Why Leaving Your Job Isn't Healing: Workplace Bullying

Why Leaving Your Job Isn't Healing: Workplace Bullying

Logen Cohen is a trauma informed therapist / coach and author and someone I follow on Tik Tok

Avoiding your triggers is not healing. Same is true and leaving a workplace bullying situation leaving is not healing. Leaving does not solve the problems. And if you do leave, I've been there I left one place thinking it was going to be just fine for the rest of my life going forward. It wasn't. Found the same situation show up in the new job a couple of years later. It may not be tomorrow. But the situation if it goes unresolved and you go untested, meaning you haven't done any internal work to understand what it is you could do differently, how it is that you could communicate better, what boundaries you need to tighten up. Those situations will continue to show up in the future.

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[jinodosen]

If nothing is done about it, as it should be done, I will leave.

[timepass]

You are right. The new employer don't give you a new brain to start fresh. Workplace bullying for prolonged period gives traumatic brain injury.

[andrearidgeway]

Staying in a workplace and getting bullied day after day is unhealthy. Leave if you can. The bullies don't change.

[tjc]

Staying in an abusive workplace is not healing either. Bringing it up to management doesn't do anything most of the time as either they're friends with mob or part of the mob.

[KantoCafe]

I think bullies target people who are better than them, and their minions in management support this. So the onlu thing you can do to fight it is to act and behave mediocre. If you can stomach that, by all means do so. Many do in order to sure

[datnohi]

Leaving has never worked for me, I get another job, and the same thing happens again. It's like a vicious cycle that I have had to deal with my whole life. Documenting and reporting don't seem to go anywhere, and sometimes it might make things worse, I have pay bills and provide just like these people at work, so now I just stay until they figure out a way to get me fired or I just can't take it anymore

[Narcolepsykid]

I cant belive employers let the ones whose in the wrong stay...

[kerrid]

I’m almost 50. I’ve had many jobs in my life and never have I been bullied until now. I am leaving because that’s the only way to end it.

[LiarsSweet]

You are right. I was so messed up from the first time. It has happened again. It’s worse the second time

[johnjamesjoseph]

What is not being considered in these situations is the behavioral health issues people have that make them bullies and mobbers.

[marysunshine]

My triggers? I have tried everything, they're the ones that are triggered when they see me

[canadianzs]

well said. thank you. this is absolutely true. the problem will continue to form in your life unless you truly learn

[andreabryan]

I have only had one workplace bully in my life and the person was known to be a difficult person. I left because I had a business that I was building and it was too draining to bother my mind with. I opted to spend that energy building my business.

[thepragmatist]

I agree with what you're saying here. Sometimes leaving is the answer, but many times it isn't because you'll just just encounter the same situation on down the road.

[Corina-dqmy]

If the bullying is severe, leave. Yes I have seen that before and I wish there was legislation.

[imorccUO]

Sometimes it is better to leave, especially if one is on the verge of doing something they will regret.

[MontanaKat]

I had to leave my job of 2 years. I was born with a disability. This former coworker was trying every way to get me fired. Even the point accusing me of stealing. In which, I never do. She told me, "How much longer you will be working here? This isn't a job. She made fun of me as I don't make enough money, she wanted to know my credit scores number, my best friend's disability was, and how much I make. She was spreading rumors about me and talked bad about me told a customer that I'm a b***. I complained and reported her to hr and they couldn't do anything about it. I got into trouble for complaining: She won't listen to me, she won't help me, etc. I told the bosses and they wouldn't listen to me. I do believe she owes me a big apology. After I left, she's moved on to more coworkers to get rid of.

[taracat]

I have a job to do...thats it..umnacceptable behavior, lies, etc, are not part of my job requirements..I will confront it, and or end it..and will not go quietly. I have reached a mountain top of indifference and intolerance to most all abuse.

[mosaic.owl.studios]

I am fighting it right now. It has been seven months of documenting, educating myself, seeking resources, not taking the bait, empowering the other victims, forming a solid alliance of coworkers who want to solve the problem, staying vigilant, lots of crying, making my husband sick of hearing about it, and so much more. I am so exhausted. But, there is now an official investigation taking place into this person's behavior, multiple people are being interviewed. And another person has their own documentation, too. I really think it's going to work out this time. I can't believe it. This has never happened before--I've always left. This time is different. Wish me luck. Interviews are happening right now.

[KK-eriu]

I brought up the issue, but that person was very good at playing politics and preteneded like i was sensative. He has BFs in the work place abd they pair and support each other. It is very difficult to stand for myself. This message feels hopeless. Not many cases can be sloved when you bring up. That is possible with normal people who is willing to listen to others.