Strange Thing That Kills His Attraction And Pushes Him Away, EVEN If He's Into You

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[juney]

These men need to worry more about what's killing my attraction. Life's too short for games

[EveningTV]

It is especially challenging if they have a personality disorder and are mirroring your values. When I married my ex I thought our values were totally in line, but he turned out to be a total stranger and a nightmare.

[breezydaisies]

What's below the surface?
What is after the chemistry?

Shared values?
Blend able lifestyles?
Emotional maturity?

Don't change who you are or your lifestyle to be what he wants, especially if it's not part of your values.

Read '8 dates'

* Build a foundation of communication.
* Lead by healthy example.
* Establish your Standards and boundaries.
* Train him to be a better boyfriend by sharing who you really are.
* Learn who he is.

Are you compatible?

[kimfrederick]

Jonathon you're absolutely correct women do a lot of the adjusting of their lifestyles to make the relationships work. If you start a relationship as friends you build a solid foundation and can gradually progress your relationship to lovers.

[anng]

The old saying "fools rush in" applies for online dating particularly.

[julietcrowson]

Chemistry is only part of a relationship - so true.
Trouble is that a large number of men judge women on sexual 'attractiveness', youth, income, ability to cook, clean the house, be independent etc -
when women are so often expected to turn a blind eye to so many of men's faults, because we're expected to be grateful that he's not violent at home.
women who fancy men are exploited by online dating and most women don't realise it. Intelligent men are more openminded about relationships and accepting of how a natural woman is. Men and women want the same things love, acceptance, support, conversation but many men still seem to want traditional relationships based on outdated roles, where women are expected to wear indecent clothes revealing too much flesh and men remain warm and secure, covered up.

[ancoisnaude]

Communicationand trust and unselfish is very important in a relationship, who agree

[cheryljones]

Wow, you sure are right about online dating being meeting "total strangers"... 😮 When I was much younger, I would be interested in guys I knew of from being in school with them, so I had the opportunity to see them & also "observe" them, to decide if I was really interested in getting to know them better... You can't do that with online dating!

[loryjones]

"The reason he pulls away [mainly]...is because he sees no compatibility, as well as no shared values and blended lifestyles." That, right there. Thank you for this. Funny thing is, when I was ending the relationship, he admitted we weren't compatible and agreed with my reasons for ending it...but the next day, he was furious with me for making that final decision.

[RRthee]

I just bought How to be an Adult in Relationships. Non-violent Communication will follow.
You’re such a breath of fresh air. Thank you.

[ABRASILERA]

Most men have no conceptualisation of the conversations and choices required to actually cultivate a healthy intimate relationship that benefits not only him and his ignorance

[marisasmith]

Love the shirt and mug!!!
The person I’m currently with makes me want to be a better communicator. If something bothers me, I try to say it or talk about in a loving way…just open and honest in a non accusatory way. I’ve found that he in turn opens up and we end up having a better understanding of one another. I believe this is the emotional maturity that you are referring to. And it feels great!!!!

[sunkissedbydrksknhypergamy]

Thank you...

I just sat, Amen after crying and asking my God what to do and you popped up and you were used as an answer, a catalyst, and a blessing.
Thank, Conner's dad for being willing to learn and share along the way ☺️

John 5:28, 29
Psalms 37:29
Revelations 21:3, 4

😘🥰

[sherrieaustin]

I agree with everything that you're saying. I think it is important, like you said, to either heal yourself before a new relationship or while you're in it. Also in our age group, I'm 49 years old, we were not taught emotional maturity in dating because our parents didn't really date. Plus I believe the reason why people stayed married 30, 40 and 50 years it's because women especially were not able to work or make a income sufficient enough to support herself and her children so they just stayed in the relationship whether they were happy or not.

[halah.]

I love what you said: "the way to a man's heart requires a woman to open a man's heart". And that is such a cool mug!

[LisaGemini]

Since the pandemic, most people aren't even saying hello and talking to me. Everyone's on their guard in public. It breaks my heart. I'm taking a complete break from dating because I'm at a loss about how to meet a smart man with a sense of humor. I don't care that much about looks, I want a man who respects me. That seems super difficult to find these days; most singles are self-absorbed.

[apprisedbeauty]

I read and took notes on your book and nonviolent communication and I am working through the Hoffman process (that’s a lot of homework and it’s important to maybe take a vacation week and buckle down on it lol). I can honestly say holding your comfort level and being consistent with your message to the outside world makes a huge difference in your love life.

[maidenmarian]

You really have a gift for explaining such essential pieces of information about humans and the pieces of their lives that they try to calibrate just to be together.
Really great material!!! You make it seem hopeful that two people could at least explore the possibility!
Some people seem to give up before they have explored anything about each other.

[nickysmith]

Thank you! This was very helpful. Your list of components that make relationships work are right on. As a baby boomer, I have lived in the lalaland of romantic fantasy for too long!

[marevagodfrey]

Really like it when you are quieter and less boisterous...easier to hear the great content. Thanks for this other side of you.