5 Trans Girl Mistakes

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[Flubbadon]

I dress like I’m either casting spells or about to perform the greatest heist of all time

[sophiakovaleva]

I'm 34, I transitioned between the ages of 22 and 25, and the only things I regret are: (1) not doing it earlier, and (2) worrying too much about being cringe and/or unattractive and/or not passing. I started by doing my best to dress "normally", and only as I grew more confident in the feeling that I'm entitled to my gender no matter what, and I don't need to prove myself to others to deserve it, I started actually experimenting with fashion and allowing myself to dress however I want. I'm not worried about looking weird or stereotypical because there's nothing intrinsically bad about being a trans woman, and therefore there's nothing bad about matching some trans stereotypes. If anything, I'll sometimes wear a stereotypical "baby trans e-girl" outfit on purpose out of solidarity with younger trans women, and I'll try to reclaim outdated terms like "transsexual" or "SRS" out of solidarity with older trans women. We shouldn't be dividing ourselves by trying to be "not like other trans girls" in a futile quest to gain the approval of transphobes; instead, we should be uniting to fight them in a broad coalition

[MCArt]

dressing like a librarian is slay and nothing will change my mind on this

[mtt]

Im gonna wear all the gothic and emo clothing, AND NOBODY CAN STOP ME

[vogonp]

I'm not Trans, but keep on getting content like this suggested to me. I'm not the intended audience, but just wanted to thank you for making content like this. It probably helps a lot of people.

[Shakes_Bear]

To add to the last point made (which is good advice).

Medical self advocacy is critical. It is a very common experience to be given the minimum baseline care or worse. Do not tolerate any medical professional using or deadname or wrong pronouns. The ones who do not correct themselves are far more likely to be the person to neglect your care or cause harm.

It really sucks, but you have to be your own advocate at all times.
I say this as someone who has experienced much discrimination and even a violent hate crime under professional medical care.
It sucks, but don't let some jerk get you killed.

[evierivka]

I am the lame 30 something trans-labarian look . I don't think it's cringe. I just think it's comfy

[QALibrary]

What is wrong with dressing like a librarian? I am a librarian!

[WholesomeDungareeWearer]

I found my fashion 3-4 years into transition and got bullied out of it by "more experienced" trans and cis folk who said I wouldn't pass or was being too slutty and "asking for it" with what I wore. I was 19 at the time, it's not relevant but I just think it's insane how my culture tries to control literal teens with fear. Just over 5 years later and I've rediscovered the clothing I love and I can say that there is no compromise to wearing what you like, it'll feel like something is missing until you let yourself *be* yourself.

Also I get that my country is infanous for r* culture and apologist attitudes but you have to be yourself above all else, otherwise what's the point. Just keep yourself safe at the same time.

[notdancooper]

I love historical fashion so dressing my age isn't really an option, I dress like I don't know what a television is lol

[traxdagamer]

I argue that not dressing your age is not a mistake, it is simply a step in the process. I think calling it a mistake is judgemental, both of your past self and others.
Embrace your transition, it is a time to experiment and experience new things about yourself. Wear that short skirt, and spin like the world is watching.

[dynastylobster]

1:20 im sorry but im 22 i will dress like an adorable pink sparkle if i want

[slantedframes]

I think one thing to be careful of, especially if you have ocd is not falling down the stairs”trans enough” rabbit hole. I have responsibility/harm and probably cis ocd and my imp constantly tells me I’m not really trans and am just a confused non-conforming person, and it sucks.

[bwthb]

im so glad that in one of these videos ED's are finally recognized! one thing that forced me into my transition was my family noticing my behaviors and my rapid weight loss. its horrible and im still in recovery months later. slowly im recognizing what im doing is wrong but then other days i have "brainworms" and feel horrible. it definitely sends you in a spiral so im so glad that you finally spread the word.

[Leona-o_o]

Behing a Gothic = " Dressing my age ?:D I just put black stuff on and Pass XD "

[andreja]

i’m 26 and idk if i “dress my age or not” I think i do but I also have my fair share of miniskirts and frills and lace and pink etc that i’m sure people think makes me look younger than i am but I kind of embrace it bc when i was in hs and college i was dressing a LOT older than I was and people assumed i was in my late 20’s when I was like 17. So if Im dressing too young now, then so be it. As long as I’m feeling pretty then i like it 😊

[RocketDescends]

Maybe the mistake is giving a fuck what others think and just wear what makes us feel good.

[Mariooo]

I'd add a big 6. which is... to allow yourself to have fun in your transition! To also allow yourself to be cringe. No one gives a shit and in 10 years, no one will even remember that one thing you did that you were convinced would make you look bad. It's also a good advice for life in general. I certainly didn't have fun for a good chunk of it, thinking that I needed to do this surgery or attain a certain passing before doing x activity. That mindset surely robbed me of many opportunities, connections and the likes. Life's short and you certainly can't go back in time, so just... do your best, folks!!

I started my transition in 2019, and it's only in recent months I realized it wasn't necessary to spend so much of that time hiding, doomscrolling after certain milestones didn't go well (initial name change refusal etc) and other stuff. On the other side, it's difficult to navigate these times when you're deep in it. This is why it's important to be kinder to ourselves and to continuously and actively seek out support because having a group of people you can lean on can make a difference.

[RiseLikeAFenix]

I can safely say that I’ve never had a pink phase, I’m slowly collecting 60s style clothes and absolutely LOVE the color heather gray now.

[MalakaiAbyss]

I've been wearing dark clothing since I was 10yrs old, been into Metal since I was 13, been metal/goth since late Early High School - when I transitioned, my style didn't really change, I just got more and better options and avenues to display my style 😜

Top tier fashion advice: everything goes with black, *especially black* 😏