Dark Night of the Soul (Stages, Purpose, & How to Get Through It)

In this video I discuss the Dark Night of the Soul, which is essentially a period in our life where we begin to lose many of the things we identify our sense-of-self with allowing the egoic self to begin to fall away. Oftentimes the Dark Night of the Soul is a very difficult period within one's healing journey, and it is important top be aware of the stages one will experience as they move through this aspect of their journey.

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[natashalegrange]

Sadly, most people think it only happens once... but it happens either continuously or for a long period of time

[nodancingpalmtrees]

One of the biggest things I learned through this experience is that resistance to this process is the cause of the suffering. Once you figure out that you NEED to feel everything (good, bad, and ugly) and that you need to let go and go through it, reintegration will begin. Thank you so much for your videos!

[annmariekantrowitz]

Been going through the dark night since my husband got sick and then suddenly passed away in 2021. Life as I knew it was over. My foundation gone. Dealing with beaucratic BS and financial issues ever since. Life is uncertain. Don't know whats going to happen to me and my son. Ive never prayed so much in my life, I meditate everyday. I know I'm going through a major transformation. I see signs all the time, especially repeating numbers. Its been the most difficult time of my life. And I hope I wont be going through it for years like some of the folks on these comments.

[deadby]

My man, thank you for mentioning the suicidal ideation. While in this flurry or emotions and confusion, I often allow my mind to tell me that this ends in my suicide, and it feels so incredibly real that I sit and shake and cry. This process is brutal, and unlike anything I’ve ever felt. With the guidance of so many people out there like yourself on YouTube I can see this has a beautiful ending.

[christinamorales]

I’m coming out of it after two plus years. I lost everything, my home, my job, money, my car, I had a crisis of faith where I questioned if God was real, my spiritual path shifted, my relationship to the divine shifted, my identity shifted and I had the death of my son to a drug overdose where he lost his battle to addiction, I cried out God and it was and is such painful time but at the same time there was so much beauty. Ya a modern medicine woman and step into my indigenous heritage and reclaimed my indigenous roots.

[reneepierce]

You have great videos.
I agree.
It is a sad reality though that abusive /neglectful parents usually bring this on. I’ve never heard of anyone with a “normal” childhood experiencing this because they grew up knowing their true self. Not blaming. Just an aspect thats rather angry that I even have to do this because other people for generations chose not to do the work. I am aligned with this. I realize it is more important for me to cultivate friendships that understand this process because only having friendships that don’t understand this has not been as fulfilling.

[Mandance]

Nearly 3 years into my second dark night. After the first one I just went back into my avoidant ways, this time I’m really sitting with it but it’s horrible and wish it could end soon

[nicoley]

7:20: I went through this stage while I was a teacher in the classroom. It was a wild experience and so upsetting at the time to feel like every image in fiction was a lie but even more that I had felt fulfilled as a teacher because I was reflecting my own traumas onto my students when I was focused on helping them.

[pkvyuie]

I got booted into my dark night of the soul the day my son was born into this world 3.5 years ago. I always say when they cut me open to get him out, they also cut me open spiritually. It was like my soul decided "We are a MOTHER now, it is time to shed this old version so we can do what we came here for" and it has been an intense, murky, wild, beautiful ride.

[JustinJohnson-sgsz]

I visited a friend today and felt this incredible heaviness. I left her apartment and started crying uncontrollably for nothing I could really put my finger on

[rainbowjules]

You've just described exactly what I've been going through for the past few months. Thanks so much for explaining the stages. At times I feel as if I'm going insane, and thanks to people like you, I'm beginning to trust that The Dark Night of the Soul is the dissolution of the ego. Namaste. 🙏

[theanonymoushelpline]

I’m a certified master life coach and when I conquer this whenever that may be, I’m gona help others get through this too. It’s hard shit getting through the day and if I can help someone else get through it that’s exactly what I’ll do with my life and my life’s purpose.

[susansteinborn]

THANK YOU!!! I am glad you mentioned about the suicide thoughts. Mine was very close. I was worried that I loss my mind, going crazy. My parents fought all the time. And from this I had been living with a split In myself, causing me to not feel whole. THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH!!! I hope you help tons of people! God bless you wilt love and light! Namaste

[VicSaidThat]

This is the best description of the dark night of the soul!! Thank you

[stellabandante]

Thank you for articulating this so clearly. I'm in it and ready to face it. It's very hard. Your observations are so clear, you are throwing out a life preserver. Thank you.

[kiralobo]

Carl Jung also left beautiful theory about it. My first dark night of the soul was 10 years ago and spiritual awakening... along the way I forgot about it and had a few more lovely events... but since summer 2020 my ass has been kicked so hard that I cannot ignore it anymore. Especially after having a fire in the middle of the night. I started with more psychological approach in November and now I am adding spiritual approach.
and I keep hearing Lobo in my head 🙄

[rebeccahall]

Yes I am in the stage of a hit of each but deep in the dark night. There’s days I feel good but days all I do is cry and just want to close my eyes and never wake up again. Purging big time. People have been leaving my life for two years now and recently quit smoking and canibas and having very bad withdrawals but I’m getting there, not eating much, can no longer eat junk or even meat. I just want to come out of this. Having three children with autism and adhd and bipolar doesn’t help me either, I also have adhd and bipolar. And my TF left me 8 weeks ago, my mother died three years ago, my son stopped taking to me, my grandkids are now with their father and haven’t seen them in over a year. This is a living nightmare, hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and feel like I’ve been going through this dark night of the soul slowly and now rapidly for 10-11 years now. I feel so helpless. I listen to so many meditations to help.

[nidhishree]

Physical symptoms includes twitching in body, hair fall, pimples all over the body, fast micturation, excessive sleep in initial stages, nails grow rapidly, Aftershocks during sleep.

[JalesaMonalisa]

I love that you broke it down in stages because I’ve came further than I thought I’m on stage 4 but I’ve sacrificed and started to embrace it. It’s a ride and I’m just waiting to reach my stop

[alinawazthaver]

I am in the 13th year of my dark night of the soul and it's painful and scary. I wish to come out someday. I don't know when. Thanks to videos and guides such as these, we know there's a way out to the other side. Thank you. :)