Modern Love & The Privilege of Partnership

She's back, yapping about love and privilege but what's new?? The world is burning and I'm trying to distract myself...join me won't you!

I know I said in previous videos that I didn't see the "point" of marriage, but turns out...I can see it a little bit!

When it comes to the plight of the lover in society there is a dignity given to those who can call themselves partnered versus those who remain on their own. In this video, I examine the perks that can come with being a partnered individual. Also, in Ohstephco fashion, I examine some of the negatives too.

I'm more than aware that my final video in the All About Love Series was EXTREMELY short...so here's one to make up for that.

Thanks for watching :)

0:00 Intro/All About Love Series Reflections
23:10 The Privilege of Partnership Discussion Begins

[jolie-brianawilliams]

I really prefer your long form content, we like to hear you talk; you’re a great storyteller

[osabhopeful]

"Sometimes raising your standards means you stand alone." - effortless bars by Steph!

[Tessyk]

A happy marriage is a SERIOUS privilege.✌🏾 Our dream wedding is next week and immediately my fiancé has requested to his insurance company that I and our unborn child be put as the beneficiary of his life insurance and many many other things. He paid for our wedding too. Its also lovely to be able to be with someone who makes you feel safe, loved and protected emotionally, physically and financially. I'm not going to pretend I'm not fortunate because I see what is happening on these streets and I'm so glad I have been delivered from these dating streets!!😭

[AngelineNectarine]

It's not just hanging out, it's coming home
It's not just being picked, it's partnership
It's not just sex, it's intimacy
It's not just orgasm, it's connection
It's not just kinks, it's exploration
It's not just validation, it's value
It's not just fantasies, it's memories
It's not just longing, it's love

These are thoughts I had last night while thinking about what I'm missing out on since I've never been in a relationship and I'm starting to accept I might never be.

[erinsymone]

Yep. When you are single, everything is wrong with you. Yet there are people with my same issues who are partnered.

[pikalee]

Marriage to a good partner is very much a privilege. I had a friend that lost her job due to layoffs and she didn't work for 6 months. She was applying to places and was questioning whether or not to take certain jobs due to the commute. My single self couldnt fathom being out of work for so long and being picky about certain prospects because I only have myself to rely on.

I had to remember she had the privilege to be out of work because her partner can support them both in the meantime.

At the same time, i have another friend that is married with kids and she is constantly tired and crying due to the overwhelming responsibilities of motherhood and dealing with a sickly child.

I have the privilege to sleep for however long I wish and do whatever i want without having to consider being responsible for anybody else but myself. Its definitely interesting watching my friends go through these different stages of life and it strengthens my resolve to ensure I vet a potential partner to ensure they're be good one.

[Shanice___Loves]

Exactly!! Being married has been THE BEST decision of my life. You don’t really know a soft life until a a man who loves you goes all in protecting, providing and praying over you. I’m blessed and it def a privilege And never I never thought about it in that way. I just say I’m blessed. But now I see it’s a privilege.

[DarthFurie]

You're right, it IS a privilege. Getting married has been one of the best things I've ever done for my personal and financial growth. Once I had a teammate I got motivated to PUSH like never before, so I am very pro-marriage. I didn't really know about all the benefits beforehand, but going through this journey has really opened my eyes. However I have also seen some friends flourish tremendously post-divorce, because they were married to people who were holding them back

[tamararodriguez]

To the "critics" this is why we can't Have Nice Things!!! If you are here, just enjoy the Content!!! This is Her Channel, let Steph share her stories the way she wants to Share and Stop analyzing and providing "feedback", she is not in community with you!!

[Ruby-krfh]

I think more people are slowly coming around to speak honestly about the challenges of being single. It's truly not easy.

[kiatalks]

Partnership is a privilege! I am old fashioned and I love gender roles and so does my husband. So, I don't pay bills and he doesn't cook. We love it!! It fits us, it's easy. I haven't paid a bill since 2019. I do a girls trip almost every year. We take vacation twice a year. I work when and if I want. I'm on his insurance and he contributes to my personal IRA as well. It is a privilege and I am grateful every day. My mother reminds me that I am blessed to have such a good partner. She went through ALOT with my dad, he was an alcoholic. She raised me to be a happy wife, however, we both know that the man you marry is going to have a huge impact on your life and some husbands are harder than others. The truth is, I live a very peaceful life because I married well.

[kiomastar]

“Trying to be a Samantha when you’re a Charlotte” I felt that deeply

[Gunngirl]

Some of these happy marriage comments are hard to read. But I’m happy for you guys. It’s really hard on the other side.

[kayabe]

One of the worst feelings and hardest things to recover from is building up a relationship for years and then having to start over from zero.

[afroaffirmation]

Steph, have you considered in person meet ups. brunches, events, experiences. I think this could be the perfect way to expand your brand and bring in other revenue streams. You have VERY loyal supporters many of whom share a deep affinity with the experiences you share, bring them together. Create REAL community, that's what the world needs right now.

[erinsymone]

Agree so much with missing out on healthy sexuality. I was never in hookup culture, so I’m still a virgin at 32. I honestly mourn not being able to explore that part of myself while I was young (I know I’m still young, but I hope people understand what I mean).

[Raetheforce]

People in relationships or those who have extensive relationship experience love saying "you aren't missing out on anything it's not all that". Okay, then break up with your partner!! We are all waiting!

[moonlightnovice]

As someone who has been single her whole life, I find it annoying when people tell me I’m not missing out. It’s so easy for you to say that when you have the experience. I honestly didn’t envision myself going through my formative years without a romantic partner. So yes, it hurts. It’s not a bad thing to crave love and companionship.

[fantasiazplatkami]

Wow, this Bridgerton scene section was deep. Exactly, when you are looking for love, you re expected to be trauma-free, happy, perfect, while people in relationships who have issues, are not so blamed for being imperfect.

[aford]

26:47 You are not lying. I will admit that as time has passed and I have sat with myself more, I realized that I have been able to break a lot of familial generational curses. I am the first woman in my (maternal side) family to be married after 5 generations and the first to have children while married where the children have the same father. My financial situation has also been significantly (in a wonderful way) impacted. I became the first homeowner in my family. I will also add that having a healthy relationship and a strong friendship is the foundation of our beautiful union. ❤ love your content Steph!