How To Make A Genuine Apology

When you hurt someone or break their trust, a heartfelt apology can be the first step toward healing and rebuilding your relationship. However, simply saying "I'm sorry" or “Sorry but...” may not be enough.

As a couples therapist and husband of 40 years, I understand the importance of crafting a meaningful apology that demonstrates your genuine remorse, ownership of your actions, and desire to repair the damage caused.

In this video, I delve into the art of making a good apology, focusing on how to convey sincerity to restore trust in your relationship. Whether you're facing a disagreement, a breach of trust, or hurt feelings, I provide you with insights and practical tips to navigate the delicate process of apologizing to your partner.

Join me to explore the key elements of a successful apology and how to choose the right words to effectively communicate your regret and commitment to change.

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[AnnStern-sl]

I agree that this information is golden! Relationships are a dance. You have a very open and realistic way of teaching this Harmony, Disharmony, Repair Cycle. Many Thanks

[seattledramatherapy]

This is so to the point and valuable. My life improved one hundred percent when I learned to do this several years ago. I’m not perfect at it because no one is but I’m so much happier. And I also do this with myself because as a woman I let myself down a lot in favor of others and that integrity with myself is also important. Especially with that critic in my head that knows all the ways to escalate and reduce me to a screw up. We have a relationship now ! And we partner up. 😄

[vectorair]

I love that you’re doing these videos Terry! This information is gold! 🙌

[alexandersteinfort]

This is timely and helpful and I'm going to share with my partner. What is hard for me, however is that I have relationship anxiety and ROCD so I get stuck on the negative, have catastrophic thinking and relive the other moments when my partner wasn't so great, and can quickly jump to character judgments. when very stressed And to be fair, because of his own baggage he can get defensive, and sometimes rightly so! I'm not always so great, either. But I was encouraged to hear that it's the repair after the fight that can strengthen the relationship, that the fight won't necessarily weaken it.

[susanpenn]

Terry, such great stuff. Repair...so important to move beyond the polarity and idealizations of relationship and 'love."

[SalonLeChene]

This is right on. If only my husband were willing to do this.

[JaimiBrooks]

You're the best Terry. What a useful break down of an apology. Sharing with my community.

[clairebowen]

Thanks for such clarity around the skills we all need to practice. Your training is golden.

[kristine]

It is nice you invite us to make our comments known. I do not take this invitation for granted. It shows strength from your part and I appreciate that. The invitation becomes a connection and nourishes my belief in the fact that the advice you give works.

[mvilvfp]

So helpful, straight forward, easy to understand Thank you

[jessicahutwelker]

Thank you for this valuable wisdom! I appreciate how you speak in words that anyone can understand. This makes total sense, and I hope to see more!

[lisanovak]

Thank you Terry. Love your book “ The new rules of Marriage”. Learned this from your books and now your videos are great reminders. ❤

[HopeWay-rq]

Brilliant, sounds so simple, not always easy😂for some couples that are enmeshed in the angry cycle

[JoshuaJayChristie]

You are an absolute saint! Relationships are better in this world because of you.

[DarrenElliottToronto]

This is a great resource for clients! Thank you!

[daphneboyer]

Excellent advice and an easily workable strategy. Or so it seems at this moment!

[michaelleader]

Let's try "Hey, I messed up and I'm sorry. I will try harder not to do that again, "

[stellamiranda]

Thanks for your valuable advice. This helps unite families and this is what we want.❤

[sospareja]

Excellent! Simple, profound, actionable..

[benevalete]

Why should I be in service of the other and make him happy when he is making me unhappy everytime I do something that nourishes me, to have the energy to hold the space for both???? Naaaa, there is no win win, I can do nothing right in his eyes, he has no respect at all, just wanting me to do what he finds accurate. No i m not his extention. Sorry. Good advice for couples where giving and taking seems quite in balance going through this circles. But if somebody judges me always wrong, well so I am the wrong person for this person anyway, thats my belief meanwhile.There are borders.