Mormon Clothing Modesty Opinions | 3 Mormons

3 Mormons discuss modesty in clothing and how Mormons are encouraged to dress. Can Mormons wear swimming suits? Can Mormons wear bikinis?

Check out Ian, Shelley, and Kwaku, stars of the hit new YouTube show “3 Mormons” discuss Mormon modesty and share opinions and insight on what it really means to be modest in today’s world!

The 3 Mormons dive into the hot topic of Modesty and its place in the many different aspects of life. All 3 give their take on swimsuits and immodest clothing and what men and women should and should not wear during certain activities.

Shouldn’t your testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ affect how you dress everywhere you go and in everything you do? Shelley sure thinks so! She believes that Latter-day prophets have outlined what it means to be modest in everyday living and that our testimony and living the gospel should reflect what we wear.

Ian believes that modesty is and should ultimately be your intent. For example, he says that when people go to the beach, they should go to enjoy the beach and not show off their bodies. When dressing for different activities, people should do so with the right intent.

Kwaku says internal modesty is the script, and physical modesty is the television show. The script helps affect what the show is and what you’re going to see. It all comes down to what you truly believe internally will show by what you wear.

These three have many different opinions on the subject of Mormon modesty and they stand by those opinions in this hilarious video. What is your stance on Mormon modesty? Do you agree with Ian, Shelley, or Kwaku? Comment below and tell us your thoughts!

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[KandisG]

It's not my responsibility as a woman to be worried about the thoughts of men. Have you ever thought of a man in the same way? I highly doubt it. That women should dress a certain way 'for men' a highly sexist and brainwashed ideal. I wear what is comfortable. If a man can't control his thoughts that's his issue to deal with. If he is distracted, then he needs to learn self-control. Teach men to take captive every thought and stop blaming women for their short comings.

[wearetheland]

This is one more aspect that is completely wrong with the church. Everyone is up in arms about the exact specifications of what clothing they should wear instead of an actual relationship with God. If our value and worthiness are determined by trivial things like this then that is not a God I want to worship. Stop judging others for what they wear and see what's on the inside. Also, stop blaming girls for the way they dress because "guys can't help but have immodest thoughts." And that's coming from a guy.

[izzieluv]

I really like what Ian was saying about intention. To me that means if someone did go to the beach to look at others, and the others there were trying their best to be modest, they are being modest, it's the other person who is being immodest.

[madelynburgener]

I agree with the guy on the left. What you wear doesn’t say anything about if you are a good person or not

[CantStopWinning]

I agree with Shelley. Modesty in both external and internal forms are rare in the church.

[sammiprice]

shelley makes me so upset sometimes! as a mormon, i will wear a bikini and i believe i'm still following christ and he still loves me!

[jonathanminor]

The gay frustration in this video is so strong I can smell it

[sammycasper]

I completely agree with the guys. As a girl who has lived in Utah her entire life and been raised in the church, it has been something that drives me crazy about how judgmental and hypocritical many females are about modesty. I have been raised by parents who encouraged me to choose clothing purely by what I was comfortable in not by what others expected me to wear. So, I have grown up wearing shorter shorts and tank tops (all within reason and in ways that I feel appropriately covered still) most of my life because it’s something I’m comfortable in. My intentions have never been to show off my body or gain male attention. It has been to be comfortable in the blazing Utah summer heat. Those clothing choices have no effect on my internal modesty so why should it matter? Especially when we get to swimsuits. I mean I personally don’t feel comfortable in bikinis but I often am envious of the confidence I see in other women that do wear bikinis. In so many ways it seems that body confidence is destroyed by church standards because they are modesty standards created to “help” men control their thoughts and urges when in reality that should be their own job to do that not a girls job. We should be allowed to have body confidence just like men do yet we’re not because we’re encouraged to cover up all the time. I get that we should dress appropriately and not reveal certain areas of our body but at what point is the line crossed between control and self respect? I think self respect and self opinion should be a bigger reason that we choose to dress however it is that a woman may choose to dress and not because the higher ups of the church tell them they have to because really if you think about it it’s just old men that weren’t necessarily taught to respect women as independent individuals. I love the gospel and I have a strong testimony of it and of Christ’s love for us and all that Heavenly Father and his Son have done for us and our salvation but this is one area of the church I have always struggled with. If we look at for strength of youth, there is nothing that says what young men can’t wear they are literally just given very vague guidelines whereas women have exact items of clothing we are told we can and cannot wear which I think also comes back to the double standards. Idk that you guys will ever read this and I kinda just needed to rant on it but anyway yeah. I would be curious to hear more of y’all’s thoughts in regards to this.

[helpmewastemytime]

You guys ever worry that the modesty debate just becomes a platform where people can judge and objectify women in an acceptable manner?

Meaning, it doesn't really matter if you want to see more skin or less -- you're still focused on flesh.

It's sad but whenever civilians (not church leaders, usually) talk about modesty it tends to come with a high dose of slut shaming. Intended or not, it just sounds like another lecture on what women should wear to be sensitive to the vulnerable and sex-crazed males that surround them (which ultimately discredits both genders).

[ElizaBradshaw]

I'm conflicted because I want to live modestly, but I define it a little differently. I view modesty in not just how you dress, but how you act and speak, and no one in church focuses on that.

It's all about arbitrary measurements and double standards that don't fit every single person.

I believe no one should view modesty as a measurement to judge others. People have different views on what is modest and what is not. In some african cultures, showing your ankles is extremely immodest, but going topless is completely acceptable. We no longer live under the law of moses, so people are free agents who interpret principles slightly differently.

I think the for strength of youth is a good guide for Mormons, but even then, nuances occur. What about exercising, swimming, breastfeeding? Overall I think it's important to worry about yourself and not comment about others. It's insulting and not our business what others wear.

In my opinion genitals should always be covered. The only other major difference between men and women is chests.

Other than that, the standard should be the same. Stomachs and shoulders are no less scandalous on a women than a man, so I don't understand why women are shamed for showing their stomachs when men also have stomachs. That double stabdard has never logically sat right with me.

When it comes to breastfeeding, I think women should not be shamed. Like swimming, breastfeeding requires a slight change in standards, and no women should be told she's being disgusting or immodest. She is just trying to feed her baby. What's immodest about that? Once again, just my opinion.

[shadcook]

Interesting insight from March 2011 New Era, "The dilemma comes when people want pictures or measurements or definitions of exactly what is OK to wear. Since fashions change from place to place and time to time, this is not possible." While some general standards have been set, it's important to recognize that the importance of modesty comes from honoring and protecting our bodies, not from trying to define an appropriate code. Good first video, though. Excited to see others!

[fionashaffer]

Shelley, I completely agree with you! Our testimonies should DEFINITELY and COMPLETELY effect our choice in, not only, swimwear, but all clothing.

[tarahicks]

I’m fundamental Baptist and we have a strict dress code. This is away a girl to swim and have fun outside then show off everything God gave her. There is no reason for young girls or women to be half naked. Period. We are supposed to be guarding the hearts of men and as they should want to guard our hearts as women. We need to keep each other pure, even in our minds.

[bettrinatruitt]

We do not have to go swimming in public. We can deny ourselves in order that we can be holy in ALL manner of conversation...doing righteousness at all times.

[MonicaMooreSmith]

Kwaku! I love this! Keep up the great work.

[itsHeatherKay]

The girl Shelly is right. Modesty is hottest..y. We cover our bodies to honor what God blessed us with. We say thank you to God by showing respect for ourselves and each other by treating the bodies He gave us with the utmost respect.

[WarrenGrannis]

I think intent matters. There's a huge difference between "I'm wearing this outfit because it's appropriate for the activity I'm doing right now, " versus "I'm going to put this outfit on now and wear it all day in the off chance I'll finally get a chance to do that activity."
More to the point, modesty isn't a dress code. Boiling modesty down to "clothes we wear or don't wear" completely overlooks the fact that we can be immodest in behavior, in the things we say, in the way interact with others. Kim Kardashian could wear clothes from my mom's closet, no one would think she was suddenly modest.

[bobbijogrunewald]

My opinion on beach wear is - when choosing a swimsuit, are we making more excuses to wear less or to wear more? There are plenty of swimsuits that cover more, and are flattering. It's not as though we have no options. So in deciding what to wear, I err on the side of keeping my body to myself and not on display more than necessary

[heatherh]

For people who ARE NOT Mormon, did you catch why the two men have different opinions from the woman? Because young women from ages 12-17 go through the Young Women's Program. I loved it when I was apart of it, but when I left I realized that it's the reason I felt so much shame and had a hard time getting truly close to any of my girlfriends, let alone friends with boys. The shame is isolating, and I really didn't notice this wasn't normal till I left. This is where these young women are taught the hight of their existence is making babies and working at home and shame from expressing a sexual thought, even saying that sex may one day be a fun thing is shameful to say. And when you're in the church, that is normal. And you can see it on her face.

[kenziebenson]

I'm kind of with Ian on this one... Sorry Shelley ;) Love you! And did anyone else laugh out loud when Kwaku said two post its and a sugar packet?? WHA?! Hahahah!