okay this cracks me up because a “shacket” or a chunky cardigan or a cropped pant is totally frumpy. It’s just trendy frump.