Simon Sinek: The Advice Young People NEED To Hear | E176

Simon Sinek is back and I couldn’t be more excited for you to hear this. His name is one of the most searched terms on YouTube and the author of books that have sold millions and millions of copies.

Topics:
0:00 Intro
01:43 What is your why?
14:17 Do you ever give up on someone?
19:44 Is mindset a privilege?
26:01 The impact of covid in the work place
37:03 Gen-z are the least resilience generation
57:19 Monogamy, struggling relationships
01:13:00 Most difficult conversations
01:17:01 Are men having unmet needs in a changing world?
01:28:30 Whats the best question I could ask you?
01:35:35 The last guest question

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[TheDiaryOfACEO]

Very insightful episode! Let me know what you all think! If you could also do me a massive favour and hit the like button that would be amazing, it helps this channel out massively 🙏

[_xanna]

As someone who comes from an abusive background, I agree that mindset is a privilege. My dad taught me to think in twisted ways and I had to undo that and learn how to think like a normal person as well as trying to fix my mental struggles as a result of that. Ive got my degree and other qualifications but I had so much more along my path than my peers had, and I saw them sail through it much more smoothly than me. I even had to learn how to be happy and what happiness was, and how to handle stress and how to build self esteem. Those are just the tip of the iceberg. The lessons were endless and I found myself confused constantly

[ljmotivateu]

When children watch their parent put their careers first, they lose in teaching the importance of family values. This has another problem in society at large.

[bluefish]

“The thing we give to the world is the thing we need the most.”
Oooooh that hit hard.
I am a protector from a manipulative and abusive childhood, and I’ve built myself around having peoples back, protecting them, and trying my best to communicate directly and honestly.

Having someone be honest with me, and protect me, is one of my deepest desires.
I want to be protected.

[tonysoprano]

There’s nothing wrong with only wanting to work 45 hrs a week and not wanting to be a CEO. As long as in those hours you do your job. And on the odd occasion you do your boss a favour. And your boss returns that favour. I’m sick of social media telling everyone that unless they run a business they will be miserable and worthless. Some people are not cut out to be leaders. Or even want to be. But If put to task. Can work very hard and produce great work.

[abeermahadi]

The unspoken emphasis on boundaries in this podcast 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Simon saying ‘it’s none of your business’ is teaching me how to be kind, yet firm.

[Sandboxlion]

I loventhe part that some folks are calling awkward. Because in the same podcast where the guest speaks about how essential it is to navigate boundaries with clarity and confidence, we watched him do it live. Unwavering, clear and nonviolent communication in action

[Riddierid]

''Hearing the words that are spoken to you is not listening. Listening is when the other person feels heard.'' nice one

[ratherbewrenching]

I love the part where Simon admits he has self doubt, like every human being, and then follows it up with "it's none of your business." Honest and direct.

[joshuagharis]

As someone in recovery, AA, the line we need the "help others" section 🙏 so true. When I struggle, it's always because I am not helping others, and thinking only selfishly

[mxinwei]

If you read Maslow's original paper (called "A theory of human motivation"), he never says that one need is preceded by the other. No need is more important than the other. He says that all of us need a bit of each, that everyone has their own threshold for each need to feel satisfied, and meeting each need to reach our thresholds is the driving force behind our motivations. The paper is not long. I highly recommend reading it!

[netteloveszebras]

I’m Gen Z, I promise you we don’t all believe in TikTok values 😅 I think a lot of the issues are partly tied to how young even the eldest gen z people are. I’m about to turn 26, and I fully acknowledge I still don’t know much about how to be a real grownup just yet. The people who are living through their TikTok lens are going to eventually reap the results of their distorted worldview, and they’ll pay the price. I just hope it doesn’t make too much of a mess along the way.

[AcestClass]

Gen Z here, straight A's in my masters (my 3rd post-secondary accreditation) and working a high value corporate job. Lots of great interpersonal points in this video, one thing I will say is that Gen Z is disillusioned from romanticizing hardship. I think a lot of older generations (outside of Millennials) forget that baby boomers and their kids also had things VERY easy for their time, and also received a lot of flack from the wartime generations for having things too easy. The older generations seem to have this pattern of "i struggled so you should too" because they were too afraid to push boundaries, often times it FEELS (which may not be the truth) like they push that resentment onto younger generations… for example: working from home (WFH). A lot of Gen Z AND Millennials like WFH but I've heard sentiments from my colleagues (all in their 40s) that it should end because "I had to go into work so you should too"… but why? We're advancing technology to the level wherein you don't have to be in office to do work, this makes it so i can be sick and work from home without having to take a week off or risk the health of my colleagues. But some people just don't like change, don't be the generation resistant to change… out with the old and in with the new, please. Because Gen Z is completely aligned with understanding that you don't have to fall in love with stress, it exists yes, but you don't have to let it define you.

[normaldean]

Simon Sinek is quite possibly my favourite guest you've had on of all time, at no disregard to other guests because you've had truly remarkable people on - but that speaks volumes to my views of Simon. I absolutely LOVED his last appearance a few months ago and this was also incredible. His was of explaining and breaking down questions is unmatched imo. Also, have to give credit to you too, Steven, as you're one of the best interviewers I have come across.

[ShyiaRobinson]

If there was a person I truly resonated with, it would be Simon Sinek. He is an empath, deep thinker, visionary and completely genuine. Listening to him reminds me of how much I need to speak out more bc more authenticity is needed in this space. Thank you Simon for your energy and knowledge that you’ve shared! ❤

also I love the diary of a CEO! I’m new here but you truly are an amazing interviewer/host and I’m excited for more content! 😊🎉

[aaussraa]

I loved how Simon Sinek was analysing everything and thinking out loud trying to see the made point. So nice to hear such an intelligent conversation ❤

[jenniferknippenberg]

Post covid, as a nurse and an empath, I isolate myself from my coworkers because all the do is gossip, complain, and tear others down. I did it to protect myself. Now, I am rarely included in anything. Because I am not part of the crowd. Interesting.

[SirGalaEd]

So many things i could comment on, but I will pick the biggest one for me. Mr. Sinek says " That is none of your business." He says it directly but without malice. Our interviewer fully accepted it. No probing, no contempt. Just "ok" That for me is huge. So often, and I learned this living in a foreign country, Americans will push u til they get an answer they agree with. For example, someone may ask you to join a group of friends out for a drink and you say No. Most of the time, they will push until you give an excuse they will accept. In the foreign country, you say No, and the group says, "ok" and they drop it. This was very respectful 🙏

[aliciascott]

I think the point about mindset being a privilege is super fascinating. I've come from a very privileged family - I'm from a middle class family in Australia, I always have the backup of moving back in with my parents and to have their financial support. But in so many areas of my life I struggle. And after listening to the podcast I've begun to consider that the mindset I was raised with may play a large part in that. I want to feel in control & empowered. But when considering the idea of living above or below the line, I often find myself falling into the victim mentality. Holding in my mind a disempowerment - when challenges arise my default is 'There's nothing else I can do.' And I think that comes down to the mindsets I was exposed to as a kid. My dad went around blaming everyone and everything around him for his anger management issues, and my mum just sat in quiet complacency, staying in the marriage and saying she is fulfilled by her friends so doesn't want to go through the stress of leaving my dad. This mentality has definitely carried on to me. And while I never went through physical abuse, and had the privileges of money and a private schooling, the mindsets I was exposed to when growing up weren't something that set me up with an idea of empowerment. Until I heard that comment about mindset being a privilege, it's never crossed my mind. It's a default setting in my brain that I have to constantly fight & educate myself via the internet on strategies to overcome it.

[Amiralig]

He highlights various key points throughout the conversation:

1. Developing Human Skills: Sinek stresses the importance of human skills in navigating the complexities of the modern world. These skills include active listening, providing and receiving feedback, and engaging in difficult conversations.

2. Fear as an Obstacle: Sinek suggests that fear is the underlying reason why honest conversations often elude us. He argues that developing human skills is particularly important in overcoming this fear.

3. Balancing Self-care and Helping Others: Sinek recognizes that while helping others can be positive, it can also lead to neglecting oneself. He emphasizes the role of early experiences in shaping patterns and behaviors and suggests that finding friends committed to self-care can facilitate positive change.

4. Team Approach to Helping Others: Sinek advocates for an accountable and responsible approach to helping others. He highlights the importance of listening as a crucial skill in understanding others' problems.

5. Mindset as a Universal Capability: Sinek asserts that mindset is not a privilege, but rather something each individual can control. He acknowledges that experiences and upbringing shape mindset but emphasizes that all individuals have the ability to shape their own mindset.

6. Empathy and Burnout at Work: Sinek discusses how empathy in the workplace can lead to burnout and stress for employees. He suggests creating safe spaces for venting outside of work and warns against comparing work cultures to idealized social media narratives.

7. Young People Quitting Jobs: Sinek notes that quitting jobs has become increasingly normalized, with little stigma attached to it. However, he expresses concern about a potentially high number of job changes in a short period of time, as employers value experience and resilience. He suggests that employers may need to take extra measures to ensure younger employees can cope with high-intensity work cultures.

8. Managing Expectations: Sinek emphasizes the importance of honesty in managing expectations in both personal and professional relationships. He suggests that companies should be transparent about their culture and work expectations, while individuals should be honest about their career aspirations and work-life balance needs.

9. Communication in Relationships: Sinek asserts that communication is key to successful relationships. He recommends active listening, providing more context, including the other person in decision-making, and being honest in difficult conversations.

10. Giving Feedback at Work: Sinek advises being straightforward and removing emotion when giving feedback at work. He suggests that while good news can be emotional, bad news should be conveyed in a dispassionate manner. Sinek believes that people appreciate honesty and directness.

11. Gender and Entrepreneurship: Sinek suggests that men may be more likely to succeed in entrepreneurship due to their experience with risk and rejection, which could be attributed to traditional gender roles and social interactions during their youth. He acknowledges that women may be less inclined to take risks and assert themselves in the workplace.

12. Honesty with Oneself: Sinek underscores the importance of being honest with oneself. He discusses what makes a good interview and emphasizes genuine curiosity and asking open-ended questions. Sinek acknowledges that self-doubt and insecurity are common but clarifies that vulnerability should not be conflated with broadcasting one's feelings.

13. Timing of Honesty in Conversations: Sinek suggests that being completely honest in the heat of the moment can lead to irrational conversations. He argues that honesty can be delayed to align with both rational and emotional states in a conversation.

14. Pricing and Emotional Connection: Sinek believes in keeping prices low to prioritize learning, even if a product may currently have bugs. He also mentions the potential for changing the name of his video subscription library to increase its perceived value. Sinek emphasizes using language to create an emotional connection with the audience.

In conclusion, Simon Sinek's interview with Stephen Bartlett delves into the importance of human skills, overcoming fear, self-care, teamwork, managing expectations, communication, feedback, gender dynamics, honesty, and emotional connection. Sinek's insights aim to help individuals navigate personal and professional relationships successfully in a complex and ever-changing world.