Are 12 Step Programs Essential in Codependency Recovery?

Are 12 Step Programs Essential in Codependency Recovery?

Find out why 12 step programs are essential in codependency recovery. When you are looking for help with codependency, it can be a daunting. Not everyone can afford therapy but there are other options for healing yourself in codependent relationships. Learn the value of 12 step programs for codependency like Al-Anon and CODA.

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0:00 Introduction
0:01 12 STEP PROGRAMS IN CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY
0:50 THERAPY ISN'T ENOUGH FOR CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY
1:56 RECOVERY IS UNLEARNING NEGATIVE PATTERNS AND FOCUSING ON SELF-CARE
2:27 AL-ANON AND CODA ARE 12 STEP PROGRAMS FOR CODEPENDENCY
3:09 12 STEP PROGRAMS PROVIDE A DETAILED ROADMAP
4:17 DON'T TACKLE CODEPENDENCY IN ISOLATION
4:43 YOU GET YOUR OWN SPONSOR
6:00 THERE ARE NO STRICT GUIDELINES TO FOLLOW
7:35 RECOVERY IS AN IMPERFECT PROCESS
8:06 YOU CAN FIND MEETINGS ANYWHERE
9:52 SHARE OUR PROBLEMS AND OUR WINS!
10:34 EVERY MEETING HAS A DIFFERENT FLAVOR

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Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management, specialist. She’s been featured in The Daily Positive, BossMom, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, and Your Tango just to name a few. Her relationship recovery helps people go from relationships that don’t serve them, to learning how to trust themselves and create mutually satisfying connections that work. Michelle loves creating online products and courses on relationship skills, codependency recovery, anger management, conflict resolution, self-esteem, and self-trust.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I agree Codependency effects every single area of my life....

[jameswarda]

This is such an important video. Nicely describes the programs, how they help, and how they fit with other healing work. Michelle also answers the top-of-mind questions that a lot of people may not feel comfortable asking when they're new to one of these programs. As always, she also explains things in a clear, relatable and human way.

[sweepstakesluvr]

I'm super grateful for you and the information you share. Thank you for being you. Thank you for being part of my journey. S.K.

[codependentmillennial]

I completely agree with you. Especially on the fact that weekly therapy will do absolutely nothing to make a dent in true codependency. It is a disease and the suggestion that weekly therapy will do the trick is harmful. I think we all do need to be talking more about how regular 12 step involvement is just not negotiable.

[Tellthemiamback]

Thanks so much . Your platform is so resourceful. <3

[carolinenorman]

When we concentrate on our recovery in the twelve steps program the Higher power irons out our issues.we dont need to believe in god to do a twelve step program we just need to believe in a power greater than our self.thats your higher power

[soothemysoul]

There is only one CODA meeting in my town of almost 300, 000 people. I attended for 6 months and found the group to be very closed to new people even ignoring new comers. After seeing people leaving because they’re not welcome into a closed group I left also. I got nothing out of being around people who wanted to keep the group small for their own comfort. I saw it as highly dysfunctional and toxic. Not all groups are this way or have to be this way. It just so happens to be the only meeting in town and evidently it’s only for certain people approved by the group. Otherwise they won’t speak to anyone outside the core group.
Online meetings are an option to find healthy groups to participate in if you also have extremely limited options for meetings.

[Lena-zotl]

Thanks for posting this! Do you also recommend the ACA program?

[mopem_]

Hey❤. Where can I get a free mentor and coaching?

[Mezzie]

Coda emphasizes a relationship with a power greater than yourself or higher power that that no where does it say not to have one or embark on any spirituality?

[Jannietime]

In my extensive experience, CODA is full of unrecovered and very ill people. Good luck finding anyone who has what you want. I think Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families is a much better choice for healing codependency. I found Al-Anon to not be very deep into healing the inner child.

[wendylock]

We don’t have anything like that in the part of the uk where I live, I feel codependent on my daughter or my son but they’ve flown the nest so basically I have no one else so I have abandonment issues as well, I feel so scared and weak and shake so I’m getting that I don’t feel strong enough to heave the hous e

[sandbar]

You do NOT "GET" A SPONSOR IN CODA. Many people don't want to be a sponsor because they're tired of helping other people and they only want to help themselves and they're told not to go out and help other people too much. I was told that in a Coda meeting about 2 years ago. I put my name on a list and no one ever called me. Not every group has people pushing people to be a sponsor

[RoadRunnergarage]

I was attending a local CODA group for several Unfortunately it disbanded due to lack of attendance. .

[ANU-pzbx]

Plz provide me link about 12 steps program

[SawII]

No legs lady was going to this because she couldn’t recognize the enabling in her life. I saw it within two interactions. That’s why I used her.

[Smiler]

Well least no on can accuse me of being Co dependant. Its just me and the Internet.

[sandbar]

Step one talks about recognizing God in a higher power how can you do Coda meetings or any 12-step meeting if you don't even do the first step because I will rip every single higher power word out of the blue book I will just say nope higher power delete that God delete that higher power God Jesus prayer delete all those words if I did that what would be left in the Blue Book? What would be left in that big blue book? I'm talking about both the AA the big book and the blue book The Blue CoDA book I'm talking about both. What would be left if I ripped out every single word that said higher power pray prayer go to your higher power and pray and God. What would be left? The only thing that would be left is go to yourself ask your friends or ask yourself these questions and trust yourself and trust your friends and trust your family. But Coda and 12 steps is based on trusting God it's based on trusting some power outside of ourselves it is not based on trusting ourselves. And there's a problem there with AA because according to AA you cannot trust yourself because you have a disease and you cannot control the alcohol. So I can understand why atheists will not want to go to AA or any 12-step meeting because it does not make sense if you can't control yourself because you have a disease how can you trust yourself if you're an atheist you don't believe in a god

[sandbar]

6:15 rip the word God or higher power out of the big book & every step
So sick of the sky daddy bs. Oh I need to pray. Well I must pray to myself since God & I are one.

[sandbar]

So my God is me. God & I are one. So all the steps with the word GOD I'm it means I turn to myself for the answers. Not to some sky daddy or sky mommy bs. Why is this power a power "greater than us"
Maybe it's a power WITHIN US
or a power we don't understand yet.
Why must it be a HE & THIS GOD has to be OUTSIDE OF US that sounds like a bunch of Christian Jesus ba to me