How To Move On From Unrequited Love

Unrequited love is having feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same about you (we've all been there). In this video I discuss the different levels of unrequited love, why it hurts so badly, why we get stuck in it, and how to let go. Hope it's helpful xoxo

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[codyryan]

If u crave an individual, and they show u through their actions that they r unavailable, one needs to look within to find out why u cling to a person who is less than what u truly deserve !

[megamoneyk]

Half the time after you fall out of love you realize the person was a fraud. You never loved them. You loved the fake self they put up in addition to the fantasy you made up about them.

[AuthorJanaeMarie]

I have anxious attachment style BUT I am working on that. Because I deserve better. That attachment style is cring worthy. You usually attract Narcissists or avoidant attachment styles.

[sabreenakhalick]

Gosh! You really are talented. If you're not a psychologist, please look into training to be one. You are better at advising people than any trained therapist or counselor. I love this channel. You're beautiful. Inside n out. X.

[PaperMario]

I was abused when I was young and grew up in an abusive household. I hate hearing people talking about codependents as if they are weak when the truth is, most of you could not handle what some of us have been through and survived. I now understand so much of my past relationships and how I relate to other people. I am super vigilant about things because I never had anyone be that way for me. I appreciate videos like yours that break down the underlying cause but never in a condescending way.

[Sophysplay]

Took me 10 years to get over unrequited love so this makes sense. I thought he was my TF, maybe he is, maybe he isn’t but right now I just want to love and focus on myself. Yes, idealizing and romanticizing these partners makes it worse and once you learn to stop this, it’s almost over.

[ethrealdivine]

*sigh* unfortunately my love is perpetually unrequited. I always give way more in relationships.

[teresataylor]

This woman is stunning - physically and intellectually. She is an absolute Light. I cant imagine what kind of foolish man who wouldn't want her.

[wowwee]

I have a fearful avoidant attachment. I'm fine at the beginning of dating for several months. Cool, not too attached, getting to know each other at a good pace, not afraid to leave early from red flags. Then I start to get closer to the person, commitment grows, promises are made, I express myself more, and start to feel "safe" with them. Then some months or years later the relationship ends. It's devastating because it makes me feel so unsafe because I don't know who or how to trust anymore.

[babytboo]

I think you know me better than I know myself😂

[rikkinoriega]

I can’t even tell you the amount of times I’ve been depressed/anxious or feeling lost bc of the subject matter of this video, and I’ll watch these videos and physically start to feel better, less depressed, and less anxious. Probably if not for these videos I wouldn’t be on the path of self love; and when I fall off I watch these videos and feel empowered again and not as hopeless. These videos have really pulled me out of dark places I’ve been in. I don’t know where I’d be without them. Thank you.

[ratjoker]

I don't know how to love myself. I'm a 24yo virgin, I never had a relationship (I didn't always try... but when I did, I always got rejected) and I don't know how to love myself. I have no charm nor ability to attract girls, because I don't know how to talk with people and have no social skills. I'm extremely shy, socially awkward, goofy and downright pathetic when it comes to attracting girls.
People make it as if it was the easiest thing in the world, but it's not and I never managed to do it.
I'm currently in love with a girl who doesn't love me back.
I'm in great pain, please help me. I can't take this anymore. I'm tired of being rejected and unloved. Tired of all this.

[MansSuperPower]

The most powerful thing that I’ve ever done was to accept all of it, that I had an “Anxious Preoccupied” attachment style and was attracted to women with “Dismissive Avoidant” attachment style and that I was the one pursuing and my love was always requited. I accept it all and I’ve found peace, joy, and I’m moving on. I spent years deluding myself thinking that one day my woman was going to love me back or I could only change and become a better man. 🤣😂🤣. Shit is crazy. I’ve found peace and I’ve let it go. I’ve been healing and my life is now looking so much brighter. Thank you. 🙏🏿

[blackbeanburger]

I’m a guy and I swear I almost cried on how real this video is... especially when it got to the part about inner turmoil and projecting your feelings as a way to mask those issues. It’s simply so true... it doesn’t get much more real than that. Thank you so much

[sshuteandrew]

Living this pain now. Broken up with 4 months ago by my avoidant ex 💔

[amarieimani]

Wow I really wish I could do a counseling session with you, because I feel so alone with all this trauma. Actually I just realized I could see a therapist wow.

[SamJRizzo]

Hey Nu, just wanted to say thank you. I was in an unrequited love relationship for 3 years with this woman. I told her early on how i felt but basically was her sounding board and therapist cause she was so depressed from things going on in her life. I lost myself into her and she became the center of my universe. Would go out of my way for her and “save her” from situations in her life. We talk on the phone every day and every Friday or Saturday we spend time together. Last weekend, she lied to me and was with someone else intimately and it hurt me. I poured my heart out to this woman so many times last Saturday night included over the the last three years and it wasn’t good enough in the end. Been told by so many people in my life that I’m better off without her. Since last weekend, she blocked me on her phone and wont talk to me. Guess i really did mean nothing to her in the end. Just feel lost and hurt. Your video help me see that i need to better myself and be happy with myself before loving and caring for someone else. Thank you!

[cerebrodelictivocarclubps]

This video wiped some tears off my face :'(

[gracious]

Omg. I definitely can relate to everything you're saying. I especially like the part where you said that the person has traits that u admire and you don't see yourself in a positive way, so thus putting them on a pedestal. He was outgoing and smart and attractive and I didn't see myself that way and I felt that he was too good for me, but other than being outgoing, I'm two out of the three, but growing up with a negative view of myself I couldn't see that. I usually don't reply to videos but because I'm trying to heal from this trauma, I had to say something. I put my ex on that pedestal and I'm ready to take him off. It makes me sad to think that I didnt love myself enough to let him go, 2 years ago. I'm still pining over him. I think because I'm an anxious attachment style, I gave him the power to use over me, so it should have been me to walk away not him, because He is an unavailable avoidant attachment. I was an option to him not a priority.Thanks for this message, it helps more than you know.

[kathishands]

Definitely abandonment issues here. Such a people pleaser. Need to overcome this for sure.