Mom Wants DAD to Pay Child Support - Kids Mainly live With DAD!

In this episode, we delve into a heated child support court case unfolding in Texas. Despite having split custody, a father finds himself shouldering the bulk of expenses, caring for his two kids for an extended period. With an income disparity—$35,000 against his ex-wife's $150,000—he seeks a change in child support arrangements, leading to a surprising outcome. Join the discussion as we dissect the intricacies of family court rulings and societal perceptions surrounding child support.

We also reflect on the experiences of growing up poor, exploring the challenges faced and the resilience cultivated through adversity. From meager resources to navigating social dynamics, we discuss the lasting impacts of financial struggles and the importance of empathy in understanding diverse backgrounds.

00:00 Intro
00:23 The Hearing
00:41 Comment Section: What are the expenses for raising a kid?
01:14 Hearing Continues
03:55 Comment Section: Is it common to pay non-custodial parent?
05:11 Hearing Continues
07:29 Our Viewer's Stories
08:28 Hearing Continues
10:59 Growing Up Poor
13:27 Thank you!
14:15 Silliness

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[TheBlackManInTheVillage]

I was In the military and my wife decided she "wanted to be free." Just left me with 2 young boys so she can have fun. I decided to get out of the military on a hardship and moved back to California to raise my 2 boys. I reached out to her and ask if she could send me $100 a month she said no. 3 years of not hearing from her after that had passed. Then out of the blue she decided to contact me and wanted to see the boys. I flew them to Virginia so she could see them. When my boys got back home my oldest boy just started telling it all. "Daddy mom is an RN like you and she works at the same hospital where you use to work. I said "oh really." The next day I went to child support, took my divorced papers, gave them her information and where she was working. 2 months later I got a call from her at 5am cursing because they where now sending me $1000 a month for child support.

[oldwoman]

My husband had full custody of his daughter and his ex took him to court several times for child support. Luckily the judge was not an idiot. When we got married, they had been divorced for a decade, she sued him for money and her reasoning was that I had sold MY home so SHE should get some of that money!

[trollya]

I grew up poor, homeless by myself at 15. Mother couldn't handle me and I couldn't handle her. Dad died at 6.
My mother worked 3 jobs my entire life. We reconnected and at 18 I moved back in. Her boyfriend bought me my first PC. Fast forward 30 years, VP of technology for a statewide non profit, 2 year degree. Lots of hard work and multiple weeks and months way over 40 hours a week. That first PC was the starter for my new life. It's amazing what little can be done to change a life.

[HOOSIERLOVER]

I didn't have parents. I played outside by myself. Food was scarce. Moral of the story is Life isn't fair. I now own my own house, my wife and I run our own business and our 4 children are all grown up.

[roxannduran]

I never met my dad, my mom raised me and my brother by herself, we were dirt poor and didn’t always have enough food, but she worked her butt off providing for us, she was an awesome woman ❤

[myowndrum]

I raised my 2 children alone after their father was killed by a drunk driver. I'll tell you. It wasn't always easy. I worked 2 full-time jobs for over 15 years so my kids could have a decent childhood although the loss of my husband and their dad was devastating. We sometimes went without but the love and humor were always there. It has come back to enrich my life in spades. Both of my kids are happily married and I have a wonderful DIL and SIL. And the best part? 4 grandchildren to spoil.

[KitsuneNarutoKun]

Mother is clearly doing lavish things with the kids to be the "favourite" parent. Shower them with money and cool things so they think she's the best. No, their father is the one who clearly gives them what they need. Loyalty, love and presence.

[artbrandon]

Two good friends of mine got together and started a family after I introduced them. He was previously married and had a daughter for which he paid child support. She had a daughter from a previous relationship. They fell in love and had another child together. Now, he works himself like a dog to provide for his new family and pay his child support to his other daughter but still had to ask the state for help. She decided to apply for food stamps for them. Because they have a child together, the state decided he had to pay MORE child support, for that child! It took going to court to prove that they were charging him more child support for the child THAT LIVES WITH THEM!?!

[charlespaine]

Even when the father is the primary care giver mothers seldom PAY child support.

[janetrasmason]

I had two sons and full custody, my ex was to have them every other weekend. He did that for two months and then stopped. I will say he never missed child support but by not taking them it meant my costs increased. I never spoke badly about him but children are not stupid. When my oldest was commuting to college he told me one night "Ma, there is no one in this world I respect more than you but please stop talking about dad as if I will ever have a good relationship with him. He has done nothing with or for me.". I know which of us will have visitors in the nursing home one day!

[USAFVeteran]

When my first husband and I divorced I asked my attorney if I could do something different. I grew up caught in between two parents that separated but never divorced. Money was everything they used against each other. When we went into court I had my attorney ask for $1.00 in child support and his full-time involvement in our child’s life or he could sign papers giving me full custody and consent to adopt if I ever met anyone. The judge gave my ex 48 hours to think about it. My ex signed the papers in less than one minute. This was done in the state of Washington. I never took a dime from him, five years after I divorced him I met a wonderful man who adopted my daughter and 40 years later we are still together. I would not change a thing.

[dragonlady]

Here’s what’s crazy money like child support always goes to the mother. 99% of the time if the father has custody they will not receive child support from the mother.

[deathscythehell]

My parents divorced when I was 6yrs old. (I'm 57 now) Mom worked 2 jobs and still ends wasn't meeting barely making 10k a year.Dad was a welder for the railroad making 50k a yr. after the divorce he hardly ever came around let alone give us any money. I know all too well about mayonnaise sandwiches and missed meal cramps.
This is the same reason I didn't get married or have my kids, (Isabella and Bishop) I was in my mid 30s. I had owned my own business, house and was financially stable before I considered bringing them into the world.
When you grow up poor it sticks with you all your life. You learn the value of a dollar and how to get the most out of it. But most of all you don't want to see your kids go through the same thing you did growing up.
I put both of my kids through college, (a forensic scientist and an engineer) living their own lives. I'm very proud of my kids mostly because they didn't turn out being self intitled brats. They know what hard work is and understand that patience and hard work pays off in the end. I'm a long way from those mayonnaise sandwiches I ate as a kid.

[dgotone]

As a kid. Food was scarce. There was a place that provided free lunches during the summer. They were horrible . The lunches consisted of a bologna sandwich, an orange, a juice box, and either a cookie or a box of raisins.Biting into a bologna sandwich was like chewing on water, but it was much better than nothing at all. When those lunches no longer was provided, all we could depend on was a small dinner. No breakfast. No lunches. Dinner was either noodles, white rice, pb&j, or chopped up hotdogs mixed with pork and beans. It got worse at one point. I was so hungry, I started to eat toothpaste, which wasn't easy on the stomach. I also remember sipping on grape flavored Robitussin. We made it through though once my mom became a nurse and we ate very well after that. To this day, I feel down when I hear someone say they are hungry and I help them out... true story

[alicerobb]

Whoever is the primary caregiver and has physical custody more than 50% of the time is the one who should be receiving child support.

[rex]

Any time you see Dad getting justice in Family Court, it's most likely:
* "Judge" Vonda B's show and
* It's fiction. That show "based on actual cases", but they're all actors.

[lancersbowchuckle]

I grew up poor. My parents had three kids. My older brother, younger sister, and myself. We grew a garden… a big one because if we didn’t we didn’t eat in the winter. My Dad worked two nods, and part timed with local farmers for foodstuffs. My mom worked from home part time making nicknacks, and part time at a local grocery store making fried chicken to sell as well as take care of us and the garden. We all worked the garden, and my brother and I helped Dad with the farmers. We had one car, and an old house with no central heat or air conditioning. We chopped firewood to heat in the winter, and hoped it wasn’t too hot in the summer. We used a neighbor’s chicken coop, and fried for a few animals. Chickens for eggs, goats for milk and meat. Once we even had two Bull caves we raised for the meat. It was hard work all year long, and there was little time or money for fun frill. Still I have a lot of happy memories about those days. Now I’m 48 years old, have four kids and a grandchild, bad knees, a bad hip, and yet still a good life with my wife… Maybe I was rich after all!?

[damocles]

Mom: “I pay for their private schooling.”
Dad: “They’re on a scholarship.”
Owner of Dental Firm: “I don’t need this liar working at my business, you’re fired!”

[kaidensmith]

The fact that she says that she pays for their education in a private school, only for the husband to rebuttle that they are on scholarship, really shows how invested she is in their lives

[cyriell]

"while i was getting a education he chased anything with legs" GIRL YOU ARE THE MOM IF THESE CHILDREN 😂