Why Some Couples Last, and Others Don't

I asked married couples of over 145+ years of marriage what their secrets to finding true love are...

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[Sprouht]

What is the SECRET to TRUE LOVE? Let's discuss👇

[jankarel]

My husband and I were happily married for over 50 years, which does give me some qualifications to speak on the subject of lasting marriages. I think most people are too selfish to be half of a loving, lasting marriage. Instead of wondering what they bring to the table themselves, all they think about is "what can this person do for Also, if you select a life partner on looks or what kind of job they have, you are building a house on quicksand. Their character is much more important, because all the externals change over time. Maybe character doesn't give you that immediate "in love" feeling like instant physical attraction does, but it creates a lasting love, and makes you proud to share your life with someone. If you think I'm wrong about this, come back and state your case when you have completed 50 happy years with someone.

[JackieTravels_]

Marrying the wrong person is the worst experience ever. Kudos to those with the courage to walk away.

[Mexicobeanpole]

My husband and I are happily married for 43 years. First marriage.
If I could be so bold as to give advice:
Marry someone that you truly like as a person. If you wake up one day and he’s broke or disfigured, does what’s inside him still make you feel warm?
Life will bring so many ups and downs.
But, one thing I can say with all honesty is he’s the best person I’ve ever met, and he brings out the best of me.

[dojocho]

My mom and dad were married 50 yrs Mom a immigrant from Italy ...beautiful, modeled for DIOR in the 1950's Father Irish educated business man. Madison ave. Mom was a virgin and only went on 2 dates prior to meeting my dad. Growing up was a dream, they never really argued...always were together there never was any curse words spoken ...ever in my house by anyone. They were faithful catholics...I couldn't eat at the dinner table unless I had a proper shirt on... I was blessed...I promised them I would always be for them when they were sick...I prayed to God to let me fulfill that promise. I was bedside for both of them when they took their last breaths...God is indeed Great.

[dnhacademic]

I’m fifty five and have been married 32 years but met when we were 19 and have been together ever since. I wouldn’t say love is physical attraction as much as mutual respect and trust. Allow the other person to continue to grow and expand. Marriage isn’t easy. It requires work. And, remember, if you have a loving partner - the grass on the other side of the fence isn’t greener - it’s just different grass. I always think about this. I’m not sure if it means anything to anyone else but it just reminds me of the value of what I have right in front of me.

[vitalman]

I can't tell how much I appreciate this channel and the work you do. The contrast to the 'mainstream' tiktok and instagram accounts is just staggering - and in this case, it's about real life, not the facade people want to create for the public. Your work is much, much appreciated.

[artsylovelylady]

I knew a couple who were married for 55 years. The man was 15 years older than his wife and they were an interracial couple of color. Some people were against their marriage but they outlasted the marriages of their critics.

[pnkbiankii]

Was married for 25 years. Gave it my best shot. After divorcing 20 years ago I have had my best life, with not a single day’s regret. Found the right person? Great. If not, don’t romanticize the status. Get out of it, the sooner the better and make the right life for you.

[matthewhardy]

Bravo. I was in the US Army and my first duty assignment was to Korea. I was befriended by a Korean man who showed me and some other soldiers - Korea. We would go out in a group together to restaurants and bars. On one outing, there was a pretty girl who joined us and that was in October. I had approached her several times and she finally agreed to date me in December and all of our dates were chaperoned (no kissing, hand holding, nothing). I asked her to marry me in February and we were married in May which was over 37 years ago.

[sakinastraveldiary]

I have been married for 8 years but I haven't been happily married for the entirety of these 8 years. I am learning with time that happiness is a choice within a marriage as much as it is outside a marriage.

[TroyQwert]

Socrates reportedly said, "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

[juliehock]

I’ve been married twice, the first marriage was made for the wrong reasons, I then had a 15year relationship with another chap who was too immature to really create an honest relationship, my second marriage was good but he passed away too soon, and now I’ve been in a relationship with a man with whom I dont live, and we’ve been together for 10+ years and I would say that this is my most successful relationship as we do really talk, open our hearts and at our ages (75 & 81) we just go with the flow. BTW - we met online!

[dj_bae]

I quit online dating apps years ago and I have no regrets. I go through spells of not meeting people, and I’ll go through spells of meeting a lot of people, but everyone I do meet has a certain specialness that I never felt with people I met online cause the sense of the universe placing us in the same place and the same time and allowed us to meet is quite something when you think about it.

[sharonhunter]

My Mom always spoke about my Dad like he was a knight in gleamingly shining armor, riding on a valiant horse. I was shocked as an adult when I realized my Dad was in fact very human. 😊

[ogwtlej]

This was an interesting segment. I grew up in an age of no internet. You had to approach women and get rejected. You had to get out of your comfort zone. But you found love in the most unexpected places. People need to get off their phones are socialize with strangers. There is also a lost art of conversation today. I remember when people would have three hour conversations and spend more time with each other. Today people are less social than before and seem to be more self-centered.

[teamariastyle]

Love this! I have been married before for the wrong reasons. Now Im with my husband that is the one. In my forties and happier than ever. And love is about sacrifice and resilience and trust. Its a decision and not butterflies like we have been told. Butterflies= run😬
Real love& commitment is calm nervous system and feeling of home❤

[maripaugonzalez]

I can see you have a beautiful soul through your eyes!! There's lots of life and good intentions in them :) Thanks for the meaningful content you provide and for giving people aged 50+ a chance to share their wisdom with all of us. More or more, it seems that we live in a world where older people are being forgotten and it's sad because we can learn a lot from them!

[rtgl]

Here's a big secret besides being compatible, you both have to WANT it. There will be time where you may feel uneasy or maybe unhappy but if you can both grow and help each other walk the path of life, you win. Want to make it work, want to share. When one person carries the load and desire it will eventually fail.

[QWNSWORDS]

I met my husband of 15yrs at the grocery store. I absolutely agree that it's great to meet people in real life.