Help! I’m 27, Married, 2 Kids and VERY UNHAPPY!

Help! I’m 27, Married, 2 Kids and VERY UNHAPPY!
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[jameslastname]

The grass is only greener on the side of the fence that you tend to and care for.

[bdon]

I threw my wonderful marriage away because I was dealing with the trauma of losing my mother. Take his advice, because man I regret my decision.

[sadatumohamed]

I’m literally crying right now because I feel just like this woman.

[yaallen]

Grieve the lost of the orginal picture stay with the husband and work on you. Trust a husband like that is rare and your marriage will be better. EXPERIENCE!!!! BEEN MARRIED 14 YEARS went throught the same exact thing.

[dburd]

Married at 19 now married 44 yrs, love is a choice not a feeling! I was blessed to have a couple who were married 60 yrs tell me how they made it “we never feel out of love at the same time”. That exciting feeling fades and if you need that you’re doomed to bounce from man to man.

[SilverGirlAu]

This is great advice... so often we look for a solution outside of ourselves- when the answer really is to dig deep & do the work on ourselves...

[helenhilton]

About 30 years ago, I was morbidly unhappy because I was not married and no man (no “RIGHT” man) was showing any interest in me. I made a decision that I would stop being unhappy with my single status and surrender it to the Lord. I had come to the realization that if I was unhappy as a single woman, I would be unhappy as a married woman, because I would take the unhappiness into the marriage with me! That’s similar to what Dr. John is saying to this young woman. If she doesn’t deal with the grief, she’ll take it with her wherever she goes.
I am now 60 and still unmarried, but very content with my single life!

[jenv]

Decide to fall in love with him and make the life you want together. In ten years, he will be the best friend you’ve ever had and you will be thankful for his solid dependability. It’s worth making it work.

[mrsdv]

Many times we think that the "grass will be greener on the other side", but in time we realize that the problem was the glass we were looking through. We need to find contentment within our lives and the blessings we have in them. Because we become desensitized to our own existence sometimes and it isn't until something terrible changes our perspective, that we realize what we had and how much we loved it. I bet if something happened to her child or her husband, her whole view of her world would change. I don't say this from a negative space, she's allowed to grieve and her feelings are valid. But a new perspective might challenge the permanency of those feelings in her life.

[maryrom]

I think it is awesome that she humbled herself and reached out for help.

[musicneutral]

This woman is entering real adulthood, aging and realizing she's missed on all the fun. She's going through some serious life crisis. wish her good luck because she's going to need it.

[GenK]

She should get off of Facebook and Instagram and stop comparing herself to others. Everyone has struggles that we have to work with, most of us all have traumas and unresolved issues and sometimes its a constant pestering in your head, that need to change. Understand that everyone goes through that and try to work it out with your husband, if not for him, for sake of your kids. Too many broken homes are what is causing societies current meltdown.

[shortandlongterminvesting]

John is my man! I’m so glad he joined the Ramsey network

[asadb]

lady's husband was a true man when he decided to stick around with the girl he knocks up in high school. that's true love and commitment. guys in high school will say anything to get laid and then ghost. but not this guy. and despite it all he mans up and is in it for the long haul.

lady just needs a drive in life outside family like a career or business. no need to break up the home. specially if the guy respects and loves the woman.

[lizguzman]

I'm 21 && Married this is such a helpful & great Advice 💯

[rebeccaoprea]

I can relate to this message . We go through different stages of grief at different points in our lives . Especially when it doesn’t look like we thought it would look like.

[josejr.garcia]

You’ve got to be happy with who you are and where you are in life. You can’t rely on people and achievements to make you happy.

[CynthiaOvv]

Great advice! People truly believe they are "miserable" because of the situation when really the problem is within themselves. No situation is going to fix you until you fix yourself. I struggled hard when I became a stay at home mom, got counseling and im glad I didn't give up.

[liah]

I'm surprised he didn't mention anything about post partum depression. It could play a big part on no motivation and no desire. Sometimes something as simple as changing the contraceptive method she's using can help loads. Been there done that.

[unhealingwithsandy]

Key word here is grieve. No matter what sort of logical case one makes staying, it's the deep emotions that have not been dealt with that will ultimately wreck havoc if not confronted.