12 Tips for Helping Someone with Abandonment Anxiety | CBT Relationship Counseling

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Video by Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on integrative behavioral health approaches including counseling techniques and skills for improving mental health and reducing mental illness.

CHAPTERS:
00:00 Being in a Relationship with Someone Who has Abandoned Anxiety
00:20 Objectives
00:46 Abandonment Mnemonic SCARED CHAMPS
01:32 Splitting
04:30 Clinging
07:40 Anxiety
09:10 Rejection hypersensitivity
10:50 Envy / Jealousy
13:18 Dysregulation
16:42 Controlling / Manipulation
18:13 Hypervigilant
20:01 Attaching too Quickly
21:51 Mind reading / Conclusion Jumping
24:33 Projecting
25:08 Suspicious
28:46 Support the Channel
29:04 Summary

[DocSnipes]

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[jenmorris]

I watched this video as the person with abandonment anxiety. It helped me realize a few things about myself, so thank you! Now my anxiety is soooo triggered about telling my boyfriend that this video may help him/us in our relationship. Like, if he watches it, he’s definitely gonna run for the hills!! 😢

[MissFlintU]

I now know I have abandonment issues. Everything she said rings true to me, and it actually makes me sad even though I know I have a lot of work to do on myself.

[Blynn_]

This was a well done video. I’m struggling with the abandonment issues and I hate stressing my partner out.

[edgreen]

Nice connection between personality and attachment style. I see bpd and fearful avoidant attachment in some clients. Draining energetically idealized then devalued but wait until the client is secure enough to address the splitting. Clinging or avoiding people.

[anamaria]

a simple thing for me to remember:whenever my significant other doesn't care as much as I needed, God will and His Love is for free
and yes there are always potentially better partners than me all around, bless them

[TheBeamingSoul]

You just described my wife exactly. Mind opening video. I didn’t know about this before.

[CynthiaSchoenbauer]

i realize that I have been living with subconscious power struggles with my father that are always going on and on in my head. He did not allow me my free will and took away everything I loved to punish me for not taking care of him and having him first on my mind, even as a very small child. I learned early that everything I did was supposed to be for him. Thank you, Dr. Snipes. You are like the attachment figure that comes to free me with awareness of what is going on and helps me to establish my independence from him in all ways.

[enlightenedjade]

Thank you for this video. I needed this today. My narc ex left me for someone else after I gave birth to his son, and I found out he’d been seeing her 3 months. Since then, he has made constant attempts to hoover and breadcrumb me. It’s been horrendous, when I’m weak I’m reverse hoover myself back in. He will make out he wants me back for a week, then ghost me. The final straw came last week when he ruined a rare break for me, he contacted me continually while I was on my break, and really led me to believe he wanted me back. The moment I was home he ghosted me again. I’m now a week no contact. It’s tough but these videos are a godsend! 🙏

[temi]

A friend that I have had in the past, but that I had to break connection with, did that very fast clinging stuff when I just barely knew them fifteen minutes. I thought at that time that they were just being friendly but maybe the next week or soon after, I thought " Wow, this connection isn't going at a speed that is healthy when getting to know somebody. Within two weeks they wanted to hang out most every weekend and shared where they lived, where they worked, what kind of job they had and more. I don't share things that fast at all . In fact I share much slower!! So I did not see this person as having anxiety attachment issue . But listening to Doctor Snipes, I understand now about the makeup of that person.

[DocSnipes]

If you are in a relationship with someone with abandonment anxiety, what symptom of theirs do you struggle with most, and what strategy helps you cope?

[jenniferraybaud]

This gave me wonderful insight into friends I love. Thank you, Doc!

[lungandfoot]

This is such good, encouraging information.

[Tish.H]

So informative and accurate!! Thank you so much for this breakdown!

[mooninaquarius]

Thanks for all your brilliant work. This helped me understand that the person I was dating is too exhausting for me. I won’t be able to do all this forever; it’s too much. Thank you!

[jackiechild]

Wow this was really interesting! I got a lot from this!! Thank you!! ❤️🙏

[vyommamehta]

ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR WORK ♥️🙏 UNDERSTAND MYSELF SO MUCH BETTER BECAUSE OF YOU♥️🙏

[cshortridge]

I say dysregulation feels like I have a sharknado inside of me. 😬😬 And that's no lie. It can last for days too. Hopefully not. I'm better these days. Thanks for your work Doc Snipez. ❤️❤️

[DanielleBraiden]

Wow if someone actually put all these things in place, wouldn't they be a super amazing human.

[Jennifer-dinl]

Thanks. I just had a guy i care about deeply tell me he has this and this helped me learn how to make him feel safe. Also helped me learn why he was reacting so strange to my compliments. I keep telling how smart and handsome he is and he gets very quiet and strange. He said its because he get suspicious its fake what im saying or i want something. When all i want is to make him understand how i see him.