r/AITA My Wife is Exploiting Our Kids on YouTube

0:00 Intro
0:03 Sponsorship
1:13 No niece
4:37 Kicked out
8:54 Don't care
13:00 The bill
14:50 End of life

[rSlash]

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[breezy]

I'm so sick of "be the bigger person". The person being told that is usually already the bigger or better person, because they're not the ones behaving like an ahole. And the person saying it just doesn't want to deal with the actual ahole

[iridescentsolace]

Lindsey in the 2nd story is def jealous of OP for not working and esp if her husband makes so much and yet refuses to take care of her

[hipsterracoon]

Kids should not be posted on social media… kids cannot give informed consent.. if you cannot get fame without kids… FAME IS NOT FOR YOUS…

[jessicalee]

I cannot STAND mommy influencers. Some children born from about 2010 and later have become "accessories" of a sort. Like, they're good for showing off to complete strangers, or they're just props in momfluencers' little stage shows. Kids are people who have feelings and personalities of their own. They will eventually grow into adults who will resent their parent(s) for making them playact for strangers. OP is definitely NTA.

[madeline]

Story 3: "2 yes, 1 no" approach is relatively good, but in my opinion kids shouldn't be blasted on social media period. Yes, a post is fine to keep track of memories. But monetizing your children, especially when it's both parents that do this, make the kids' life a living hell. It's totally an invasion of privacy, inappropriate and puts the kids at risk.

[helenpaus]

Story 1: The whole "young and naive" argument is garbage. My TEN year old found the homophobic comments awful (and he's HALF her age). Definitely NTA. The niece is a terrible person.

[liemeaid]

20 is DEFINITELY old enough. I turned 21 last month but can say that bigotry isn’t something that can be excused at that age. It started when she was 14 and should’ve stopped then and there but no, her bigotry knows little bounds.

[somebody]

Why is it that people constantly expect the wronged party to "be the bigger person"?

[benjie]

If the kids are young enough to have temper tantrums, theyre too young to consent to being vlogged.

There was a teen whose mom was a youtuber with content revolving around being a mom. Kid ended up getting a hoodie they wore constantly, and even got their siblings (who eagerly wore them too) stating "i do not consent to being photographed" and virtually imploding the mom's channel.

[nioo]

saying she is "young and naive" at 20yo as an excuse for homophobia is insane. i remember arguing with my 5th grade math teacher because she was making very homophobic comments (don't remember the context). how can an 11 year old child be smarter and more mature than a grown woman? she is ridiculous

[myopinion]

story 2. rSlash misread the story. 'james' is not an AH, it was his mother, not him that blamed her. sounds like he did exactly what he should have done to not be an AH to OP.

[starchild]

Children's faces being on social media is EXTREMELY dangerous for so many reasons
There are too many creepy and terrible people that now have access to your kids faces
It's damaging to always have a camera in your face
That content is on the internet now, forever, in one way or another
I am 100% against people showing their kids in online public spaces
With family and friends is different but don't show them off to the internet

[Sanodi]

Third story, I'm honestly 1000% on OP's side. Not even including the current 8 Passengers nuclear fallout, putting your kids on YouTube like that is super sucky for the kids, *especially* if they're too young to consent. On top of that, instead of actually listening to her husband, she went behind his back and used the kids anyway and badmouths him? That's *exactly* the kind of person that shouldn't be making a channel like that. OP should download all the videos as evidence that she went behind his back on it and get ready to separate with the kids. No mother is better than an exploitative mother.

[JayeEllis]

The Bill: NTA - What kind of crazy, sexist, narcissistic behavior is that? Ugh! What a turn off. Can't say I'd want to be sleeping with someone who treated me like an ATM.

[ficialintelligence]

Third story. Divorce her. She explicitly ignored your boundaries. Then she -started a smear campaign- committed slander, when she didn't get what she wants. She obviously cares more about being an influencer than your kids' welfare. She is only going to get worse. Get out. Now. Before she does something to your kids, and _you're_ in jail for child endangerment.

[VicGeorgeK]

With all the weirdos on YouTube nowadays, I'd be more cautious about putting children on the camera for everyone to see and making sure you have the kids' permission to do so.

[d.phantomfan]

Last story: who is going around shaming OP for having cancer? Who has ever blame themselves for getting a disease they never wanted? There's more to this story, people don't say stuff like this for no reason and something going on that OP doesn't know.

[BeanManolo]

First one: I'm 25 myself, but since I was like 13 I already knew what OP's niece don't: being a homophobic douche means getting rightfully blasted for it. 20 is old enough to know that, and her mother is stupid in saying "she's young and naive". No, she's prejudiced and is getting what she deserves;

Second story: I don't get what OP's mom is on about on kicking everyone out. Lindsay was the one being a douchebag, neither James nor the kids deserve to have their vacation ruined because of Lindsay's stupidity. Also if her mother wants her to stay with James and the kids so much, she could very well pay for her own daughter's hotel room.

[hirohiroarikawa]

Man a wife that toxic expecting him to pay for everyone is disgusting I would have paid only for my food went home and started thinking about divorce