People can't see themselves

[shiro]

Pro tip: If you can remember that "one time" you did XYZ, it's almost certainly because it was highly unusual for you to do that.

If you spend all day everyday doing something, you don't feel the need to have examples at the ready because it just all blurs together. Or, it just feels easy and obvious to the point that you don't feel it's worthy of comment.

[ankaschannel]

They both matched their sweaters to their eye color

[sirbradfordofhousejones]

My entire family laughed at me when I said I was an isfp initially. I had done so much research and self-reflection. They weren’t wrong- I’m an esfp. NOTHING about me is introverted. I thought I was because I needed a few hours at night to actually rest for once in the damn day 😆

[Sharkuterie]

I get comments from extraverts that their first impression of me is that I’m super boring and a prude. Introverted types say they see me as fun and adventurous. Other people’s subjective opinions aren’t always “more accurate”, they just come from a different set of assumptions and comparisons that need to be taken into account just like my own.

[myykkoll]

I remember watching one of your videos 2 years ago stressing that people always think they're the opposite type & I thought " haha, yeah what idiots, I'm definitely an ISTP though " ... 2 years later i realise I'm an INFJ. I was so certain XD

[vbnrfys]

You two are doing a great job. Just by bringing out that topic of 'beware, this is a wrong but common pattern of percieving yourself' one can stop being that blind to his own bias. And 'this is what you need to notice instead' feels like having a personal mentor who is holding a piece of mirror in his hand - we just have to become ok with seeing a hideous monster in there :D Thanks a lot. ♥️

[thNebula]

"I don't know-I'm Making this up as I go."-Indiana Jones

[narcoleptichic]

😭 For the longest time, I thought I was an Infj with savior Fe, tribe over self. Then an infj, ni/ti. But after some DEEP introspection, turns out I'm an INFP, ne/si. I have mistaken my demon TE for Savior FE because I thought of myself as a NICE PERSON.

I assume what is a (savior Fi) inconvenience to me is an inconvenience to others. And the reaction to that is doing what (Demon Te) worked best for others.

[lauraelzey]

Thank you for being brutally honest. It’s the only way to change in my opinion.

[isabella]

Lmao, first time I learn about these cognitive functions, I was like "I'm definitely a savior Fi." But all of my family was like "what the fck!?", lol. They all see my Te... and I'm the only one who can see my Fi. I understand completely what they're saying here, and learnt it somewhat the hard way.

[Universal_Cymbol]

My very first typing session I ran into this. I had seen your videos before on this subject, so I could understand what was going on - but yes, you spend the whole time trying to prove to them 'what they are saying'. It was a very interesting experience. I also see it with friends who will claim they are a massive introvert. I point out how they literally end up starting conversations with everyone we meet. Restaurant, music store, etc. And he found the suggestion preposterous. So funny.

It's crazy to argue reality with someone. But I don't think this will get better any time soon. Not until you can get an EEG through neuroscience, which is lucky catching up quickly with typing. It will get there.

[SMTM]

While that may be the case for some people, you guys can't forget that your information source is also very much biased.

The people that pay you to type them probably tend to not be quite as sure of their type as they like to make you think, because otherwise why would they come to you and pay you?

[PhotoRubio]

As a self diagnosed INFP, I was unique.
As an OPS diagnosed ISTP, I am awesome!! : D < --- (demon Fe)

I was using functions as tools and burning myself and those around me out all the time! Focusing on "my Fi" yet burdening my tribe for their emotional input. Making it a point to have "new outlooks Ne" instead of using what I already knew would work. Now, I know when to focus on what I know and figured out and how it relates to those around me. It really pays to have an open mind and a pair of people willing to put good stuff into it!

[ValleyCat]

but also our memory is notoriously unreliable. and yeah, getting past cognitive dissonance and the dunning–kruger effect are probably fairly difficult to do.

[johnmcfadden]

Great channel! Back when the Navy used M&B as one component of leadership training. All facilitator had to be typed. It was part of Please understand me. I was type INTJ. So while the other traits made sense, Introvert seemed out of place. I ask my Shipmates, they agreed. So I asked the instructor, he explain introversion is how I recharged my batteries. Like I would prefer to spend my time on a golf course inside of party bus. I bought into for many years. Looking back, while I think the test was the best thing going at the time, it was lacking. The test didn't take into account I am around mostly dudes, 24 hours a day, 7days a week. So why wouldn't I want look for quiet in my free time. Why wouldn't I want that??? One quick note, I also administer that same test when I conducted Senior Enlisted Session. This one class was 25 Navy Chiefs that were the equivalent drill instructors. 24 of them were typed INTJ. Not one of them quiet. The joke in that class is "I'm not a hugger!" If you made it this far, don' t forget to tell someone you love them!

[ninat]

This OP process is a lot like going to the podiatrist for custom orthotics and then thinking that sticking them in your shoes will solve all your biomechanical problems quickly, undoing a lifetime of musculoskeletal adaptation. It's going to hurt.

[L.l.I.ia_N]

Yeah it's like I'm always saying how compassionate I am but in the and when I see people I run away from them and call them idiots. Yeah, hating people while convincing yourself having high Fe even though in reality you made up a reason to empathize because of your Si past experience, but you wanna run away because it threatens you to face nice job Ti

[bekalacock]

I thought I had high Fe for a long period in my life because I was shy and struggled to fit into crowds, thus feeling as though I had to change. But then I realised that I don't have Fe at all because if I look at daily patterns of mine, all I do is what I like and through my whole life I've been open and adamant about what I like. (This was sort of sad to realise because it's very selfish of me) So, I figured I was Fi dom. I also wanted to convince myself I was Si but recently realised that I am waaay too messy and more Ne. I am almost sure I am a decider since all I think about are people. When I watch movies and read books, I'm intrigued by the people and I've got a lot of celebrity crushes. I diagnosed myself as an INFP but I think I might still be wrong... I have been looking at myself and evaluating my actions for about a year, just to figure out my true type. I really hope I finally have it so I can be content. Another reason for why I typed myself with lead Fi is ever since I was little, I was always focused on my identity and was confused when other people didn't do or think the way I do... and I still am.

[PragmaticOptimist]

God could I be an inverted INFP, that is . . . ESTJ ???? BUT WITH
Ooooh

[HealthyPlanet]

Yeah, since most of us can’t see how we are as significant as a lizard and a potato, and many of we human animals can’t see the reality of soon and definitely going to be dead, gone and forgotten, how can we accurately see something as trivial as our personality?

~ a message from one version of an Infj